Couch 60: Don't forget the beachball!

Squirrel - I think you said you have a smart phone - if it is android - you might can put your music on a micro sd card (they are not expensive) and listen to music that way in the car.

Ready, I hope your phone consult goes well. I am still debating whether I am taking a break, or am just done for a while. I am checking in periodically to see how a few people are and to see if Wikid has checked in. I think I have too much stress in my life right now to engage on PC much -- especially when so many interactions were mimicking stuff from my childhood. I have posted a few things recently, but only very carefully and trying to do so without really sharing anything of myself, and only to a few people. But, I do care about a fair number of people on here, so I've found it hard to just quit cold turkey.

MKAC... I hope if you decide to be done for a while that you check in periodically like Jersey and Chopin do. I would miss you...

You know its so much progress to hear you say " interactions were mimicking stuff from my childhood".... I wish I could identify when interactions are healthy or not... whether the things that upset me are current day or past rearing its ugly head... I don't trust myself yet to know....

went to get kitty and the guy never showed up .got all messed up or something .I am done no kitty .I aint doing this

If this kitty doesn't work out...maybe you could adopt one from a shelter?

How disappointing for you granite. Like ready says can you try a rescue kitty?

Sorry to hear about the kitten

I don't mean to sound callous if you already saw pictures or met the kitten and are all attached. I think I pd $80 for my kitten from the rescue a few years ago and it had all of its shots and was already spayed/neutered..

Hi all. I'm sick over something. Anybody still up that could help me in a pinch?

I am here if you don't get a better offer.

Hey SD. It's going to sound rather stupid but here it goes... I have a neighbor who does not like us and I live in a condo development. I rent the condo. We have big dumpsters where the trash goes. Yesterday I threw trash out. I did not put the bag in the dumpster because I had the dogs with me-didn't have a free hand and the dumpster was just about full. I left the bag on the side...behind the gate. Well tonight.. I hear a tap at my door. I go down nobody is there but the bag is there with a note that says " Next time put your trash I the dumpster sincerely your neighbors" the bag had a piece of paper I threw out with my address attached. They stapled that to the outside of the bag and also the note and left it by my door. I'm sick that someone took the time to do all that. This neighbor really bugs me, triggers me. I don't know if I should call my landlord cause if they called the association then the association will call my landlord anyway. I'm just sick over it.

Stopdog is the better offer, but I can try too

Wow - your neighbor has some issues and a lot of extra time if that is how they spend their time. It is the sort of thing that when someone does it to me, I can get all worried and bothered too. I can react internally like I have just done something really awful even when the rational side of me knows it is not a big deal.
I would not bother calling the landlord if it was me. I would wait and see if the landlord says something to me and explain.

Some neighbors have nothing better to do. If you can just let it go, it may be best even if you didn't do anything wrong. Petty people get too much enjoyment escalating these kinds of situations. Not responding would drive them crazy.

Thanks. This guy is just after us. He called the association the association before on us saying we were not following pet rules when we were the he called another time trying to say we had a leak in our condo when we didn't. See, part of the problem is that he is on the association board, so whenever he calls whoever is in charge, they call us.

Oh unless not calling the landlord and explaining - ie waiting to see if you have been tattled on - is worse, in which case I would call and say explain just to stop the horrible feeling waiting to be clobbered can make me feel - again even where I know rationally that I am not going to get clobbered and that it is the other person acting like a lunatic and not me.

They may realize he is just a petty crazy person who is often wrong and ignore him (even where they have to call you - it still might be that they are just like okay we will call just to get him off their back).

Thanks. I don't know what this guys issues is with us. Then another person told my husband one time that in these developments, it's like the renters are the bottom feeders and the people who live in the ones they own want no parts of the neighbors who rent. I also know my landlord. He is somebody I used to work for.

I just can't get over how much I am trembling over this. Really trembling ready to throw up. Not even so much about getting clobbered so to speak but just...that it happened.

Can you try doing some grounding breathing exercises?

Yep. Thanks. Sometimes those work and I have therapy tomorrow. There is a lot of anxiety around my living situation anyway. Long story short. I worked for these people for 6 years. 2 years into the job, I was getting ready to move from an apartment and couldn't find anything else, at the same time they were buying this condo as an investment property. So they told me I could rent it. That was in 2008. I get a Good deal on rent. The job ended in 2011. Had some boundary issues. Got too attached. It's 2013 and I still live here. I know I wore out my welcome but I'm trapped. No money to move, bad credit, etc. it's really messed up.

So I think when something like this happens, it's like 10 fold and feels huge.

Those would add to the reaction. But the guy sounds like such a total jerk and living with jerks around you who seem to be after you is no fun at all. I am glad to hear you see the therapist tomorrow.

Thanks for listening. He is a total jerk. It's not like the bag was left out in the open. The dumpsters are behind a small gate that you have to open. I mean, really..it's not like I just threw trash.

I know. And I know it feels really bad too.