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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:04 AM
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Morning all. Trigger warning is for the discussion of the death of an animal.

Spent the day yesterday with my friend that I co-own the trailer with. She called me super early and said her ancient horse was down and could not get up on his own. I went over and we tried for several hours to try to help him stand, including using a sling and the tractor. This has been happening to him more often over the last few months. It would not be bad if he were just lying there comfortably, but he panics and is frantic and really tears himself up trying to get up. Anyway, we called the vet to come and euthanize him because my friend decided that she just couldn't keep putting him through this and she's worried it will happen while she's gone for the day and he will lie all day in panic and pain. While we waited, we fed him this giant bag of homemade horse muffins that I had made for him just last week.

When the vet got there, the vet kept second guessing my friend and it was really upsetting. I backed my friend up and we finally convinced the vet - but even at the last moment before pushing the plunger, she still stopped and asked again if my friend really wanted to do this. I was so angry. Of course she doesn't want to do this! She wants to save the horse pain. This horse is well over 40 for god's sake. The life expectancy for this breed is 25.

Anyway, after that, I helped her with her farm chores, ran some errands with her and fixed her lunch. It was a really draining day, but I'm glad I was able to be there for her.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:06 AM
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MUE... about xgrpcoT... I'm really surprised she would do that as its not as if you are her client. I don't know as a professional (CPA) I would never try to take another accountant's client in that client's place of business. If not contractually obligated with a non compete contract, I would contact people outside of the mutual business. IDK... her professionalism/ethics bother me... but that's just my perspective.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:13 AM
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Trigger ... animal death...

MKAC... its so hard to make that decision without being second guessed...it doesn't sound like this was the usual vet for this owner... usually vets are familiar with the animal enough to understand all of its issues...

My SIL has had to put a horse down before and she says its hard but the most humane thing you can do... she had a horse that was so injured and she couldn't get hold of her vet so she shot the horse herself... Its so nice for your friend to have a fellow horse person who understands and who can help her with the chores...

I'm glad you were able to be there for her MKAC...
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:14 AM
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Yeah, MUE, I have mentioned before that I view her behavior as bordering on unethical. Her approaching you IN THE OFFICE this way is really odd for me.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:20 AM
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This her regular vet. I used to use this vet, but found her too emotionally unstable and volatile for me to trust. I really thinks she suffers from a mental illness, and my friend actually agrees, but she works for her and knows the vet would get really emotionally abusive if my friend used a different vet. And I use the phrase emotionally abusive advisedly. The woman will browbeat, berate and name call to get her way those closest to her. The start of my problems with her was when she called my friend a name and blamed her for things the vet had done herself in front of me. I called the vet on it and things went downhill between us from there. Anyway, that's a really long story.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:24 AM
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Lola, I normally do have my wi-fi on. At home I use it. I used it at C's this summer because his mom gave me the pw. However, at K's they don't have wireless; so, I am stuck using my data. My mom only signed me up for 300 MB a month. I may ask her upgrade to the next level depending how this month goes. I know school has wi-fi, it would just be a matter of getting the pw so I could log on during lunch. Hoping maybe the teacher I work with knows it and would tell me it.

EDIT: Thanks for the suggestion though.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 11:59 AM
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(((JerZ))) hope you find a new family soon!

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Old Aug 11, 2013, 12:01 PM
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Wiki...

I hope you can do something comforting for yourself... you've had a rough couple of days.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 12:14 PM
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Had the most bizarre dream last night....

I dreamt that I was visiting my college that I was going to and I picked classes and I met with a family that I was going to babysit for and they were even asking what date I would be going home for holidays... and then I remember that I have a job and a family and I can't be going to college... then I was in my xT's office in the waiting area for hours... he keeps coming out and taking a different person... I spend the hours just pacing and running my hands through my hair becoming more and more agitated... and then I wake up..

the college part and realizing I can't go ... is a repetitive dream

the xT's office part is probably because I made another apt with him for tomorrow...
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 12:20 PM
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Wiki! Wiki! Wiki!

I'm just going to sit quietly for a bit and see how it feels hanging out here for more than 2 minutes...
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 12:31 PM
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Jersey....

the couch seems to go through cycles and this seems to be a slow cycle...
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 01:07 PM
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Well K is still sleeping. I woke het up an hour ago to eat lunch and then she fell back asleep. I guess she is tired today. J did say K had a sleepless night.

Two more hours, then to go home and clean.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 01:15 PM
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Idk if xgrpcot thinks mue's t is being abusive, then she is being unethical in service of the greater good and that is okay. All it takes for evil to prosper is for good people to do nothing, right? I'm not gonna worry too much about a bully's rights to victimise.

Eta: omg I have repetitive dreams about being back in high school or college! Only I'm my current age and aware of it in the dream - so weird!! There is usually a part where I am waaaay behind on the reading for an english or history class.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 01:32 PM
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Hitting the road ... I feel like a truck driver
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 02:11 PM
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Well just got a call from J asking if I could stay until 5 instead of 4. I agreed since it means more money. I will just have less time to clean when I get home. Maybe all I will do is change the litter box. That definitely needs done as it is starting to smell. And run the dishwasher because I need clean dishes to eat off of this week. I can always do everything else next weekend.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 02:21 PM
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yay familiar faces! Jersey, Lola, Wiki, hank, ready, and anyone who i might've forgotten. It's nice to see people I recognize still here.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 02:22 PM
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Ready: for quite awhile I had dreams about going back to college. It was around the time I got married. Funny, now my T is working on convincing me to go back and get a teaching degree.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 02:23 PM
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Hi Sila. I'm not that active here anymore. It's nice to see you to.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 02:27 PM
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Hi Sila. I'm not that active here anymore. It's nice to see you to.
I'm not too active here anymore either. But I miss talking to people.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 03:59 PM
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 04:04 PM
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What up Healed. Seems like the day I decide to hang around, I'm sitting on the couch alone. Lol
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 04:19 PM
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Mast, you're. .. whimsical! ! Like a Swedish Dr Seuss! This was gorgeous. I love writing poetry in a foreign language. But this was truly delightful.
Thank you! Being whimsical is a great compliment

My four-hour train journey took almost exactly eight hours. But it was all right - I did not get wet, I did get a seat both on the bus and on the next train, and the people in my carriage all started actually talking to each other in a very un-Swedish way - it was really nice! And the train staff ordered lots and lots of pizza so we got free pizza slices since the restaurant car was out of food. Am glad to be at my destination though.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 04:38 PM
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Home from K's. Kitty poop box changed/cleaned. Dishwasher running. Everything else can wait till next weekend. Dusting and vacuuming are not musts right now.

Now to relax before heading back to my "real" job tomorrow. Not that this summer's work wasn't real, it was just simple...I didn't have to think much. Here's hoping I don't show up at "my" school tomorrow and am told I was "bumped" (transfered) to another school. If I am at "my" school this year, here's hoping I am in the autistic class again. That was an enjoyable place to be last year.

Well...I'm off to eat some dinner and then shower and relax. To bed early tonight, so I am not tired tomorrow.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 04:52 PM
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Hey there....Back from my day long assignment, and I am exhausted. The migraine worsened as the day went on, so I finally caved and took the migraine meds that I hate so much. It didn't even touch the migraine. *sigh*

Even through being in a lot of pain, I was told by the client and the other patients at the psych unit that I was the best interpreter that they've had and wished I was there the entire time that the patient was there. One guy said, "Yeah, you don't treat us like we're lepers"....I was so touched.

The patient was upset last night that he wasn't provided with an interpreter for the night group last night....and one was not scheduled for tonight either. I felt awful for him. Unfortunately, it was a situation that's out of my control. The agency would gladly provide the service, but the facility has to arrange it and authorize it. No one with authority was around to be able to make that decision. I considered coming back for the night group meeting on a voluntary basis, but I didn't want to do anything that would somehow be held against me with the agency. Friggin boundaries.

My friend wants me to come back over to her house tonight to watch a movie, etc. I am soooo not feeling up to it right now. Maybe I'll try to lay down for a little bit first before deciding.
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Old Aug 11, 2013, 04:54 PM
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Oh, and as far as xgrpcoT goes....I'm not interested in judging whether or not she was being ethical, but I understand the concern.

It was more of an FYI, I'm not going to be around anymore kind of thing....and letting me know that she still has the same number. I do believe she just wanted to make sure I knew and that she was still reachable if I needed her.

I was more interested in the other dynamic - of how T feels about people being unhappy with him and leaving his facility.
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