[mommyof2girls]

My question is this, Why do people see therapists???? I mean yes I am bi polar, and have ocd, but does that automatically mean that I NEED a therapist??? I have been doing very well these days, and I am able to use my coping skills as needed, but I feel that therapy has been more of a headache then help......The cost of each session, and that time it is taking out of my day, I mean, do I really need a therapist????

[granite1]

glad to hear you are doing so well and don't feel you need to see a T

[mommyof2girls]

Thanks, just been doing a lot of thinking about it......I just feel that seeing her every week is a chore......I really am doing well, and that sometimes its like I really have to think of what to talk about.....

[Nelliecat]

Could you start going to see T every two weeks and see how that feels?

Originally Posted by mommyof2girls

My question is this, Why do people see therapists???? I mean yes I am bi polar, and have ocd, but does that automatically mean that I NEED a therapist??? I have been doing very well these days, and I am able to use my coping skills as needed, but I feel that therapy has been more of a headache then help......The cost of each session, and that time it is taking out of my day, I mean, do I really need a therapist????

If you feel you are doing ok without a T and are coping well, then therapy may not be for you. However, I find for me that I have alot of issues to come to terms with that only a T can help me through that doesn't have anything to do with my mental illnesses I have. If you ever do feel like you are "slipping" i hope you would consider a T at some point. Hope you do continue to do well!

[WantingtoHeal]

Maybe it's time for a break and if/when you feel ready, you can go back or not. You may have the coping skills now to cope with your ocd and BP. Nothing wrong with that at all.

I'm really struggling these days and need a therapist to hold on to some hope that I can get better.My coping skills are lacking somewhat, so I currently need help with a T. Just where I'm at.

I guess I'd explore if you're really feeling the need to stop T for a while or if there's some issue that's bothering you that you're irritated/angry with and want to avoid.

You seem kind of angry to me, so I was just wondering. It would seem to me that you do have a choice of whether or not to continue T.

[critterlady]

Unless it's court ordered, it's always your choice whether or not to be in therapy. Try scheduling sessions less often for a while and see how that feels.

I'm curious why you seem so adamant about it, though. Have you discussed terminating with your T and gotten feedback you didn't like?

[Perna]

Originally Posted by mommyof2girls

I have been doing very well these days, and I am able to use my coping skills as needed

Life and therapy are not about "coping" or doing well when the sun is shining?

[Sannah]

My decade in therapy was on and off. In between seeing a therapist I was moving to the next issue and then I went back to therapy.

[mommyof2girls]

Thanks all for your replies..... I don't know, maybe instead of every week maybe doing every two weeks.....We have been working on some really deep issues, and I am doing well with the dealing and healing on those issues, I just don't think I need to go as often ...... I will have to discuss this with my t and see what she thinks....

[KazzaX]

I just go because it's the textbook treatment for depression (+ meds). It hasn't helped at all in the 5 or so years I've been going. The hope has been gone for a long time hehe. But I could understand how people would claim they "need" a therapist because they got a lottttt out of it. Therefore they think they NEED it. It's different for everyone I guess.

[WikidPissah]

If you're doing well, talk to you therapist about breaking for a bit. Maybe schedule a final appt for 30 days out just in case something comes up.

As my therapist tells me, "Therapy is not jail. You are free to come and go as you please. Its up to you how far you want to go in your treatment."

I told her that this makes me angry when she says it like that. It makes me feel as if she is saying, "Come or don't come. Either way is fine with me. If you do, you do. If you don't, you don't." I told her that this makes me feel like she doesn't care one way or the other. She responded with, "I do feel that there are some things that would be beneficial for you to work on in therapy. I would like for you to continue to work on these things. But I cannot make that decision for you."

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Squiggle328

As my therapist tells me, "Therapy is not jail. You are free to come and go as you please. Its up to you how far you want to go in your treatment."

I told her that this makes me angry when she says it like that. It makes me feel as if she is saying, "Come or don't come. Either way is fine with me. If you do, you do. If you don't, you don't." I told her that this makes me feel like she doesn't care one way or the other. She responded with, "I do feel that there are some things that would be beneficial for you to work on in therapy. I would like for you to continue to work on these things. But I cannot make that decision for you."

Funny how we can all be so different. I find comfort in the idea that the therapist does not care one way or the other.

[mommyof2girls]

After much consideration, I will continue on with therapy..... I know that I want to go ( deep inside ) , I guess its just talking about the hard stuff that makes me not want me to go.....

[Sannah]

Good work figuring out what this meant for you.