Couch 60: Don't forget the beachball!

welcome janec and good morning everyone .kind of nervous today about T but it is a good nervous I am glad she is back

Good luck with T granite. Do you have to wait long today for your appt?

morning jersey I was reading back and omg how petty of that guy.clearly he has control issues doesn't he? are you feeling a bit better tis morning?

I have T at 3 but I will be heading out for the morning to go make cards.that takes up some time

He is petty. I emailed my landlord and that took some weight off but I need to chill about and try to laugh it off. Really, they dug through the trash and typed a note. Is his life that pathetic and boring?

truly it is and I hope you might have has some rotten food for him to get all over his hands lol.

lol. There were bones from chicken wings that my H ate...Lol. So there's something. lol

my step mother always rips off the addresses on her mail for some reason and all maybe you might start doing this as you seem to have a dumpster diver as a neighbor.

Good idea.

hi guys

Wiki!!!!!

Hey Jerz.

I am lurking. lol. Things are insane, my morning PC ritual has all but been shattered. I need to figure out a better time to hang out.

get this:
(hold your gasps)
((don't judge))

my mother is living with me TEMPORARILY. Ugh.
Can I please complain without being told I am stupid?

The circumstances came up where it was either here or the homeless shelter. I am looking at apartments every day, and should have her placed by Oct 1.

Wiki...no one will judge you but It's good that you are trying to get her out ASAP. I haven't been around for awhile. How did that come about?

Jersey - I understand writing the landlord. I hope the feelings ease and that the therapist is useful.

Wikid - I hope it goes smoothly to find her another place to live. We do what we feel we must.

SD.. The more I think about it... The more I realize in his effort to humiliate me..he actually humiliated himself by trash picking/dumpster driving. It's pathetic. I'll deal with the trapped stuff in therapy then I'll have to try to get over it and accept that I can't change it overnight.

Well...
we sold her house last year. She moved in with my brother. He has been robbing her blind (which is what I expected). She's been on subsidized housing lists for almost a year, but there aren't many senior ones and they all have 2 yr wait lists. Brother's house is really old, and a wreck. Holes in the bathtub. No working sink. Etc. And icky. There was a huge blowout and he dropped her off at the shelter. Our homeless shelter is not a dry shelter...lots of drunks and druggies. And, it isn't open during the day, you can sleep there and that's it.

I have her on urgent housing lists. I am the only one with an extra room...so I took her. BUT I have told the housing assistance and elder services that she must be out by Oct 1. SO>....

I hope it goes quickly and smoothly. Hugs and love Wik.

Don't drunk-email your therapist - not really a couch rule, just a friendly reminder. And don't hug the Dog

ETA: Jersey, my mother's condo has a million rules like that. Like the owner has to walk to the door to let a guest in so there are no unescorted strangers in the building. When I would visit, I would naturally offer to go let my brother's family in, so the old granny didn't have to walk all the way to the door or interrupt her cooking. Then I would get all these "friendly" inquiries from old ladies as to when I had moved into the building. I'm such a naif, I'm like, oh no I'm just visiting! I would forget all about the stupid rule, my mother wouldn't say anything. I just hope she didnt get fined for my "kindness". All those rules would make me nervous, but I guess some people like it. I talked to my mom about her garbage. I dont think she believed me until she got a few reminders like yours. This is the first time in her life she hasnt been able to bully her way thru something, I love it! She's learning to live as part of a group, finally. But I'm sure your landlords appreciate what a good tenant you have been, aside from this one rule break! A good tenant is hard to find.

Hi Wiki...I'm so glad you checked in... I've missed you!!!

I hope you are taking care of yourself. Just because your M is living with you does not mean you have to wait on her or do things for her or let her manipulate you into babying her... Wish you lived near a senior center so that you could send her to a day program where she could socialize with people her own age and go to programs and do crafts, etc, etc.. I'm sure those things cost money but maybe its worth it so she's not in your house all day.

wiki I am so sorry you have to have your mother with you right now. I would have ended up doing the same thing so no judgment here only sympathy. definitely I am here if you want to rant and tell annoying mother stories. it may help you stay sane during this time

Thank you hank!!

Granite- I took a little power nap this afternoon and had a dream about you! You and your husband came to our school and selling baked goods. I only knew it was you b/c my boss referred to you as Granite and Granite's h! LOL.. Anyways, You were sure to give a discount on the baked goods b/c I was a member of pc, but nobody was allowed to pick what they wanted!! You picked it out for them. Silly dream I wanted to share with you

My therapist is the best. She told me when I saw the trash bag with the sign, that I should've removed the sign..typed my own that said " Please put this trash bag back where I left it. Sincerely, your neighbor" and left it on the outside of the gate of the dumpster. lol

ETA: When and if the association calls, I am just going to tell them that they should monitor the area more closely as there are trash pickers and dumpster divers around here.

went to T and it was nice to sit in her office with her . is that strange??? I didn't care much about talking or listening to her for all that matters but it was just nice to be sitting in her office with her. stupid right .it just felt ok. we talked about my family dynamics some. she asked some difficult questions.

Granite... Nothing wrong with wanting to just sit with her. I did the same thing. We just talked about pets, a dog park, her fish.. It was nice.