What is is the wildest thing you ever asked?????

Kacey, I love your T's response here, and the way you describe it so vividly. I love how he 'thinks aloud'- showing you his mindful observation of his own reaction, and his skilful response to that, like getting grounded. It seems like a very subtle and respectful way to model something which over time you could copy without even realising- developing that narrative in your head which steps back and mindfully notices 'wow, I'm having a really strong reaction here...' and then skilfully deciding to ground yourself.

Sometimes I get the urge to say something silly. Usually I don't say it. But I think T would prefer to hear it.

I once told T she had Hitler's eyes. Where did that come from? And how does that help our relationship? Stupid and hurtful thing to say!

I guess the weirdest thing I've ever asked T was if she'd show me her head (she was bald from chemo). She lifted her wig a little, then said, "If I take it off, will you freak out?" I told her no, so she showed it to me in all it's shiny glory.

I asked last week if her hair was growing back and she asked me, "Wanna see?" So she took her wig off and showed me. She told me I couldn't comment on her gray hair. She's already asked if she can dye it even though she's still wearing the wig. She's got a "thing" about gray hair. She said as long as there is hair color, she will never go gray and if it ever gets outlawed, she'll buy it on the black market.

This thread is definitely interesting. It makes me not feel so alone and insane that I think about stuff like this. I want to ask her alot of personal things, but I don't. One time when were talking about sex and I wanted to deflect (take the focus off of me), I asked her, "Well, how is YOUR sex life?" I don't think she liked me saying that. Her response was, "Really? You are going to go that far to distance yourself from talking about you?"

I can't remember if that is exactly what she said, but it was similar to that. Later in the session, I came back to her response and asked her why she said that. She gave me her normal response, "This is your session. It is about YOU. Not about me. Your question to me is not going to help YOU. It is only going to keep you from working through the issues we are working on. I want you to stay focused on YOU, not on me. I am not mad or upset with you. I just want to make sure you don't keep deflecting when you get to a topic that you are uncomfortable talking about."

I think we have a right to deflect. Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition!

Poke her with the soft cushions and place her in the comfy chair.

i asked her to change my day from monday,and she did it i think i will stop well i am ahead.

Oh my Goodness Can'tExplain!!! You must have been looking for a fight? What was the context of this? Did she fall over or what?

I asked my T if he feels equipped to handle me...! He sort of answered, but he said YOU'RE equipped to handle you. Does that mean no?!??!