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#1
Dec 12, 2011, 10:41 AM
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So, a couple days ago, I sent T that email when I had that meltdown - feeling all sorts of shame, humiliation and anger. Since then, I've locked it away. I feel like it's not even a part of me right now.
I have a T session today, and I want to make the most of it. I want to make progress....but I have no idea how, when I'm feeling so distant from those emotions. I may ask for T's help in how to open that door, but knowing him, he'd ask me what I would need him to do to help me...and that's NOT helpful!  When you know you need to address a difficult subject and your emotions are not yet in that place...how do you get there?
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#2
Dec 12, 2011, 10:45 AM
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that is the exact same problem i am having but my t will say what can i do to help, i dont know i started to work on a difficult topic last week and she was just reasurring me that it was going to be ok and not be afraid to cry and that she would unwind the session and not let me leave the room upset, but my emotions are locked away and i cant find the key
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#3
Dec 12, 2011, 11:16 AM
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Usually I send T an email saying "I am worried I am going to chicken out, but I need to talk about blah blah. I may need help bringing it up." Then either he helps me, or the fact that I know that he's already aware helps me bring it up myself.
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Dec 12, 2011, 12:41 PM
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I would probably say "Can we talk about the e-mail I sent you?". And T would say "yes" and wait. And usually if I start out with a feeling ("I felt really angry when I sent it") things kind of take off from there.
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#5
Dec 12, 2011, 12:43 PM
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Just start somewhere on it.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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Dec 12, 2011, 01:35 PM
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Can you write a note and hand it to your T? I've heard some folks say that is helpful.
Usually, I just find a way to talk about most things. Some things I try to hint at, but either my T SUCKS at picking up on hints, or he wants to force me to actually say things. |
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Dec 12, 2011, 04:29 PM
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I say, "I've got something important to say but I don't know where to begin."
So T puts on her extra special listening face and that sucks it out of me.
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Dec 13, 2011, 10:41 AM
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Quote:
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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