omg a big mistake

((((Granite))))) It is OK to want to shut down. Just feel your way through this. Your T couldn't give you the answers that you needed. There was a reason behind this. I am certain it was not to hurt you. Ts are strange in these ways. Don't punish yourself. Words belong to YOU. You have a RIGHT to have a voice.

I felt like this when my t said some mean things to me so I understand feeling like they can hurt you and feeling silenced. I'm sure your t didn't mean to hurt you or silence you though. I wish she could have helped you in a way that ended up hurting less for you, but I'm sure she didn't want to hurt you, she wants to help you. I wish she had just told you she would be really sorry if you had decided not to come, like someone else said.

Maybe she couldn't think of the right thing to say fast enough. I don't know. When I read it first, I thought maybe she was afraid you wanted her to help you more than she's really capable of helping. Like as if you wanted her to force you to come instead of skipping, but she doesn't really have any way to do that. I don't know. Or maybe she was afraid you thought she would hurt you somehow if you didn't come. But she wanted to show there isn't anything she could do to hurt you-- like she wouldn't stop seeing you or anything.

Anyway, you are sooooo good at being straightforward about what you are feeling here on PC. I'm really hopeful it will go better for you with you t next time.

Granite, that sounds like a very tough session. I think your T could have been more straightforward when you asked her the question and avoided confusing you. Instead of answering you, first she wants to know is it a test, then what you thought she would do, and then lamented she didn't know how to answer because she didn't know what you wanted. Sheeesh! Just answer granite's question and quit the hemming and hawing. I know your T meant well, but I think she brought your reaction on herself by not just simply giving you an authentic answer. Do you think it would have helped if she had just simply answered your question? Or do you think she had good reason to worry that she must only answer you with what you wanted to hear?

Granite, I hope you will not stop asking questions in therapy. Maybe you can help your T out by telling her what your expectations are when you ask a question (that she answer). If she doesn't feel she can answer questions when you ask them, maybe she can give an explanation why so that you don't feel you have done something wrong by asking.

i cant believe your T said this to you

i really didnt say anything to the mother.there wasnt a right responce or outcome .scilence was the best defence there .that and do nothing