How long did it take you to trust your t?

With my last one it only took a couple of sessions. This has never happend before. She just had a certain way of responding to me and making me feel safe.

This is a really tough question because everyone's definition of trust is different.

I certainly felt heard and recognized a willingness to help me from the first session; had I not, I might not have returned.

But the kind of trust it takes to be emotionally vulnerable with someone probably took about 9 months (I've wondered if unconsciously it is like a birth).

In a therapy situation, I think this may be key: Can there be trust when there is fear?

I'm not sure we feel what trust is until we choose to trust despite the fear.

I felt that she "got" me on the first session, and now, 15 months later I do trust her, and trust that I can tell her anything, not worry what she thinks of me. However, I don't trust her to catch me in the falling back/trust exercise...

I have been seeing my T for 9 mo now every week. At first there was no connection but my H connected w/ her so I continued because it was important that he find someone he like being that this was his first time w/ T. We have had more then a few visits alone now just me and her and I feel more comfortable w/ her then I used to. I have just began to trust her. I believe her when she says you are safe in here. Your H cannot hurt you in here. I know she has my back if my H becomes dangerous and it is not safe for me to go home w/ him and she makes other arrangements for me. I trust her judgement to make that call.

I am doing trauma work and I am just now starting to trust her w/ the truth. I am terrified but I think she is trust worthy even though I may not fully trust her yet. It is a process, and I am quite resistant to forming bonds, relationships and trusting.

I trusted my T as soon as I met him. I guess I am one of the few. I was in a day program and was so lost and didn't want to be there. I went there every day and saw him once a week, and it was honestly the only thing I looked forward to. And six years he has stood by me through some tough times and has been my rock and guardian angel.

I trusted my xT with some things, but I didn't trust him with others even after 7 years. I am not sure I know what trust is, but I can't chose to trust, it has to be visceral. I guess I trusted him? I am working on trusting my new T. He has proven to be trustworthy so far.

After 9 months of weekly sessions, I finally was able to take a leap of faith to begin to open up and to begin to trust. It has grown but still has ups and downs because that is how I am - I trust then I fear then I run then I rebuild trust, then I ... well you get it. But I will say that it gets easier, I learn to not run so much, and when I return to rebuild trust again, I find I didn't lose it all. So, it continues to grow.

About 3.5 years. To get a little trust. Now, after over 6 years I trust him a lot more.

The woman is trustworthy is some ways, and not in others. Just like everyone else. Except for their inability or unwillingness to explain what they do for a living, they are pretty much like everyone else one comes into contact with.

Wolfie,
You make a good point!

This is such a difficult question to answer. I know that it took me about 6-9 months to get beyond just very safe chit chat sort of stuff with T. He was actually starting to get frustrated with me thinking that there was no reason for me to be seeing him. We had a bit of a rupture I guess (the only one I think we've had). After that I opened up a bit more and now after about 4 years of weekly sessions I feel like I trust him very much.

What is odd is that although I think I trust him, I continually have fears of him "firing" me and wanting to get rid of me as a client. I didn't realize that this was a trust issue but it seems that it is.

I don't. I've seen her maybe four times, so it's a little early. I don't really know anything about her. She kind of seems aloof, most of the time she just parrots back to me what I've already said. I'm not sure where any of it is going.

I don't trust my T. I can freely talk with her about issues and things that it's obvious I have issues with, like fears and anxiety, but I could never tell her anything about harm or wariness towards her. I keep up a polite and composed smile facade there without even trying, it just comes out. To me, that's like a defence mechanism, so I'd probably only trsut her when I am able to show her a true frown.

I trusted with information. My deep hurtful feelings took about 2 years I believe and we still haven't gone all the way deep.