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Old Jun 13, 2013, 10:46 AM
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Sorry if this has been asked before, but was just wondering...

(not that I am impatiently waiting for a reply from T or anything... )
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 11:09 AM
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I email my T often and it really depends on his schedule or the content of my email. I've had emails responded to almost instantaneously and others that took a couple of days. Usually, the deeper the content, the more thought he puts into a response. Generally though, within a couple of hours.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 11:21 AM
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My T doesn't usually reply at all. He'll discuss it in the session. Occasionally he writes back with a brief response, either immediately, late that evening, or early on a Sunday morning, evidently his email catch-up times.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 11:21 AM
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Anything from 5 minutes to never.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 11:46 AM
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LOL Pbutton that's just like my T.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 12:25 PM
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Like the others said it depends on the emails content. If its a long detailed email, it will take t one or two days to reply because she puts a lit of time into her emailing. If its a short email then a couple of hours!
Are you waiting for a response for long?
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 12:28 PM
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The next morning for email. He's more of a texter now, except the problem with texting is, sometimes he forgets he texted me last, then he texts his evening "appointment" without changing the send-to, so all of a sudden ill get a text out of nowhere that he's on his way! And gee I hate to disappoint him... then I have to apply the heart attack paddles to myself again
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 12:33 PM
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Sorry if this has been asked before, but was just wondering...

(not that I am impatiently waiting for a reply from T or anything... )
At one point, it took T ten days to reschedule an appointment that T cancelled at the last minute. Another time, T took 25 days to respond to a request for help from me. This T is now ex-T. Fired for unprofessionalism.

Other times, T responded in an hour or up to 48 hours or never, with no consistency. It drove me mad!
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 01:39 PM
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My T has a policy that I'm only to email for scheduling issues. Usually he responds within the day.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 01:41 PM
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Ditto to all.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 01:58 PM
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Usually by the next day...but depends. I know I can send them and she will get to it as soon as she can.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:02 PM
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Mine doesn't check very often so we have a system where I text if I want help and email if I just want to tell her something. If she wants me to email her something like this week then I have started to ask when she is likely to check so I don't get preoccupied with checking for 2 or 3 days until I get a response.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:30 PM
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Like the others said it depends on the emails content. If its a long detailed email, it will take t one or two days to reply because she puts a lit of time into her emailing. If its a short email then a couple of hours!
Are you waiting for a response for long?
I suppose not that long...I waited over a day for a response this time. I did get it then. I think the trouble is that T used to respond to my long emails where I have been either really down or really worried about something, with a few reassuring paragraphs. Sometimes it would take her a day or two to get the time but it was worth the wait. Now, more often than not, I get a very brief response sent from her phone along the lines of we'll talk about this next week. It's usually a fairly quick response. Since this response took longer, I guess I hoped that she would have gone back to writing a little bit in her reply to keep me going. I'm just struggling with things seeming to have changed with no apparent reason
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:35 PM
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Thanks all for your replies. It seems there is alot of variation as usual between different therapists. Sometimes when I read others responses I feel lucky and like I'm being spoilt for wanting more for T. But it's just the fact that rules seem to change without me knowing about it. If T had some sort of policy around emailing, I would understand it and respect the boundaries. But I have gone from getting thoughtful, reasonable length replies to my emails to getting a brief one saying we can talk about it next session. I'm so confused as to why this has changed. T recently moved away and I have been seeing her every 2 weeks instead of every week and I'm wondering if the payment has something to do with it (although I am paying her the same amount infact as I do double sessions when I am there). But it seems that in the weeks between I don't get much response from T, when infact now I need it more since there is longer between my appointments. Perhaps as I am not paying for that week, that's why I don't get the responses anymore? I don't know. Just feeling sorry for myself and likes she doesn't care as much about me anymore
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:40 PM
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Maybe as she has moved her schedule has changed some and she no longer has as much time for long replies.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:44 PM
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Depends on when and what I email. I've had it be almost instantly to no reply at all. Usually, I can count on T to reply within 24 hours, unless I email her on Friday, Saturday, or Sunday - then she'll reply on Monday.

T tends to reply in the mornings, so I know that if I send something before 8 am, I'll get a reply same day. After 8 am, I may get a reply if she happens to check email and it's something she can reply to quickly or that seems urgent, but there's no guarantee.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:46 PM
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It usually takes T a day if it is during the week, Monday- Friday. If I email Friday or on the weekend sometimes I'll get a reply on a Saturday or Sunday night, but typically Monday morning. Sometimes I've got a response in a matter of minutes or a couple of hours, even on the weekend, but it's probably coincidental that's when T checked her email. "Business" related or therapy issues related, the response is usually only a couple of lines.
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:50 PM
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My T responds usually in few hours- though I contact him only re the scheduling...
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 02:58 PM
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Maybe as she has moved her schedule has changed some and she no longer has as much time for long replies.
Yeah that's possibly it. I know she was setting up a new practice and possibly doesn't have other clients yet so maybe she is more out and about doing things than being in her office at the moment...

I just wish she would tell me if things need to change. Makes me wonder if I did something wrong or she got sick of my emails...
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 03:10 PM
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Thanks all for your replies. It seems there is alot of variation as usual between different therapists. Sometimes when I read others responses I feel lucky and like I'm being spoilt for wanting more for T. But it's just the fact that rules seem to change without me knowing about it. If T had some sort of policy around emailing, I would understand it and respect the boundaries. But I have gone from getting thoughtful, reasonable length replies to my emails to getting a brief one saying we can talk about it next session. I'm so confused as to why this has changed. T recently moved away and I have been seeing her every 2 weeks instead of every week and I'm wondering if the payment has something to do with it (although I am paying her the same amount infact as I do double sessions when I am there). But it seems that in the weeks between I don't get much response from T, when infact now I need it more since there is longer between my appointments. Perhaps as I am not paying for that week, that's why I don't get the responses anymore? I don't know. Just feeling sorry for myself and likes she doesn't care as much about me anymore
You said that she recently moved away? Could this be something to do with it? She is busy settling in and finding her way round the new area. Maybe she has a lot of business to sort out with the move.
Moving is one of the most stressful things a person will ever do.
From what you say your t seems to have been consistent in her replies, the frequency and content, I think your t is just a little busy right now, she does care or she wouldn't answer at all. Can you try see it that t is busy, she still cares as much but she has a lot going on right now?

Or you could just ask her next time you see her? Btw, I have to pay for emails so that is only reason my t always responds
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 05:22 PM
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Always within 24. Except I sent her one yesterday and have not heard a thing. Keep checking my email!!!
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Old Jun 13, 2013, 06:09 PM
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my t checks her email intermittently throughout the day. So usually in a couple hours.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 04:09 PM
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Most of my T's responded fairly quickly...like within a few hours.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 04:15 PM
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The rule is that now she doesn't respond to my emails unless they're about scheduling. In that case, it's quick, like minutes to a couple of hours.
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Old Jun 16, 2013, 04:17 PM
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Usually within a few hours, the longest being a couple of days over the weekend. The general average would be about 6 hours I think.
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