How to tell her?

I met with my psychiatrist yesterday and told him that I think I need to see my T more because I am having a very difficult time working through trauma. He suggested I talk to her about it so yesterday I told her I need to discuss something with her and she said we could talk today. I am sort of regretting that because I am afraid that if I ask to see her more she will think I am being too needy. Then my black and white thinking says that will lead to her not wanting to see me anymore.

Basically does anyone have any advice about how I can talk to her about this without being annoying about it? I constantly feel like I am a burden to her and don't want to put her through any more stress dealing with me.

Thank you guys.

mandazzle...
You are not putting her through stress. You have paid her to handle your pain and help you thru a difficult time. You are now offering to pay her double to help you more. It's scary, I know, but think about it in those terms. You aren't being annoying, you are asking for what you need. I'd simply say "I am really struggling right now and I was wondering if you can fit me in for extra sessions until I get better".

It will be okay, your T has heard it before, and she can handle it.

If you are worried that she's going to find you needy... tell her plainly something like "I'd like to have more frequent sessions for you for at least the short term; I'd like to work on X and I think that seeing you more frequently would help my progress for a while. I'm hoping it'll only take Z long to start with progress, but we could talk about it at say, maybe Y-date?"

Then you're explaining WHY you would like more sessions, with a clear goal in mind.. and providing a date to re-evaluate the necessity of the more frequent session. That's proactive, not needy

Print out your post and give it to her or read it to her. It will be good for her to know what your fears are.

Wow, you went from wanting to talk to someone to not being allowed to even look at them because of such an impertinent desire in only two sentences

Start with what T said yesterday when you told her you wanted to talk to her. She gave you permission to do that today! You have permission to talk to her, to tell her what you want.

The end. That's all you have so far. You don't know anymore, the rest is all in your head. Now you just have to tell her what you want, you have to make yourself say, "T, I'd like to see you more often because I am having a very difficult time working through trauma."

You didn't have any trouble talking to your psychiatrist, telling him what you wanted. Remember that, too. Just have the same conversation with T that you had with your psychiatrist.

I have been where you are. I'm sure I have probably written 50 posts about it. I did finally manage to fumble my way through & I am SO much happier with my new appointment schedule. Good luck!

Try writing out your needs first, then share them with the therapist. Therapists are trained to listen to people's needs, so don't feel needy.

I think most therapist's appreciate honesty, so telling her that you wanted to ask about seeing her more often, as you are having a hard time but also let her know that you have been worried about asking her as you dont want her to think you are being too needy etc but you want to be open with her about your feelings.

You could also say that you know it may not be possible and would be open to talking about it.

Thank you everyone for your suggestions, it makes me feel more confident about asking her.