[SoupDragon]

Thought I'd kick this one off after it was noticed that we may go through cycles of hating / loving our T's - there is of course I hate my T today thread - wonder which one will end up the longest?

[Nightlight]

My T is wonderful. She's helped me through so much, and she's given me so much. There are times when I've felt let down or upset, but I've never come close to hating her. I'm quite certain that I never will. I know I've been hard work, and she's stuck it out this far. I really hope she continues to have the patience to keep helping me. I really like her as a person, and I think she has quite generously shared a lot of herself with me. I've found the right person to help me. I was so lucky that she was the first person that I saw. I have no words to express my gratitude towards her. She means a lot to me.

[WikidPissah]

Can I reply to both threads? Maybe I will run back and forth between the two threads on a daily basis.

[ECHOES]

Oh I love my therapist. I can't wait to get there each time.

[SpiritRunner]

I love my 2nd T, too ... well, really, it's more like a respect/fond regard, and probably more of an intellectual than an emotional attachment .... but still, there is that feeling and I think it's real enough to be counted as a type of love. What I hate is that I can't keep her as my long-distance T and I'll have to wean myself from calling some point soon (not that I have called so often recently, however, the relationship can't continue in this form indefinitely ...) ... but I do love her for giving her time to me and for investing in me and listening to me on the phone the last few months without the expectation of reimbursement (except that I keep up the good work!). And I love her for both her unconventionality and yet consistent, definite, firm boundaries ... that she has encouraged me to let go yet not made me let go too soon ...

[stopdog]

I am glad that you all are fond of your therapist.
(this was the only way I will ever be able to post on this thread)

[lostmyway21]

Hmm today... I love my T. Who knows how long before I cycle moods again though.

[SeaSalt]

Originally Posted by lostmyway21

Hmm today... I love my T. Who knows how long before I cycle moods again though.

lol, I need to start a LIMBO thread because I neither love nor hate her at this point.

I love my T. He has been so patient as I spend sometimes months in this push/pull... I need connection/you are getting too close...thing that I do. I see it now and we have talked about it and I think I have pushed past it. He said he has seen the pattern for months but its not something that I couldn't change until I realized it. The downside to the ending of that pattern is that now I have to get down to talking about real stuff and that is scary... but good. Hope my mind doesn't come up with another subconscious evasive action manuveur...

I'm pretty sure I'll always be in this camp. I don't feel like my T could ever give me reason to think anything but good thoughts, she's been amazing. Any time I've been frustrated in therapy it's been with myself or the process, not with T herself. I don't think I'm the easiest client, but she's so patient with me, and always figures out a way for us to move forward when I feel like I've hit a wall.

[critterlady]

I love what T does and how he works. I love how he makes me feel. I love that he makes connections that I either miss entirely or simply can't say out loud. I love that he calls me on things, but does it with infinite support. I love that he makes it safe for me to tell him anything. I love that he gets concerned about me and that he's there for me whenever I need him.

I'm not sure I know him well enough to love him, per se. He's only disclosed a couple of details about his life, so what I know of him is how he responds to me, not how he is as a fully developed human being.

Originally Posted by critterlady

I'm not sure I know him well enough to love him, per se. He's only disclosed a couple of details about his life, so what I know of him is how he responds to me, not how he is as a fully developed human being.

Yes I think what this thread is saying is we love the T that we see in the "room".

I am definitely in this camp. He makes me angry and frustrated and irritated sometimes, but I am always fond of him. He has hurt my feelings and upset me, but he takes responsibility for his mistakes, and I love that about him as well.

And I wanna post here too because I love my ex-T so much because he's generally smart, genuinely loving and compassionate and he helped me sooooo much... until the day he didn't.

[healed84]

I like my T.. I am not sure I could ever say that I actually love my T.. although, I know we are using in a different kind of sense in this post. However, he pushes me, he finds things that we have in common and helps us connect in that way.. It really helps me to feel like I can actually trust him. I am not sure I will ever be in the I hate my T camp, but who knows.. We are 6 months into it and we are just now getting down to the nitty gritty of who I am!!

[SoupDragon]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

Can I reply to both threads? Maybe I will run back and forth between the two threads on a daily basis.

I think that's what makes it interesting though, we can feel both for T and I know for me they can cycle so quickly. Actually I have just posted on the other thread, but I can also feel some real warmth for my T for being there every week and inbetween too when I need to e-mail him.

[carly011]

My T is amazing. Since the start she has been there for me.She told me that she would never give up on me and that she would believe in me until i could believe in myself. That really meant the world to me. She sticks with me even when im being a stubborn brat who refuses to talk about some things, or the times that i was so mad at her and wouldn't talk to her for weeks(our sessions during this time consisted of me refusing to even look at her, and her talking well i pretended to ignore). She sticks with me even though i always deny anything is wrong with me

Im soooo grateful for my T, she is amazing!

[SeaSalt]

Originally Posted by carly011

My T is amazing. Since the start she has been there for me.She told me that she would never give up on me and that she would believe in me until i could believe in myself. That really meant the world to me. She sticks with me even when im being a stubborn brat who refuses to talk about some things, or the times that i was so mad at her and wouldn't talk to her for weeks(our sessions during this time consisted of me refusing to even look at her, and her talking well i pretended to ignore). She sticks with me even though i always deny anything is wrong with me

Im soooo grateful for my T, she is amazing!

WOW carly, that is beautiful!

[tuxyjenn]

the bad me does not like my therapist. the good me loves her. bad me recently sent her a text message that said: "Dr __, today I don't like you. Bad Me" she was ok with that text and she knows that bad me doesn't like her and good me loves her.

[Chopin99]

Most of the time, I love my T. She is very real, open, and honest with me. She calls me on my BS. She loves me and tells me so. She is committed to helping me get better.

One reason I'm happy with T right now is because after my session Thursday, I sent her 3 links; two were videos of Brene Brown's talks, which she expressed interest in after I mentioned her a couple of times in session. The 3rd was a link to my company's website, which is finally running well after a lot of work on my part. I looked at the Google Analytics the next day and even though she didn't respond to the email itself, she had visited the site twice.

Yeah, I love my T. He has stuck with me through all my evasive tactics and about-faces and hissy fits over the emotional intimacy thing. He's there for me as much as he can be considering the limitations of the therapeutic relationship. He proved it again by accepting my proposed compromise over one of his hard-and-fast rules. I made my case which was well-thought-out and reasonable. He agreed, with the caveat that there might be a time when I could not get the response I wanted, and said he didn't want me to be hurt again if that happened. But just knowing that the INTENT is there, the intention to be there for me, is soooo important to me.

The man knows how to absolutely rock a relationship

I love my therapist also. She is so very human and real, and also full of compassion and empathy. But she also is straight to the point, doesn't hide anything, speaks her mind. She pushes HARD, but is also so nurturing and protective.
The only thing I hate about my T is that she is SO far away every since last August, and I wish her family crisis would get over with so she can come HOME!!!

[skysblue]

I love my T although I did write her a poem once and read it to her that was titled "I Hate You."

[rainbow8]

I love my T even though I started a thread called "I hate her" and wrote her a poem and emails about hate and anger. I hate myself and not her. She hasn't done anything wrong and continually goes out of her way to show how much she cares about me and wants me to be happier.

[carly011]

Another reason why i love my T: because she lets me(actually told me) to email here whenever i want.
She tells me she is proud of me.
And then today when i expressed my concern about no one caring about me once im better, she said that i can come see her as long as i want, even if i am "better" and that there is NO end date to our sessions and we will only stop when i want to(and if she agrees with me)

ALSO, she told me she wants to visit me when i am in the hospital after my heart surgery. Then she told me that i cant take 6 weeks off from therapy after my surgery so i either need to have someone drive me to her office once a week or she said she can come to my house if i cant get a ride

It made me feel like she actually cares about me outside of the office!