Welcome to the Couch! People of PC Psychotherapy (Part 2)

Is this an okay place to ask a general question about therapy experiences? If not maybe you can tell me a better place, or it can get moved?

I am wondering what responsibility you take upon yourselves to make therapy productive, and what responsibility you place upon the therapist/pdoc? Do you place a heavier burden on the professional? On yourself? Is it 50/50?
Thanks for any replies.

hi gr3tta i think this is a great place to post a question like that.i dont know the answer to that as far as my T goes but others may.you may also want to ask this question by posting it in the forum also it is a good question and you may bet more people who will read it and may answer. welcome to the couch.stick around it only gets more fun

I like having a secret identity.

I think this is a great question, which would be well worth a thread of its own in the Psychotherapy forum - the risk when you post something to the Welcome to the Couch thread is that people might not see it. I'd love to read responses from people who are more experienced with therapy than I am.

This is a great question.
For my t's part I expect her to keep my best interest in mind, push enough but not too much, and use her knowledge and training to help me heal.
For my part I expect myself to be open to what t is saying and consider her suggestions (she always says they are suggestions, not requirements.) If I am giving homework, I don't blow it off. I make time for it. I journal almost daily. I make an effort to prepare for appointments. I see it as the majority of the work falling on me. T is there to guide me, but only I can do the work.

Did you post it as a separate thread?

Granite I am glad you are back. I really enjoy your healthy eating posts - it has me motivated to try harder at eating healthy.

Had an interesting conversation tonight at dinner with a friend of mine's mom. She's 70 and she has looked for mother figures all her life. She found one in a lady from the church she attends (that I used to attend). I'm starting to think many people look for mother figures when they feel their childhood was deficient.

I have decided that (so far) there are three rules that seem to be consistent in life:
1. Everyone is crazy (a coworker said another way to say this is "everyone is normal until you get to know them").
2. Nothing is ever easy. If it's easy, it's not to be trusted.
3. Everybody lies. Yeah, I stole that from Dr. House. him!! My kind of misogynist.

Anybody else have any "rules" for life? H says his rule #1 is "never build a weapon that can think for itself".

Yep...see my rule #1.

Always try things twice...in case the first time was just a bad trip

Chopin -i like your husband.

Mine is appear easy going.

I've always said I thought you were my H in disguise. When talking about you to him, I refer to you as his doppelganger.

Ha! The the the Something Project, movie with Eric Braeden (yes Victor Newman of Young & Restless) and Webster's mother (Susan Clark) was his girlfriend. SO SPOOKY!!! one of my all-time favorite movies, why can't I think of the name??? Colossus - The Forbin Project (1970). the computer takes over the world.

The Forbin Project (the supercomputer); Terminator (Skynet); I, Robot; 2001 (Hal); The Matrix (Big Scary Machines, et al).

That's off the top of my head. I'm sure H could think of a few more, but he's in the other room.

He hates men too!

Bwahahahaha...I meant misanthrope!!

It's late where I'm at...or early depending on how you look at it!

I have not done well going to bed. I am out of my muscle relaxers (Zanaflex...which knocks me out cold), so I took a back-up muscle relaxer (Soma) which doesn't knock me out, a double dose of Klonopin, and a 7.5/500 Vicodin. I'm still up at 5:00am. Dammit. We're going to the beach at 10:00am.

Sleeplessness sucks.

Me, I've been to the vet this morning with the kittens, to have them neutered... they aren't really kittens any longer, at six months of age the male is almost as large as our old cats were. I have a lot of confidence in our local animal hospital, but am still a little worried, of course, as I wait for the phone call.

awww 6 month old kittens... C U T E! I am sure they will do fine, but it is a little nerve wracking to have put out little buddies in someone else's hands.

I think I search out father figures instead of mother figures...but that's a discussion for another day.

HANKSTER - Just a heads up I talk about pool stuff below.....


I had a rule when I used to manage a pool and kids would tell me there was an "emergency" (i.e. their goggles were at the bottom of the diving well). I still use it at work when people tell me their project is an emergency.
Pool Rule: Is someone drowning, is someone dying, is the building on fire? No? Then it's not an emergency.
My other favorite: Lateness and procrastination on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.

The kittens are fine, and I'm off to pick them up soon.

And yes, they are ridiculously cute - it's a survival strategy, cos they are also very active. Including at 3am.

yes, my 1 yr old Dalmatian keeps me active too. We got her last summer to help with my depression, and boy did it work. She is NUTS!! I often pull her from her crate at 3 am and bring her to bed. H doesn't like it much though. She is laying with her head in my lap right now.

Thank you! I am going to make a separate thread now.

when I had my girls done, 2 kittens and their mam, when they told me the price, I was like, what, do I stuff the money in a suitcase and leave it by the mailbox at the corner and make sure i'm not being followed??!!

oh, sconnie, thanks for the warning! apparently LITERAL drowning doesn't trigger me, just metaphorical?! wow. I remember my mother getting so mad at us kids for saying or doing stuff while playing, that she said wasn't funny - we must have been triggering her. we didn't know what was going on, just that she was pretty volatile, temperamental. Ghosts were a definite no-no. No Casper for us.

it was an ok morning untill i got a call from my son first thing saying that he has been assighned his mew post and will be going to packistan

o Granite....

yikes granite that is scarey. It must be so hard having your son in the military. On one had you are OH SO PROUD (and should be) but on the other you miss and worry so much.