C O U C H 39 -The Renaissance Period

That is why I have 2. But I get to pick the one I let the other person ride.

um...bald and a faded celt's cap too. Got ya beat.

I'm changing my mind several times a day.
I'm flip-flopping.
To be precise, I am now in a state of flop.

It this instant, I'm feeling that T's crimes are forgiveable and I've blown the whole thing out of proportion. I want to carry on. I will read her my notes but I won't quit.

I am now waiting for the next wave of homicidal rage.

and Sadie is biting my feet, so it means time to close the laptop and pay attention to the 2 yr old pup.

wiki out.

I've only ridden one once, when I was four. I don't think I enjoyed it very much. I remember yelling "slow down" and being informed that we were going as slow as it was possible to go. Perhaps it's time to give it a go again.

No. I have already learned that I am incapable of sharing.

Or did you mean that I need to learn how to share?
How can that be learned? T refuses to "teach" me anything.

If we have to "share" a bowl of cool whip, I will immediately divide it into two bowls. That's yours, this is mine.

To me, that seems like a good solution.

But you did share by dividing it in half. Giving half of something you have away is sharing.

blech. Nori is GROSS. It tastes like an animal.

okay...wiki really out now.

So seriously, you state you are unable to forgive. You are unable to share. You have a child, right? I have read what you write about her. Neither of those things seem true in how you deal with her. So are you really sure that you are INCAPABLE of those things?

OKay need some outside perspective.... am I being an unreasonable control freak?

situation: I only see T every other week. I have an appt tomorrow at 7pm. My H had knee surgery on Monday. He is in a brace so he cannot bend knee. He's not supposed to put weight on leg without the brace on...He can unlock the brace so his knee can bend but only once he is sitting in a car seat so he can get his leg in.. Surgeon wants him out of work till next Thursday...So he wants to go to my son's basketball practice tomorrow night at 7:30pm (he is the coach but he has to assistant who ran it Tuesday night) so that means he will be unlocking the brace for the first time and try to drive for the first time when I'm not available to help... what if he gets there and cant get the brace to lock back or if he's in too much pain to drive home from being up for so long...

I told him I didn't want him to go because I won't be able to concentrate on my appt because I will worry... and its too late to cancel my appt for free....

Is it wrong for me to try to control him? He's not talking to me.

No.

It's totally inexplicable, but my marriage works. I think my wife has wisely decided to avoid the word "share". But we have designated responsibilities.

Initially my responsibility was to earn an income and she did the rest. (OK, I did some "man jobs" in home maintenance as well.)

But over the years, I have stepped up to a variety of responsibilities. This year: driving our daughter to school every day. My acceptance of domestic responsibility is T's greatest triumph.

That's a philosophical question. The "reality quotient" in T's room could be anything from 0 to 100%.

Wife wants to "talk" ugggg.... Have a good night ya'll!

As I see it, if he gets there and is in too much pain to drive home, then he has to wait until you can come get him, call a cab, or get one of the assistant couches to drive him home. I would not let his stubborness ruin my appointment. (In truth, I have been your husband's position and partner has been in yours. I went, I figured it out. If her appointment was ruined, I thought that was her deal, not mine).
Or ask him to practice locking and unlocking the brace to ease your worries.
I doubt I am in the majority here.

oh god that is the worst. I am being serious here. ugh indeed.

Good luck with the talk Lola. I am not a fan of "talks".

Okay.... you are right. He's an adult it he gets himself in a situation then he will have to figure it out... and my worrying is my issue... thanks for some good perspective on boundaries.

Ready, I'm with stopdog on this one. He is an adult and you should not let his decision interfere with your appointment.

Yes indeed!

Sometimes her method can be hard to understand.

Yes. That strategy works for cool whip.
But for power, "sharing" and "dividing" are two different things.

In politics, "separation of powers" is regarded as a great virtue.
"Power sharing", on the other hand, is generally a regrettable and doomed compromise.

Therapy is neither cool whip nor politics. Cool whip was your example.
I agree in not sharing power about me wih anyone.

Will there be another adult there who can help him?
Does he have a cell phone so he can call for help in an emergency?

Au contraire, ma cherie, I agree entirely.
(I can't speak for the majority, but I can speak for me. )

Rts: wtf?! Is he trying to blame you for his knee being wrecked? Why is he even going out? The kids can do without him. He is supposed to be recuperating, not coaching!!! He should call HIS drs office and get advice, but if I were him, I'd stay home and eat bon-bons. Idiot. I'm staying single. I hope he's happy now!!

ETA: I mean, is his unspoken intention to get you to skip therapy and ultimately quit your T? Or am I projecting and being paranoid and stuff.

Hankster- your remaining single will teach rts's husband quite the lesson.

Won't it though?!! ETA: Can I just eat bon-bons then?