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#1
Apr 17, 2012, 09:52 PM
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I have been doing a lot of thinking about my issues with ex t.....And I have asked myself, am I just afraid to move on???? I know that it probably sounds silly, but am I really afraid to let go???? I tend to like to torture myself when it comes to things that I cannot control, and maybe I just really like the hurt that this all is doing to me mentally.....Yikes, maybe it really is time for me to let it all go..... Is this the major road block that has stopped me from the healing process.....Any feedback or comments.....
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Apr 17, 2012, 10:05 PM
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When I read your post I thought of this quote I really like
“Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.” It seems to me you have come to the point where the idea of moving on and maybe seeing a new T is important. I wouldn't simply just let it all go I find this is rarely possible but maybe try figure out what lessons you could take from that experience to move forward in your journey. |
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Apr 17, 2012, 10:42 PM
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 ((Mommy))
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Apr 17, 2012, 10:59 PM
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Am I afraid to let go? I think that is a really great question. I look forward to hearing more about your work with it.
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Apr 18, 2012, 01:41 AM
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Yeah, I am deff afraid of letting go..... I guess to me its just that I no longer get to see him, and my memories are all that I have.... ( if that makes sense ).....Also I guess I don't want him to ever forget about me ( thats why I send him little thinking of you cards ) ..... I really need to put myself first in this case and just LET IT GO..... UGH!!!!
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Apr 18, 2012, 03:38 AM
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Quote:
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#7
Apr 18, 2012, 03:45 AM
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Cantexplain....I did move on to a new female t..... I do like her and she is nice....and we are working on my issues with ex t.....just that i really do miss him....
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#8
Apr 18, 2012, 03:54 AM
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And what does new T say to that?
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#9
Apr 18, 2012, 03:58 AM
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Well she says that I really need to look deep into what he represents to me... ( which I already figured out ) .... But it doesn't make the pain any less..... I just wish that I could move past him .... I could never imagine that it would be this difficult....
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Apr 18, 2012, 04:19 AM
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I'm sorry you can't move on. If you know ex-T represents, perhaps you know what he was giving you? And perhaps you could find that elsewhere? If I lost T, one of the things I would lose is the only "hard" woman in my life. My wife is very gentle and understanding, and sometimes I need a woman I can fight with!
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#11
Apr 18, 2012, 04:23 AM
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"If you know ex-T represents, perhaps you know what he was giving you?
And perhaps you could find that elsewhere?" I never ever thought about that .....very interesting.... Thanks a bunch... 
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#12
Apr 18, 2012, 06:29 PM
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I understand that. When I lost my ex T (she dumped me out of nowhere 1 night) for a long time I think I was afraid to let go of her. In fact, I think that fear still lingers sometimes even four years later. I think I still want to run into her somewhere (very unlikely), I still want to say things to her. If I let go, what do I do with all that unsaid stuff? (we had no "closure" of any sort) I have a new T and I just adore her tons more than old T, but still, a part of me hangs on just a tiny bit.
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#13
Apr 23, 2012, 06:02 AM
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Sarahmichelle... I am so with you on the ( not having any closure ) with ex t.....I wanted to say so much to him.....and maybe thats another reason why I am having such difficulty.....I will deff get my chance ( as I will becalling him in the future, when the time is right per my current t ) , and hopefully I will then be able to move on and get on with my life....
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