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Old Aug 31, 2012, 12:44 PM
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Okay, so I decided to revise my letter to T, which I plan to read to her Wednesday. I like it this way, what do y'all think? I'm going to leave it alone now, but I always appreciate feedback!

Dear T,

I have been worried about you for several weeks, although I have been too wrapped up in my own experience to reach out toward you in any way other than from a place of neediness. For the first time since I've noticed what I am about to tell you, I am in a place to regard you in a spirit of true compassion without the expectation of anything in return. I've perceived a distance in you that I do not feel is directed toward me personally or professionally. It simply strikes me that something is wrong. You've mentioned to me within the past couple of months several continuing health and mental issues. As your client, it is not my place to try to help you; but as your sister in Christ, it is my place to pray for you and love you. God is teaching me how to love through your very example. The lessons I am learning in my therapy experience with you will enhance and improve my life as long as I choose to abide by them.

No matter what is going on in your life, you always seem to soldier on. You are an adept and caring therapist who has made a tangible difference in my life. One thing I have always appreciated in my therapeutic process is that you have been willing to share with me some of your own struggles. This has enhanced and enriched my therapy in a way I never thought possible before beginning this journey. Therefore, I humbly ask, is something wrong, T? How may I carry you in prayer? Please know that this is therapeutic for me also, but I don't want you to share more than you are comfortable with. Considering all you’ve done and are doing for me, holding you in my prayers is the least I can do. If I am out of line or perceiving something that simply isn't there, please tell me, but I don't believe I am misperceiving as I’ve prayed over these words since my session last week.

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Chopin
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 01:00 PM
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it sounds good chopin
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 03:49 PM
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Okay, so I decided to revise my letter to T, which I plan to read to her Wednesday. I like it this way, what do y'all think? I'm going to leave it alone now, but I always appreciate feedback!

Dear T,

I have been worried about you for several weeks, although I have been too wrapped up in my own experience to reach out toward you in any way other than from a place of neediness. For the first time since I've noticed what I am about to tell you, I am in a place to regard you in a spirit of true compassion without the expectation of anything in return. I've perceived a distance in you that I do not feel is directed toward me personally or professionally. It simply strikes me that something is wrong. You've mentioned to me within the past couple of months several continuing health and mental issues. As your client, it is not my place to try to help you; but as your sister in Christ, it is my place to pray for you and love you. God is teaching me how to love through your very example. The lessons I am learning in my therapy experience with you will enhance and improve my life as long as I choose to abide by them.

No matter what is going on in your life, you always seem to soldier on. You are an adept and caring therapist who has made a tangible difference in my life. One thing I have always appreciated in my therapeutic process is that you have been willing to share with me some of your own struggles. This has enhanced and enriched my therapy in a way I never thought possible before beginning this journey. Therefore, I humbly ask, is something wrong, T? How may I carry you in prayer? Please know that this is therapeutic for me also, but I don't want you to share more than you are comfortable with. Considering all you’ve done and are doing for me, holding you in my prayers is the least I can do. If I am out of line or perceiving something that simply isn't there, please tell me, but I don't believe I am misperceiving as I’ve prayed over these words since my session last week.

Love,
Chopin
It sounds very well put i hope your t is not sick or on her way to a burn out
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 04:44 PM
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That is beautifully worded, Chopin. You have a gift with words.
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 04:52 PM
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It's beautiful, Chopin. I hope nothing serious is wrong with your T.
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 05:30 PM
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Thanks Granite!
Sweepy...I hope not either.
Artemis...thank you for the compliment...writing is my biggest passion.
Rainbow...I hope not...I really hope not.
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 05:35 PM
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Sounds good Chop. I think its perfect.
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 08:30 PM
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sounds great! very genuine and heartfelt! good work!
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Old Aug 31, 2012, 08:43 PM
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I'm going to challenge the typical "good job, Go with it!"
I'm not doing this to hurt you or be contrary.. .. I just want people to S T R E T C H themselves.

I think that the letter you composed is wonderful. But I wonder why you want to READ it to your therapist. I think that when we want to read things or recite things we want to S L O W things down. We want to be in control That's not a bad thing. Being in control is often a good thing. But often we seek a slow down when we are unsure. ... in crisis. .. .out of sych. .. . wanting control.

I don't want any of us to be "in control" . . . I want us all of us to be able to talk and be open to be what we want to happen. That's a hard thing. Most people want to just DECIDE how others are able to be or how they are able to react. But that isn't the way to be in this world. We all need an opportunity to react and BE! If we can all do that as a group, than we are successful and good!
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Old Sep 01, 2012, 02:12 AM
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Thanks Granite!
Sweepy...I hope not either.
Artemis...thank you for the compliment...writing is my biggest passion.
Rainbow...I hope not...I really hope not.
chopin, this is off topic, but do you want to publish anything in a small literary journal? we need nonfiction submissions. no payment but you get a copy of the book..if you or anyone is interested in submitting. you can be anonymous I won't know it's you.
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Old Sep 01, 2012, 02:18 AM
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Sounds great!!

On a side note, I noticed that my T seemed "off" during one of our sessions. I thought about it for a while, and then sent her an email asking if something was wrong. She was very grateful to me for bringing it up, and assured me that it was nothing related to me, and all that. It was great to hear that she was ok, and to just get that reassurance. I think most t's will just show gratefulness at the client's concerns. You are not crossing any boundaries at all. I would go with it, if i were you
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