c o u c h 38 - The dark ages....

I hear you and I sympathise. I know how annoying that can be.

I used to feel like this.
Come to me with a problem? Then I'll tell you how to solve it.
Didn't take my advice? Then why should I waste my breath?

But over the years, I have learned that people very rarely want advice, even if they ask for it.

Perhaps your friend just wants to be heard and be taken seriously?

Sometimes listening is all you can do. Sometimes listening is all they want.

PS:

Gah! I've just given you advice and you didn't even ask for it.
I challenged you when you wanted support.
First take the plank out of my own eye...

RTS had a much better answer.

Thanks. I think I'm running out of movies to watch. lol. I haven't read for pleasure in ages. Maybe I should try that. That probably beats my long-shot plan of wallowing and wishing something would happen to me.

I do try to be patient and not offer advice after the first time. I think only once has it worked to actually say 'stay if you're going to stay and leave if you're going to leave, but in either event, suck it up and stop making every one around you miserable.' In one case, the person stopped and said I was right and then they left to think over what they were going to do. They stayed, and at least acted happy about it. In other cases, people have just said they wanted to talk through their choices. We go over all of the choices we can see, but the person shoots down EVERY SINGLE IDEA. At that point (and it has happened several times to me over the years), my patience is usually shot. Lately I've taken to saying, "well I guess you're screwed. That's too bad. I'm hungry; let's go eat." That tactic seems to annoy my friends but at least then they stop ****ing talking about it to me.

and she thinks she was suportive of you. what did you want she didn't do can't

Yes, I know how annoying that is.

Lola- That painting thing looks fun.
Chopin - I will be interested to see where your painting goes. You are so talented.

Our team was eliminated in the first round of play...so I got to go shopping at the craft store! I got some 5x7 drawing paper and watercolor paper from the dollar bin - just for doodling and trying things out.

It's sunny but cold out. Going to try going for a walk.

RTS - None of the answers today were Magna Carta. (I think you suggested that answer.)

Fixated... is there somewhere you can go where you can be around people? with an opportunity for potential of meeting some people? Art class...book club at a bookstore or library, etc...

OMG - I just realized my T kind of looks like Katrina from Katrina and the Waves but less 1980s fashion...

Sconnie... I didn't suggest it but it made me laugh when I read it this morning...

You feeling any better about T

MKAC what's got a bee in your bonnet today? Fix , go to the bookstore and get a coffee and a goof book, maybe play chess or checkers with someone. I'm getting ready for our class...I guess I will bathe first..lol

Have fun Lola! I would love to see your painting when its finished...if you want to share.

Holy f**k, it's already snowing. Wasn't supposed to start until 9 pm. It's already covering the roof.

Will do...I'll be sporting my valentine day jeans and new justins!

I thought all the best artists were a little on the grungy side.

have fun lola hope you will post it

Going on a date with my h.

Healed... hope you will be able to relax and have fun... take a break from being around kids all day and enjoy yourself...

(if that was too positive like you wanted to poke my eyes out .. like I usually do with someone who is all sunshine and roses) then....replace it with I hope you have a tolerable time...

Try and have a good time Healed! I opted to wash. Dinner at a chinese place first! Post my pic later. Yall have a great night!

Hmmm.. Well to whomever suggested it... Magna Carta was not an answer.

I am still angry about my session, but not quite as much. I am sure by the time I see t again on the 25th I will be ready to discuss it with her. Months ago T told me "My hope for you is that you find some joy in your life." Somehow I connected that to the "May It Be" song by Enya. So.... when I get really upset about a session or really angry with t, I listen to that song. I guess it's t's theme song. For some reason it eventually brings me back to being okay with t.

Wow Sconnie.... I've never heard Enya before...that song is Beautiful yet I'm not sure I understand its meaning... I might need to listen to it again...

I remember you were upset but I don't remember why... I hope your feelings get better.... and truely are resolved and not just pushed down...

Where did everyone go?
I'm going to do some laundry, eat some Chinese takeout left overs, and chill.

Tomorrow I have a "date" with this guy I've been messaging online. My anxiety has been elevated for the last two weeks. Relationships is one of my huge issues to deal with in therapy...

The song makes more sense in the context of the 1st Lord of the Rings film. It was used for that.

I was upset at some things t said last session....I will put on my big girl panties and talk about them next time.

The naturalists, class, are obsessed with putrefaction.

Old joke, "Do you know the difference between God and a doctor."

God doesn't think he's a doctor.

Hi Ike... are you surviving all the chaos of moving? when do you start the new job?