What if YOU won the lottery?

That would be kinda awkward. My T's not a bad person or anything but I really like my privacy in general. I don't have a big list of people whom I would want to live with.

I wouldn't ask but if the universe just so happen to put us across the hallway from each other in our apartment complex... I guess I would babysit his kids. O_O If so, I want $15 an hour!

FANTASY DIALOG

Me: Quit your job and come and live with me!
T: No.
Me: Well, can I see you every day? I'll double your fee!
T: No, it wouldn't be good for you to think you can buy anything you want.

Goodness, 'manipulative' seems to have become PC's favourite new word.

Again, why 'manipulative'? What is underhand about this idea? The poster wrote about openly and transparently asking T to quit their job and live with them. The T is free to say yes or no. There is no implied attempt to obtain what they want by controlling the T or using underhand methods.

Asking for what you want is not manipulative!

I would get out of this house, and move to deep in the bush, and get some sort of setup where I didn't have to go into town for anything. I would be self sufficient. I would get the internet for entertainment. I would do all this without telling a SOUL - I would just like people to think that I simply disappeared into thin air. I would not be depressed anymore The things that depress me would be eliminated from my life altogether!

Indeed. Clearly someone doesn't understand what manipulation implies.

And it was a question. I never said I'd do that. If I won the lottery I doubt I'd tell my T. As a matter of fact, I'd have no reason to even need therapy anymore.

Money would solve all your problems?

To tell you the truth it probably would.

I did win the lottery. I have the winning ticket hidden at the McDonald's where I work, but I've forgotten where it is.

1. Buy our first house in a neighborhood we both love but can't currently hope to afford. Also, our first car.
2. Buy my parents a nicer house and a more reliable car (both of those are constantly breaking down).
3. Put away a whole bunch, because I hear kids are expensive.
4. Give a bunch to MSF, because where they go, a little goes a long way.
5. Give a bunch to the public school system in my hometown, which is falling apart at the seams; even though I couldn't wait to leave, it's still my hometown.

And yeah, I'd probably allow myself to live a little bit more comfortably (I'm a simple girl, but I wouldn't stress about allowing myself simple pleasures). Like CantExplain, I'd also keep my job.

I would:
-deposit at least a million dollars into each of my kids' education funds.
-give a large chunk to our local YMCA to add a new wing to the building
-enroll my kids in an International school and put them all in music lessons (with the instrument of their choice)
-buy a sprawling brick rambler, preferably with a turret
-earn my phD in English (or Psychology) or maybe get a law degree
-fix up the house of an elderly couple down my street - their garage currently has a gaping hole at the top
-travel extensively with my kids
-get snow tires for my minivan? Would I even want my minivan? Maybe not.