Does T like you? Does T like to spend time with you?

I'm just wondering what people think: how do you think/feel your T views you? Do you think T likes you?

My T is always encouraging me to contact him and to see him 2-4 times a week. I really don't think my problems are that bad... I've decided that T probably just likes spending time with me!

2-4 times a week? wow.....

Wow, 4 times a week is a lot!

My T told me on Monday that he likes working with me.

I think my T cares a lot about me and my progress, and that she gets frustrated when I struggle. I'm not sure if she "likes" me per se, but she does want the best for me. I'm sure I can be annoying or hurtful sometimes, but I think she mostly manages not to take it personally. Even so, the therapeutic relationship has taught me to be more considerate of her and how what I do affects her. So there's something there for her though I'm not sure how to describe it. Probably just a good psychologist's investment in her client.

I don't really think about whether the therapist likes me or not. I don't go there to be liked nor am I at my most endearing when interacting with her. I prefer she not despise me, but as long as she does what ever it is her job entails, then great. She has said she liked me - but I have no idea what the point of telling me that was.

However, if the therapist is telling you to come to more appointments just because the therapist likes you, that is not the most ethical of therapists. Are you being charged for all the appointments? I suggest you ask the therapist about this and get a better handle on the situation. It may be that the therapist has a different view of your situation than you do.

or they like you.... and your money.

UNless they give legitimate reason for such frequency (a crisis or whatever), then it sounds hella sketch.

He has said that yes, he likes me. I asked him why he wanted to continue doing T with me given his bpd dx of me. He said, "because I can help you with this . . . and I like you."

I think my therapist likes me, know she worries about me, never rushes me out of her office at the end of the session, in fact I'm the one who appears keep a closer eye on the clock.

As horrible as things are for me at the moment I know she is proud of how I am handling things and rightfully proud of her part of getting me to the point where I could deal with all the "stuff" that is going on in my life without breaking down.

2-4 times a week is ideal for some therapies. What do you think about going that frequently?

My T has told me that she really likes me, feels very comfortable with me, and is attached to me. That feels strange when I write it out because my basic assumption is that I am not likable.

One time, right as I left her office, she said, "I really like you." I didn't know how to respond. I think I just said thanks. I wondered if that was the therapist's version of saying "Love you," to a good friend when you say goodbye because therapists can't say, "I love you." I do know I felt more securely attached to her that week than I usually do. It was odd.

IDK.....Once when we were talking about professional relationships, I said that I liked my physician, and my dentist, and my ob/gyn, and I said I liked him too. He immediately said, "And I like you." So, he did say that, but I think he kind of had to, given the circumstance.

I'm very aware that when I see him, he's on the clock - working, doing his job. I'm completely unable to separate his professional behavior from his personal. So I'm suspicious about any positive stuff, because that's probably just unconditional positive regard and all. I would never ask him outright if he liked me!

And yeah - I'm not good with relationships.

My T likes me. She certainly isn't in it for the money, because I barely pay her anything. She encourages me to talk to her several times a week and write whenever i need to.

Sometimes I think my T likes me, sometimes I think she is totally frustrated with me and tired of working with me. It really depends on the day and each of our moods probably.

i think mine tolerated me.

I don't know whether mine likes me or not, but he seems to. He has told me that I'm not just a job to him.

And he's also not in it for the money, since he told me that if my insurance company won't pay for a second session each week, he'll see me for the amount of my copay, which is 1/6 of his fee.

I think my T likes me more than I like me.

t has said " i like talking to you" shocked the hell out of me. but it did feel real

there are times i think he hates me (not so much anymore) that is kinda hard to deal with, depends on the day???

whether he likes spending time with me? for session, okay-yes,
outside in his personal life-no way would be my guess.

Yes, my T has told me that she likes me very much. Even if she hadn't told me, I could tell that she likes me.

T and I really like each other just for the people we are. But sessions that often? No way. Not unless I'm in a huge crisis.

I don't see a problem with the number of appointments if it is the norm for the type of therapy and the client is willing and understands. But if the client does not understand the need for the number and thinks it is just because the therapist really likes them, then it would seem prudent to at least get the matter clarified.

I don't see how anyone could possibly like me and want to spend time with me. That is beyond comprehension for me.

On good days, I feel like my T likes me. On the rest, I'm pretty sure she can't stand me. Since I'm the variable in that equation (she's pretty consistent), it's technically difficult to know what's true. But if I had to guess, I'd say that she likes me, at least well enough.

I don't know if my t likes me, but she definitely earns her money during my hour. I think my slow progress must frustrate her a bunch.
Bluemountains

I'm only charged for two sessions a week at most (just the copays) the insurance only pays for one. Any others are free. I feel better seeing my T a lot and he says I'm high-functioning and can handle working with him that often.
Psychoanalytic psychotherapist

Same here!!! I wish they were all like that. I think some people never get to have the experience of someone always being there.