Don't want to go to T

After reading the thread about Play Therapy I now want to play with all the toys and games that my T had in her office. Now that doesn't sound "Childlike" at all does it?

I guess it would also be "Childlike" in the way that I miss my T to the extreme when she is on holidays like she is right now. -Sigh-

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Hi Cats, childhood is for maturing so that when we physically become an adult we are emotionally an adult also. If your emotional needs were ignored while growing up, you didn't get to mature emotionally. You can mature emotionally as an adult. I did this. Identifying where you are at is the first step and then accepting where you are at. After this, exploring what is going on and understanding it. Finally, you can move into the problem solving. With your T pointing out in session what she is observing this will help you to identify where you are at.

Attachment and emotional regulation would be important here also. If your parents weren't helping you emotionally then your attachment wouldn't have been too secure and with your parents not helping you with your emotions, this would lead to you not learning how to regulate your emotions (your parents help you calm yourself and comfort you and this regulates your emotions).

Maturing emotionally in childhood requires a caregiver to help us figure out ourselves and how we fit in the world and how we can manage ourselves. A person develops BPD when the environment is not validating. A validating environment helps us figure ourselves out, how we fit and how to manage ourselves. An invalidating environment ignores us or gives us feedback that is distressing so that we can't figure things out. I'll bet you can remember some times where this happened?

Thanks Sannah, you are SO smart!

Apparently!

I talked to my T today on the phone. I asked her why I have so much borderline stuff going on right now and she said it is just old stuff, old coping patterns, and to try not to worry about it and that it will ease up. I think that is a lot easier said and done since she is always the one that is pointing that stuff out! -Sigh-

I think that all of us have "child parts." Maybe it would be less judgmental to think of your needs in this way rather than labeling your behaviors and feelings as "childlike." There are parts of you that need nurturing and gentle reassurance, and I think it's okay to listen to this. I missed my T a lot too when I hadn't seen him for a while. I still miss him even now, years after therapy has ended. Is there a place inside of yourself where you can sense and feel the connection you have with your T? There can be a space to hold good feelings. Try offering extra comfort, patience and kindness to yourself now. Take care.

Thanks Brightheart. I will try my best.

Really missing my T right now. She is still away until nest Tuesday...

Thanks for the hugs Rainbow rose!

Still really missing my T. I got a text from her today saying that she might be able to phone me in a couple of days...

That is so nice to get a text from her!! But I can imagine how it might stir up the missing her as well.

Every day brings her a little closer

Sending lots

Thanks so much Echoes.