[Squirrel1983]

Welcome to the new couch.
This thread moves quickly so please don't be offended if your post gets missed. We are a friendly bunch and welcome you to jump in and join the discussion.

A word of warning from the wise Stopdog- contacting the T while intoxicated is not advisable.

Great Job Squirrel!

Hey Lola... how are you doing?

Here's a nice, beachy, summery couch for us all.

[healed84]

Lola is on a little vacation.. I think she has popped her head in once or twice in the last couple of days though!

[Squirrel1983]

Long week ahead of me...hopefully, I will survive it.

Sun - Senior place 9-3 (unless they ask me to stay late)
Mon - Senior place 9-2; C 2:30-5:30/6:00
Tues - C 8-9/9:15; Dad 9:30-?
Wed - Senior place 9-1; C 2-5
Thurs - off for the holiday
Fri - Senior place 9-3 (unless they ask me to stay late)
Sat - relax after a long week. but still have to clean and do laundry

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Thanks, Squirrel, for the new couch! Looks like you have an incredibly busy week ahead!

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Hey couch peeps!

Survived the trip to the mall, although there were times when I just had to get off my feet due to the sciatic pain. Took the girls out to dinner, had a great coupon which made the meals quite inexpensive.

My daughter's BFF's dad took the girls to see fireworks tonight. My daughter doesn't like her BFF's dad very much because he's quite demanding, controlling and mean - but she went with him to see fireworks. I ran out to the grocery store and am counting the minutes til she gets home.

When the girls get home, we're going to rent a movie (never used Red Box before, so it'll be a first for me tonight) and then watch a movie before bed.

Totally unrelated, I think we have a mouse issue, and I'm hoping it's just outside and not in the house (although we've had mice before). Stepped outside and saw a mouse run by the hot tub under my deck. Then, later this afternoon, saw a different mouse on my second story deck. Yikes. They're cute, but I really don't need a rodent problem right now. Not sure what to do about it at the moment. It's nature, so I suppose they're where they're supposed to be - just don't like them so close to the house.

MUE.... we live next to farm land and we have field mice in the area and we had an issue with them getting in basement... so our 2 natural solutions are... 1. we don't kill snakes that we find in the yard. 2. we bought this stuff called Shake Away at hardware store...its organic rodent repellent...(its usually made of urine of a predetor)... we shake it around the parameter of our house and then around our cars especially in the winter... It really really works...

we also had to clean out basement and my H said he found lots of nests with lots of babies.(I did not ask what he did to the babies and he did not tell me..). and then we also had the exterminator come too... ironically the worst case of mice we got in the summer but in the winter they get up in the car because its warm and then they chew on wiring...

Is your crazy cat a mouser?

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Thanks, RTS! I will definitely look into getting some rodent repellant. I'd rather avoid the problem if I can.

I actually saw a mouse in my bedroom a few times a couple years ago, and I set up a humane trap - but never caught it. My cat, though, caught and killed several mice downstairs around that same time. He's good like that, LOL. Haven't seen any in the house since then. My cat is the reason why we can't get hamsters anymore - love me some hammies - cuz when they get out of the cage, it's unlikely that we'll see them alive again.

MUE LOL about the hamsters... We got us a kitten when we still had a betta fish and we had to get a wire cover for the aquarium because we caught the kitten going fishin a few times...

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LOL, adorable kitties are hard to resist, even when they're trying to kill other household pets. LOL.

[stopdog]

I had a siberian mix who was the best field mouse killer I ever saw. She would twist her head like a radar dish and spring several feet away to get one. She was like that with moles too.

My H asked if I was upset about something. I said yes but I'll get over it. I didn't want to discuss it with him. I know most relationship advice will say that it isn't helpful to say "if you don't know what you did then I'm not going to tell you"...but for me its like "if you think back to what you said and you can't see what that you said something that was hurtful" then what difference will it make if I tell you it is hurtful to me... you didn't really mean it to be hurtful since you can't see what you did so its obviously my issue to get over."... and that is why it doesn't make sense to me to discuss things that upset me with the other person... it will end up being like two people speaking different languages

does anyone else understand what I mean?

[stopdog]

RTS - I have been in the position of your husband. But the thing is, I often really do not know why someone would be hurt by what I said. I might not want them to be (and usually I do not) but I really don't see what I said as upsetting. However, if my partner will tell me, I usually try to avoid doing it again. We both had to let go of the idea of me understanding or even agreeing - but as I do not want to do it in most cases - I can change it. So for us, that is a reason for my partner to bother telling me. It is like speaking two different languages. I am not that easily hurt, but she does not truly understand why I am when I am either, because it is not what would bother her or frankly many others from what I have seen.

[Ike McCaslin]

I see that RTS. But I am naturally avoidant.

I started to write the whole thing out but its just up to me to "get over it"... but really the comment was just another example of how he doesn't see us (this family) as a team... its him and then there is the rest of us (me and the kids) and as long as he is good... then his responsibilities are over... I am truly alone to figure all of the stressful life stuff (how to finance tuition payments, refinance the house, retirements, etc) by myself.

I've managed to push all of my friends away so I have no one to "complain to" or to bounce stuff off of to see if its me just being overly sensitive so I will just have to go with its me being overly sensitive.

SD, would it have upset you if your partner said yes she was upset but didn't want to discuss and she would probably just get over it?

At the beach headed to Baton Rouge , La to see the grands tomorrow ... Hope everyone is well.

Lola...I hope you are having a good trip and have a wonderful time with the grands....

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Readytostop

SD, would it have upset you if your partner said yes she was upset but didn't want to discuss and she would probably just get over it?

I would not be upset if after I asked, my partner did not tell me. I would say okay and go on. I might ask again, but I might not. I figure if she wants to tell me she will, and if not, then there is not much I can do about it.

Originally Posted by Readytostop

My H asked if I was upset about something. I said yes but I'll get over it. I didn't want to discuss it with him. I know most relationship advice will say that it isn't helpful to say "if you don't know what you did then I'm not going to tell you"...but for me its like "if you think back to what you said and you can't see what that you said something that was hurtful" then what difference will it make if I tell you it is hurtful to me... you didn't really mean it to be hurtful since you can't see what you did so its obviously my issue to get over."... and that is why it doesn't make sense to me to discuss things that upset me with the other person... it will end up being like two people speaking different languages

does anyone else understand what I mean?

I understand exactly what you mean. Most relationship advice seems to assume that people are all created out of one mold and that all relationships work the same way. I'm lucky in that it is very easy for me not to let H know when I'm upset, because it could only make things worse for both of us if he did.

Speaking of which, I am really sorry for melting down last night on the previous couch. Thanks to everybody for your sympathy. I was just falling apart and struggling so hard not to let H notice, as we are in a small hotel room so I couldn't move away physically.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

Just a suggestion...
I wonder if you might choose a name based on how you want to see yourself and not one that reinforces your negative self-image.

Thank you for this. It is a new thought for me. I shall have to process it in my mind

[Squirrel1983]

Morning couch.

Woke up early and now have lots of time before I have to leave for the senior place. I have an hour and 15 minutes. I'll "waste" that time online. Hey...it's not like it's porn or anything. PC is "normal" to waste time on.

[WikidPissah]

Hey all...
Thanks Squirrel for the new couch, it's lovely.
((mastodon)) you are wonderful, kind, thoughtful and intelligent.

The party went off without a hitch...I had a little old Italian woman rave about my eggplant, she went on and on about it. I didn't have the heart to tell her it wasn't real cheese, and there was no egg in it. The "family" came, and it went fine, I actually got some insight from my daughter about dealing with the older, rude girl in the family. My dog almost tore the father's hand off though (Sadie is quite a good judge of character!). My absolute favorite nephew came (don't tell the others he's my fav) all the way from CT, a 4 hour drive. So good to see him.

[granite1]

wiki i'm glad that it all came together for ya .