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Jul 23, 2012, 10:24 PM
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I was given hw from t last week and I haven't done it yet. up until today I've been trying to remember what it was I was supposed to do, now I've remembered because I remember the example that started the assignment.
I'm supposed to make a list of "I have to....because....." Thoughts. I'm really having trouble thinking of them and I know you guys can't reach into my head and figure out what thoughts see in there, all I'll Hyatt whine to procrastinate some more. So far I have 1. I have to be the prefect daughter because my sibling has caused so much trouble that they shouldn't have to worry about me. (I don't know if that one counts, it's the sample  )2. I have to check the backseat of my car before I get in because there might be someone hiding in the backseat. (I have done others like that that I've come up with but I've purposely not remembered them because I don't want them to be all the same that will make be sound paranoid 3. I have to.......? Not book an appointment this week because I haven't completed this very well and I don't want to disappoint her (or myself). |
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Jul 23, 2012, 10:39 PM
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Hm... for me, one might be, "I have to please everyone, because I cannot stop blaming myself if someone is unhappy with me." Or "I have to do everything well, because if I fail then everyone will know how useless I really am." Or "I have to make sure T doesn't know TOO much about me, because if he did he would stop loving me." Which I guess are all some variation of, "I have to appear to be lovable, because I don't think anyone would love the person I really am."
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Jul 23, 2012, 11:11 PM
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some that seem to be going on for you now is something like ...
"i have to not disappoint T because ...? "I have to not disappoint myself because ...? those might be good ones to share with her if you can work out the because part 
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Jul 23, 2012, 11:28 PM
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#5
Jul 23, 2012, 11:37 PM
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Do you want us to do ones for ourselves as examples?
Like I know for me: I have to keep my emotions shut down in session because if they come out I will feel a loss of control. I have to talk to my mother because if I don't that makes me a "bad kid". I have to put on a mask with my friends because no one likes me when I'm not emotionally carrying the group. I have to push you away when you get too close because I'm deathly afraid if I let you in you will leave me high and dry. I have to only talk about surface emotions because if we go any deeper I worry you'll not be able to help me. I may do this for my own therapy and surprise T. I did an assignment you didn't assign!!! Over acheiver I am 
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Jul 24, 2012, 05:39 AM
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For me its mostly societal things.
Eg: I have to shower once every 1/2 days I have to wash the kitchen every 1/2 days i have to wash my clothes once a week I have to keep my anger inside because it is socially unacceptable to express it I have to wear black to funerals I have to say X, Y and Z to people in certain situations I have to NOT say a,b,c to people in certain situations Its like a huge policies and procedures manual to life
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Jul 24, 2012, 06:29 AM
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I have to stop hating my mother...because it is making me sick.
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Jul 24, 2012, 07:07 AM
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Silent-
I tried doing some and you're right - the because part is hard! I also check the backseat of my car - especially when I am leaving work at night by myself.
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Jul 24, 2012, 07:08 AM
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i have to make everyone like me because i don't like myself.
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Jul 24, 2012, 09:02 AM
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That would be a bit hard for me because it makes me feel negative/bad. Like listing all the times I've lied
or something.How about: I have to forget homework assignments because. . . I have to procrastinate on doing this homework because. . . I have to pretend I cannot do the homework without help because. . .
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#11
Jul 24, 2012, 11:06 AM
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I have up not do my hw assignments because I don't want to tell t the answersbecause she'll realize I'm crazy
(ha! That one has double becauses  )I have to forget the hw because I don't want to her to know I didn't want her to know the answers |
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Jul 24, 2012, 12:29 PM
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none of these are mine, but here are a few for you to think about
I have to put potato chips in my hamburger because.... I have to have all the lights in the room on / off at night because.... I have to get someone else to drive my car over the oil pit at Jiffy Lube because.... there are a lot of things. you'll get there. of course, there is always the killer......  I have to avoid talking with T about ______________ because..... |
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#13
Jul 24, 2012, 12:42 PM
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Wow, the sibling example is EXACTLY how my life got messed up to begin with!
I have to be good because i'm a girl. I have to be alone because i'm flat-chested. I have to be alone because i'm smart. I have to be alone because people bother me. This IS a good homework! Thanks! |
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#14
Jul 24, 2012, 10:41 PM
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Ok, journal is in hand. Thanks everyone for responding, seems to have gotten don't wheels turning
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