Couch 47.0 (we finally debugged)

Ok, mastectomy support group at 7. I WILL go!

Hi everyone! I haven't stopped in much lately. Between kids and their activities, and all the work I've done offending my siblings this week, I have barely had time to do anything else. Some people really don't like it when you actually try to address the issues instead of tip-toeing around them. Sheesh!

And ready came by last night but she feels invisible

OMG, wiki, baby squirrels????? That must've been the funnest thing EVAR!!!!

And, wow, about the diamond! THAT was major!

Hey EllieBear!

Yeah, as I've learned to be more assertive, I find that people are quite put off by the directness. I actually appreciate it when people are direct with me...I'd much rather have the opportunity to know what's going on and be able to involve myself in working through it than learn things indirectly without the opportunity to do anything about it.

Wow Wiki that is very lucky about your diamond. Now I want to go play with baby squirrels.
Had a friend years ago who was a raptor rehabilitator ...I think that's the right term? Anyway she nursed all of these amazing birds back to health. It was pretty incredible.

Me too. I used to be a very passive person and my family doesn't like that I'm not any more. But I would much rather people say what they think then go around and around the elephant in the room. So I said it. It drives me crazy when they all sit and play the victim and no one will be direct about anything because nothing ever gets resolved. As I have become more assertive, I've lost a lot of family relationships and several members of my family hate me. Is it bad that I'm relieved that another one of my sisters is on that list and likely will never talk to me again?

No, I can answer that question...it's not bad. My family is so unhealthy that the more distance I have from them the better.

I do feel slightly guilty for being relieved that another one will never talk to me again though.

hi ellie ((((hugs))) whats going on with the siblings???

ready i so get feeling invisable. you are not invisable at all.i love ya bunches and i totally see you all the time

Hi Jersey! I missed your post before - I think because of the delay on new accounts. I am sorry that you are having a rough time.

And way cool about the diamond. I had the diamond on my (ex)wedding ring fall out in the wood chips at a park one time and we were able to find it a few hours later. Its amazing where those turn up sometimes. (And I'm not sure what to call my wedding ring now because I'm not married anymore...cash. I'll call it cash

(((Jerz))). I missed the post too

I missed my own post to be honest. lol.

We have been trying to have a family reunion since we have had one in the last 14 years. I have 5 siblings, and none of us talk much. My kids don't even know their cousins. I have a couple siblings that play the victim role really well and everyone tip toes around them. We have a reunion planned for July, but one sibling was getting upset because she has to come the farthest so the family is against her and blah blah blah, so I finally just brought it up and kind of called her out a little. I was super careful what I said, but I didn't give in to her demands and agree to do what she wanted. So now I am the biggest b***h in the world and she will never speak to me again. And the thing is, she really probably won't. And I don't even think I care. I'm sick of all of it. My parents hate me anyway, and I've "ruined the family" already, so oh well. That's three of the 5 siblings that seriously despise me now too. But it's all for reasons that I am okay with. I reported one of my brothers to CPS for abusing his kids. I've not taken their crap and stood up for what is right and not stood by and let them abuse each other and me, and for that I am an outcast.

Wikid - that is great about the diamond

Granite - you seemed to do much better about the visit this time

Jersey - don't delete the account this time. Just don't use it until you want to. No need to delete. That seems like an unnecessary amount of effort, particularly for not being back. (okay I am kidding about the last phrase)

Granite, I had carpal tunnel release surgery on Monday.

And this itchy rash from the hydrocodone won't go away!

It survived....ill pick it up in the am

hey stop thanks.i have kind of been seeing that i am the one who is being mean and has the attitude about the mother. i am overboard. i need to just get over it . you know after reading about how i was early in school it makes me look at things differntly.if my son behaved the way i did ,i would be upset also. i need to understand that it wasnt all her. i need to see my part in it and seeing her this time has kind of helped me see this.

ouch how long before you are back to two hands

I got a new coffee toy and am totally jacking myself up with caffeine playing with it.

CL - sport's bra.

I am glad you can start to see her differently for your sake now - in terms of you dealing with her as an adult.
But I am also certain (which from me is a very strong statement as I am almost never completely certain about anything other than as it relates to me) that no matter what a child does, they should not be treated the way she treated you. My point for saying this is due to concern that you not minimize your trauma. You did not deserve what she did to you.

wow ellie that is brave . it is great to be able to stand up for yourself and also speak up for the kids.it still must hurt because it is your siblings. sounds like you just shut down

stop can i pm what this teacher said about me exactally then maybe you would understand

Thanks y'all, I actually said that when I did it... About needing a soppy cup.

Wiki- WTG on the diamonds else, murry, tru and MUE.... What up?

Jersey we are always here for you 2.0

whats the new toy