[rainbow8]

I want this to be fun OR serious.
I would set up tours of my house for interested clients after they earned enough "trust points" with me!

Well...

Serious: I would honor the relationship by honoring the boundaries of the relationship. So much of my healing has come from the vast amount of love and caring T has shown me while holding the boundaries for me. That immense feeling of SAFE has allowed me to go places I never thought I would go.

Fun: I would bring long-term clients little presents on their birthdays

[sittingatwatersedge]

I think I might try to do something about that darned idea of the one hour session - do, say, 75 or 90 minutes. Some people just need more time to wade out into the deep.

[Omers]

I would be open to "field trips" for clients who want to do things/meet outside the office on occasion.

[rainbow8]

SAWE: Some Ts do give 90 minutes, like mine. I pay a little more, though. If I had to credit my doing better in this therapy than any other, I'd have to say, second to T's personality is the 90 minute session. You're right about it. Maybe more Ts would do it if people ask for it?

Fun:i would so my best to keep up on my mind reading skills, lol

Serious: let the client know that i would work with them to repair the ruptures (not add to the distress)

[rainbow8]

I forgot to say a serious idea, though the house tour is half serious!

I like Omers suggestion of allowing clients to go places other than having therapy in the office. Sessions by a lake would be so calming for me. I would ask my clients where they would like to meet, maybe once a month go on such an outing, if they think it's something they would want.

[ladyjrnlist]

Be open to sharing more about me.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

SAWE: Some Ts do give 90 minutes, like mine. Maybe more Ts would do it if people ask for it?

Rainbow - maybe more would but not mine - I have asked, & she says she can't.

if I were a T, I'd try to figure out some way to take notes without the client seeing. Even after all this time I get when i see her do it.

[sailboat]

I would be very clear about my boundaries at the beginning so my clients won't be wondering all the time whether I would give a hug for example, or if they could call me or text me or email me or whatever.

I would give myself a 10 minutes break between each client so I have time to breathe, write down important notes about the last client and get ready for the next one.

[3velniai]

... quit the job and go do something else

Seriously, I don't really understand how anyone can be so patient and caring and do all the things that a good T does. But obviously there are ppl who can. I guess that's why I'm not a T

[SpiritRunner]

I would.....want to be like my T! Seriously.....I would want to be open, transparent, warm like she is, direct and firm but with a gentle spirit also, and clear with boundaries but with flex-room in them. What would I do differently....I would make my touch policy clear at the beginning and I would touch more in session (if and only if it seemed right under the circumstances and only with explicitly given permission, of course!)
but truly, if I were a T, I would probably love too much, be too drawn into the client's emotions sometimes.....I can see that. so it's definitely good that I'm not a T!

[granite1]

still kind of trying to figure out what T is all about and how to use it so i have no idea what i would do
i guess explaine about and modle how therapy is used and can be helpfull.but wouldnt know how to do that lol

[with or without you]

I honestly can't even fantasize about being a T. I have social phobia so a career like this would be an absolute no-go. I would never be able to handle so many emotional, vulnerable people...not in a million years. Just being honest

[mightaswelllive]

If I were a T I would never have babies.

Really though.. If I were a T I would be open to conceptual depth discussion on therapy/psychology theory, so long as it were related contextually to the clients work and remained therapeutic to their process.


Methinks we are all really expressing our own wants/needs right now...

[with or without you]

Originally Posted by mightaswelllive

If I were a T I would never have babies.

LOL! or go on vacay

[rainbow8]

I think you're absolutely correct, MAWL. I want to see T's house and walk by the lake with her, as I expressed in that other thread we had about what we'd do with 60 minutes.

I also wanted to start a thread but not have it be about me!

[Perna]

If I were a T, I would be scared to death of all the hopes and expectations floating around me and how best to navigate them so as not to lead a client on but not give in to their false expectations either.

[elliemay]

If I were a therapist I would have a white noise machine in my office and NO ticking clocks.

[ladyjrnlist]

Mine plays classical in the background for white noise. I like that. But the digital clock in my line of sight is so annoying!!!

Originally Posted by elliemay

If I were a therapist I would have a white noise machine in my office and NO ticking clocks.

[SpiritRunner]

Originally Posted by elliemay

If I were a therapist I would have a white noise machine in my office and NO ticking clocks.

mine has mood music over her loudspeaker and a white noise machine; no ticking clocks, just a teeny little one on her side table.....all of these things I like. but I would paint the pale blue walls in her office a warm beige or mocha color or something instead.....

[Perna]

Originally Posted by elliemay

If I were a therapist I would have a white noise machine in my office and NO ticking clocks.

I'd make sure I was in a good quality office where one couldn't be heard from inside or those inside the office couldn't be heard out of it :-)

You should ask your T why, if s/he is going to have a ticking clock s/he didn't just get a loud cuckoo clock and be done with it?

[sittingatwatersedge]

Perna >> ]I'd make sure I was in a good quality office where one couldn't be heard from inside or those inside the office couldn't be heard out of it
YES THIS. I forgot about this. thanks!!

Perna >>> You should ask your T why, if s/he is going to have a ticking clock s/he didn't just get a loud cuckoo clock and be done with it?
just speaking for my own T, I think she would take that particular type of clock as being just a bit ... IDK...she is very careful with people's feelings.
I once gave her a necklace that included a few beads made of crackled quartz, and I told her "they're a little bit cracked - like me" ... she looked very grave. Ouch!

[sunrise]

I would go to a T for supervision.
I would try to be active locally with other therapists, perhaps in a group format (my daughter's T does that).
I would try to keep up with the field and make contacts by going to PD or to conferences.
I wouldn't try to use the same approach and techniques with all clients, but would adapt to what they needed.

[Elana05]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I want this to be fun OR serious.
I would set up tours of my house for interested clients after they earned enough "trust points" with me!

Tell my client (Elana) to drop by any time to take a nap on the couch. Soft blanket provided.