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Old Sep 13, 2013, 09:49 PM
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RTS - I think the couch will be supportive. Are you going to be able to check in with the therapist from time to time too?

CE - do you like travel?
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Old Sep 13, 2013, 10:04 PM
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RTS - I think the couch will be supportive. Are you going to be able to check in with the therapist from time to time too?

CE - do you like travel?
I don't particularly like travelling on business, but that's not the issue here. I have to demonstrate something that isn't finished yet. May worry is that it won't be finished on time.

You will remember that a valued teammate left the company and his successor is not yet as productive as I would like.
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Old Sep 13, 2013, 11:12 PM
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I found this interesting and don't remember if I have posted it before.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/artic...-have-problems
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Old Sep 13, 2013, 11:59 PM
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"In a 1993 study, James Guy, Ph.D., dean of the School of Psychology at Fuller Theological Seminary, compared the early childhood experiences of female psychotherapists to those of other professional women. The therapists reported higher rates of family dysfunction, parental alcoholism, sexual and physical abuse, and parental death or psychiatric hospitalization than did their professional counterparts."

I speculate that therapists are simply more able to recognise this and more willing to admit it. It doesn't necessarily mean that they had worse-than-usual childhoods.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 12:07 AM
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Norcross's second finding makes you stop and think: "When therapists treat patients, they follow the prescriptions of their theoretical orientation. But the amazing thing is that when therapists treat themselves, they become very pragmatic." In other words, when battling their own problems, therapists dispense with the psychobabble and fall back on everyday, commonsense techniques—chats with friends, meditation, hot baths, and so on.
Won't take their own medicine, eh?
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 12:28 AM
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 01:37 AM
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I wish I was contributing more around here. With the mixture of working and feeling like I have much to offer I have been laying low lately. Thinking of everyone though!!
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 03:46 AM
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 03:49 AM
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Ready...seems this is a very supportive couch full of people, sure we can all be here for you(even us new people).
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 03:53 AM
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sorry to keep posting, if I could I would do it all in one..but am not that technologically advanced it seems.

What a tough day. Parts of it I would really wish had not happened. A stranger scared the heck outta me today so my c-ptsd responses have been firing and I feel awful now. Then my 6yr old had a screaming fit at me when going to bed because he was soooooo tired, but this really triggers me as it reminds me of when he was a baby and things were very tough for me. I just want to cry right now, but am suppressing it.... emotions challenge me still.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:13 AM
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thanks stop,cant and janec. I just feel like it is the beginning of the end and I am so depressed because I put so much energy into trusting her. I know better then this . if it isn't because she has decided she no longer can work with me then she has something in her life that is preventing her from working . but in her message she told me she was ok. I have been through this before with T's and it seems exactaly like that from the past . first your late then moves to canceling appointment after appointment, being mean in session. and then leaving or sending you away because the relationship is no longer therapeutic .
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:15 AM
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sorry to keep posting, if I could I would do it all in one..but am not that technologically advanced it seems.

What a tough day. Parts of it I would really wish had not happened. A stranger scared the heck outta me today so my c-ptsd responses have been firing and I feel awful now. Then my 6yr old had a screaming fit at me when going to bed because he was soooooo tired, but this really triggers me as it reminds me of when he was a baby and things were very tough for me. I just want to cry right now, but am suppressing it.... emotions challenge me still.
it's ok to just let yourself cry. im sorry things were tough when your daughter was younger
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:24 AM
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I just feel like it is the beginning of the end and I am so depressed because I put so much energy into trusting her. I know better then this . if it isn't because she has decided she no longer can work with me then she has something in her life that is preventing her from working . but in her message she told me she was ok. I have been through this before with T's and it seems exactaly like that from the past . first your late then moves to canceling appointment after appointment, being mean in session. and then leaving or sending you away because the relationship is no longer therapeutic .
((( granite )))

I hope you can find a way to talk to T about this.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:27 AM
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((( JaneC )))

Sorry that you had such a rough day. I'm with granite on this one, try to allow yourself the space to feel your feelings and express them. Bottling them up tends to be harmful to us, emotionally, and even physically. Easier said than done, I know.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:28 AM
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Morning, couch peeps.

I woke up super early cuz a couple friends and I (and my daughter) are going to some yard sales this morning. I am sooooooo tired, though. This past week of losing so much sleep is catching up with me, so it's hard to keep my eyes open this morning. Hoping to be able to sleep in tomorrow though.

My friend already texted me this morning saying - come over for coffee, wake up!! LOL....Getting my daughter up is my next task. She will not be a happy camper waking up this early on a Saturday and then heading out in the chilly air.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:51 AM
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thanks stop,cant and janec. I just feel like it is the beginning of the end and I am so depressed because I put so much energy into trusting her. I know better then this . if it isn't because she has decided she no longer can work with me then she has something in her life that is preventing her from working . but in her message she told me she was ok. I have been through this before with T's and it seems exactaly like that from the past . first your late then moves to canceling appointment after appointment, being mean in session. and then leaving or sending you away because the relationship is no longer therapeutic .
Don't give up on your T just yet.
How many appointments has she canceled?
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 06:52 AM
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Heading to an apple Orchid with kids, H, MIL and FIL.. We pick a ton of apples, and then there are pony rides, games, and food for the kids. The kids are excited, me.. no so much. lol. I am glad the kids will have fun though!
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 07:04 AM
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Don't give up on your T just yet.
How many appointments has she canceled?
every other session in the last two months now ,
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 07:35 AM
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Did somebody say yard sales? Where? When? lol.

((((Granite)))))) I wish I had words. Don't give up. Hugs hugs hugs.

(((((Jane)))) it's okay to cry. It really is. You deserve the release of the emotions. Hugs.

Lots to do today-then work later. I'm being the happy helpful nanny and working tonight so my bosses can go out to dinner for their anniversary.

Hope everyone can make the best of the day. Hugs and love

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Old Sep 14, 2013, 09:46 AM
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Ok...
I am looking for your BEST PUMPKIN recipes.
I roasted and froze a bunch of pumpkin, and I am loving it in my smoothies...but there's got to be more. Even if your recipe isn't vegan, I can interpret anything.
Wikid, I have a wicked vegan pumpkin pie recipe, but I'm betting you already have one. Let me know if you want it, though.

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I miss her also.
Awwww! Thank you guys. So much.

I am having a really rough time and some of the stuff on PC was really feeding into how hard things have been. I have been checking back in though because I care about so many people, and I'm glad I did.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 10:02 AM
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Wikid, I have a wicked vegan pumpkin pie recipe, but I'm betting you already have one. Let me know if you want it, though.





Awwww! Thank you guys. So much.

I am having a really rough time and some of the stuff on PC was really feeding into how hard things have been. I have been checking back in though because I care about so many people, and I'm glad I did.
im glad you did also I get how pc can feed into some things .just know im here if I can help in any way to make things easier MKAC
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 10:51 AM
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Ready, I think I've told you that my T recommended the shock and awe approach with my H as well. I did not go so far as to separate from him, but I did tell him at one point that I was done and I would emphatically not continue the way we were and that I wanted a divorce. It was a real turning point in our relationship. Whatever support you need, I will try to be as helpful as I can.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 10:54 AM
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And Granite, I KNOW you are not a horrible person. This may not be the right T for you, but that does not mean you are a horrible person.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 11:06 AM
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MKAC I love love love pumpkin chocolate chip cookies and have no idea how to make them, but if you figure it out, you can mail me some.
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Old Sep 14, 2013, 11:20 AM
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Lola: Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookies III Recipe - Allrecipes.com
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