Therapist wants me to go for inpatient treatment

Jun 17, 2013, 06:55 PM

I have been with my therapist for the past 3 years. She is now asking me to consider an inpatient treatment for my depression and anxiety. I just don't see what going into a facility for 5-7 days is going to do for me. Another major factor is that I am a caregiver to my spouse who is quadriplegic. We do not have anyone that could care for him while I am gone, so I have no idea what we would do. Any thoughts or opinions on this? Are there other options besides going inpatient?

rainbow8 · Jun 17, 2013, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Squiggle328

I have been with my therapist for the past 3 years. She is now asking me to consider an inpatient treatment for my depression and anxiety. I just don't see what going into a facility for 5-7 days is going to do for me. Any thoughts or opinions on this?

Oh, Squiggle! I'm glad to "see" you again but I'm sorry that you're still feeling so depressed and anxious. Did you ask your T why she's suggesting inpatient treatment? She must feel there are advantages to it. I don't know much about it but I know others will give you their experiences with going inpatient. I just wanted to say "hi, I miss you, and good luck with whatever you decide."

Mapleton · Jun 17, 2013, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Squiggle328

I have been with my therapist for the past 3 years. She is now asking me to consider an inpatient treatment for my depression and anxiety. I just don't see what going into a facility for 5-7 days is going to do for me. Another major factor is that I am a caregiver to my spouse who is quadriplegic. We do not have anyone that could care for him while I am gone, so I have no idea what we would do. Any thoughts or opinions on this? Are there other options besides going inpatient?

Do you have insurance or resources to cover it? I'm sorry about the caregiving... I'm sure that you should raise the concern about the caregiving with T

Jun 17, 2013, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Mapleton

Do you have insurance or resources to cover it? I'm sorry about the caregiving... I'm sure that you should raise the concern about the caregiving with T

She looked into my insurance and it will cover it. She is also very aware of my situation with my spouse and taking care of him. Right now, I am out of school and my daughter is home from college. She feels it may be the right time for me to 'take a break' and 'take care of myself' for a few days.

I can see where she is coming from, but my husband takes a lot of care. I cannot put all of that on my 19 year old. There's a lot of 'personal' care to be done and that would be tremendously awkward for both of them.

I go through spells like this. Severe depression and anxiety. I always pull out of it sooner or later. I think she just wants me to be evaluated by some other professionals and get some other opinions about my care. And she wants me to 'get a break' from being a caregiver. I can see where that may be a good idea.

I just want to feel better and live my life without having to deal with depression and anxiety!

Jun 17, 2013, 07:42 PM

Squiggle... could you hire a male companion for your H? does you insurance cover any care for him? How about a residential care for your H? would your insurance cover it for a few days?
How about a day program? the things that came to my mind is that can you really "take a break" or "take care of yourself" in other wards relax if you have to leave him with someone else?

Jun 17, 2013, 08:03 PM

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Squiggle... could you hire a male companion for your H? does you insurance cover any care for him? How about a residential care for your H? would your insurance cover it for a few days?
How about a day program? the things that came to my mind is that can you really "take a break" or "take care of yourself" in other wards relax if you have to leave him with someone else?

We have an assistant who comes for 3 hours per day, but my husband is too embarrassed to let her do 'personal' care, so I still take care of all of that. She helps him prepare meals, exercise, and does light housekeeping. She is also somewhat of a companion to him when I am at work.

He does have Medicare and Medicaid, but it is ALOT of red tape to go through to get any kind of services for him. But, just in case I should ever decide to go for inpatient, I think we should check into what kind of services they would provide for him if his primary caregiver (me) was not able to care for him for a few days.

Flooded · Jun 17, 2013, 08:38 PM

Hi squiggle,

I think you need to look after you for a bit. It is hard work being a carer and you're entitled to some respite.
Maybe your spouse needs to get over his embarrassment so you can have a well-deserved break.

Sometimes psychotic · Jun 17, 2013, 09:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Squiggle328

I have been with my therapist for the past 3 years. She is now asking me to consider an inpatient treatment for my depression and anxiety. I just don't see what going into a facility for 5-7 days is going to do for me. Another major factor is that I am a caregiver to my spouse who is quadriplegic. We do not have anyone that could care for him while I am gone, so I have no idea what we would do. Any thoughts or opinions on this? Are there other options besides going inpatient?

I'm not sure that the hospital would be a relaxing break....how about a vacation instead? If you have to arrange for care for your H for a week I'd go with the vacation. Has your T got experience with inpatient? My roommate when we first met lifted up her shirt to show me scars where she was supposedly cut open and put up on the table and violated....a lot of the people in the hospital are out of touch with reality in addition to those in for depression and anxiety. I changed roommates twice in one night, the second on was afraid of me so I ended up in a single room. IMO you should not go unless you are a danger to yourself(or others). It's not pleasant.

Jun 17, 2013, 09:21 PM

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I'm not sure that the hospital would be a relaxing break....how about a vacation instead? If you have to arrange for care for your H for a week I'd go with the vacation. Has your T got experience with inpatient? My roommate when we first met lifted up her shirt to show me scars where she was supposedly cut open and put up on the table and violated....a lot of the people in the hospital are out of touch with reality in addition to those in for depression and anxiety. I changed roommates twice in one night, the second on was afraid of me so I ended up in a single room. IMO you should not go unless you are a danger to yourself(or others). It's not pleasant.

She is not wanting me to go into the hospital, but a Behavioral Treatment Center. My sister went there at one point, so I am somewhat familiar with what they do. I don't like the 'group' therapy part. I don't want to 'share' my personal issues.

My therapist actually worked at this treatment center so she knows what they offer and how I would be treated.

Sometimes psychotic · Jun 17, 2013, 09:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Squiggle328

She is not wanting me to go into the hospital, but a Behavioral Treatment Center. My sister went there at one point, so I am somewhat familiar with what they do. I don't like the 'group' therapy part. I don't want to 'share' my personal issues.

My therapist actually worked at this treatment center so she knows what they offer and how I would be treated.

Ok that's probably better...I just wanted to warn you about the hospital in case you didn't know...I'm glad you're not going there.

Still if I were taking a week the beach would be nicer.

WikidPissah · Jun 18, 2013, 06:23 AM

A few days of intense treatment at a specialty place like that can be very helpful. They can help with med adjustments, and you learn a lot just by being around others who are similar. I highly value the two weeks I spent at a women's trauma unit that specialized in ptsd.

I think if you call medicaid they will tell you over the phone what types of help they can be. Also, Rights of The Disabled is VERY helpful as well at telling you what you can get.

Good luck.

skysblue · Jun 18, 2013, 07:43 PM

Sometimes (probably MOST times), it's difficult to foresee how a change can or cannot be helpful. Would you agree that maybe it's worth a try? And I'm sure the logistics of the care taking of husband can be worked out.

Like anything else, there are no guarantees but if your T thinks it might be useful and you trust her enough that you've been seeing her for 3 years, maybe, just maybe, a leap of faith might be in order.

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