Therapist wants to reschedule if "reasonably convenient" for me

What does that even mean???

It might be a polite nothing, but it could mean that if you don't want to move, you don't have to.

I think it just means something has come up so call to reschedule at a time that works for you. (It is a kind of convoluted way to say it though.)

I think it means something has come up but the therapist is not cancelling on you but seeing if you could accomodate a change.

But what would be "reasonably convenient" vs. "unreasonably convenient"? Any guesses?

Why doesn't my therapist just cancel and ask if I can reschedule for another time? I feel like I'm (possibly unintentionally on her part) being guilted into cancelling our current appointment time so that she doesn't have to.

I think she is saying she has a potential conflict, but if you are unable to reschedule, she will honor your original appt time. She is trying to be respectful of your needs.

EJ

You all make it sound so simple! Maybe I'll see if I can just skip my appointment this week and hold off until my appointment next week, which is scheduled uncharacteristically early on in the week anyway.

This would be a perfect time to call your T and ask her the questions you have written here. Ask her if she has another time this week if she needs to switch around that one. Keep us posted.

Maybe it means someone else could be bumped instead of you. Maybe he is trying to see which patient is more "ok" with a switch?

If you are flexible, maybe he will remember and extend you the same courtesy in the future? With my T, that's how it goes. If I'm flexible, I can call in the favor.

my guess is that your two terms are not what's on the table.
I am guessing that it is to be read "reasonably convenient" vs "inconvenient".

If you have other things going on in yr week, and it would be hard to shuffle them, you may find it very inconvenient to reschedule;
if you have something going on internally, or IRL, and really need to see T as soon as possible, it may be very inconvenient to reschedule.

IDK, seems like a respectful way to put it. Sometimes the PC people wonder at being cancelled and ask, doesn't T have any idea what it does to me when i get cancelled? Yours does seem to have a clue there.

I'm retired so everything is reasonably convenient for me :-) I don't think there is a concept such as "unreasonably convenient" because if it was unreasonably, it wouldn't be convenient. I think the opposite of "reasonably convenient" would be "unreasonably inconvenient."

Unreasonably convenient would be if you had to do too much rescheduling of your own schedule to make her schedule work. I'm picking up the grandchildren in an hour so daughter-in-law can work; if I suddenly wanted to change days (they are off all week for Spring break from school) my daughter-in-law would have to call her work and clients and reschedule all them and see if they were available for the new day, etc.; some of them might not be. Anything that would cause a domino effect in scheduling on your part would be unreasonable. But, if it is just you and you don't mind, then that's reasonably convenient.

Thanks for your insights, everyone! They really helped me slow my thoughts down. I ended up calling today and suggesting we cancel for this week but meet early next week (I have weekly appointments, usually on the same day). I think it worked out well this way. Actually, as I started saying this on the phone, I began to feel much more confident about the decision. My therapist was treating me like a healthy adult by letting me make the call, and I think I found a good compromise for her needs & mine. She has done a lot to accomodate my schedule in the past, and this is really the first time I've had a chance to accomodate hers. It was nice to be able to offer that and feel good about it. It took me a while to get there but... yeah, I feel okay And I must be making progress since I'm not totally devastated about her absence since I have other good things going on this weekend. She was really nice, too, by saying I can always call her if anything comes up.

PC win!

Glad it worked out.