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This is good question for me to ask in my session tomorrow. "What are YOU doing to help me learn to forgive myself?" We do talk about many, many other things. It always happens that somewhere in our sessions, I will start putting myself down and making negative comments about myself. She says this is where it is evident that I am beating myself up for things in my past. I blame myself for why I am how I am, and for why I am in the shape I am in today. Well, I AM the reason! I was the one who made those decisions. I have to take ownership, don't I? |
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When you keep repeating the same negative words about yourself, you are deepening that groove in your brain. I do the same thing. But all we need is a slight shift in perspective to give us a completely new vision. I have experienced that and it is magical. Try to be bold enough to 'embrace' your 'stupidity'. Heck, what's to lose except our silly sense of what? - uh, maturity?, uh, self-control?, uh, intelligence?, uh, level-headedness?, uh, whatever self-image we have that we don't want to mess with? Take a leap!!!!! All the logical arguments in the world will not make a difference. A perfect example is dieting. Everyone knows what is best to eat and what to avoid. We all could argue a perfect case. But when we're facing a luscious chocolate cake, it takes more than knowledge to be able to resist. Getting in deeper than logic is necessary. Going further than argument is able to do, is required. Plunging in to our core is essential. |
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Why do you think you feel stupid trying new things? (Maybe this is why you fight acceptance and forgiveness?)
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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