T called but left no message

You have convinced me. There is no reason why a T shouldn't have a Facebook page if they want one.

Skycastle, what's up? (and don't give me that lame, miscellaneous "fine" stuff; save that for your T :-)

I don't know what you found on your T's Facebook page but I would tell her you found her page and were distressed about what you read and see if the two of you cannot figure out why. Her page has nothing to do with you so your distress is coming from your own head too and it is important that you work with that, a very good opportunity to do so!

The phone thing could have been anything, as many people have pointed out. I know my phone doesn't always work right, will ring immediately after I've hung up with someone and no one will be there that second time (I don't have caller ID so don't know who it "should" have been but it has happened enough times immediately after a call that I think there's a phone glitch with the previous call).

The only way you can feel better is to talk to your T about some of this stuff.

Hi everybody,

Thank you for your responses. I think I had to ponder this alone for a little while before coming back here to share how I feel about all of this. I think, once I got over the guilty shock of searching for her Facebook & finding it, I realized that actually it wasn't that big of a deal. I blocked her on Facebook like someone suggested, and it hasn't been a problem since.

She talked with me at my last session about her phone call with no message. She didn't leave a message because she felt unsure if I wanted one and she was unsure of what she could say (what would be helpful vs. unhelpful, I guess). I told her I didn't get the missed call until later and that I didn't know what to do since she didn't leave a message, and I thought maybe she had accidentally dialed my number. I think she said something to me about it being okay for me to call her just to touch base if I really need it or something but I was so flustered and intent on trying to act normal that I missed what she said I'm sorry, too, because I would like to know if that's the case. Even if I don't ever call, it's comforting to know there's someone I COULD call if I needed and wanted to...

If I were more assertive, I'd bring this up!!! Working on assertiveness is a big part of what I'm trying to do in therapy now. Maybe one day!!

skycastle, I hope you can bring this back up next time. I have done this before, too - not able to remember something important T said because I was so anxious in the moment. You can even give her suggestions on how to handle this next time, something like leaving a message, "This is T and I wanted to let you know that I received your message" and then talk about what could come next - an offer to talk at a specific time, for example. Or, it might be that she will leave a more detailed message next time if she knows it's okay to leave a message.

I'm glad you were able to talk to her about the call.

Thanks, ECHOES, I really appreciate your comment. I'm embarrassed to bring up the phone message with my T because once again I don't want to reveal that I actually care! It's quite ridiculous, really, I'm sure she must realize at this point that I care to some degree about her :0 Anyway, my goal for the session tomorrow is to hold one of the rocks she has in her office. They are on this tiny little table next to me and she tried to get me to hold one for a grounding exercise once. I wouldn't do it for more than a second and then got really anxious about it. I'd like to be able to hold it. For some reason I feel like if I could do that then I could talk to her more easily.

^^My session was basically just like this! Oh, it was terrible, we connected so much last time (even though I didn't tell her all the bad stuff) and then this time I just SHUT DOWN. I felt SO SICK the whole morning waiting for my session and when I got there it was like I just couldn't formulate words (because every time I tried I rejected everything in my head because it sounded bad).

BUT I did tell her how nauseous I was feeling and she did some grounding exercise with me AND I picked up one of the rocks I was talking about! Of my own initiative! It was so cool. I wanted to keep it, lol