Is T trying to make me say it?

At my last session I was telling T that I didn't feel as though I was able to heal, that I was never going to change. T said something like.. "You say this, but yet you come back here week after week and constantly ask for reassurance that I won't discontinue treatment with you."

I think my response was a shrug of the shoulders and said, " I know"..

I mean, doesn't he know why I still coming back? Even if I don't feel like I can heal.. I do feel attached. So, his comment angered me, because it made me feel like I was the lying one and he didn't believe me. But the reason I keep going, is that I am ATTATCHED! So, instead of making me feel like a liar can't he just acknowledge it out loud as I am sure he knows? Is he making me say to his face? ( BTW- I know you can't those questions for me, but I guess I am kinda thinking out loud).

Ugh.. the more I think about the appointment the more annoyed I get!

Sounds like a session I had several weeks ago. My T said the same thing almost word for word ecept the reassurance thing. I understand where you are at Healed I got the feeling my T was trying to make me say it too.

I think he was pointing out evidence of hope, of wanting to feel better. We can want to way before we can understand our fears and obstacles around the idea of change and feeling better. It takes work to get to the place of feeling that we deserve to want what we want in life. And yes, it just feels good to be with my therapist in that time reserved just for me!

Attachment often brought me back when hope had failed.

Healed...

I definitely hope you will discuss your reactions with your T. I think it could bring up many things... one of which could be attachment ...

My T held out until I said it and admitted it. Her response:

"Yeah. I knew you were attached"

Gee T. Thanks.

Sounds like you're not getting much empathy or support.

I am sorry if this sounds odd, or is wrong......but I dont get this attachement thing. Could someone explain it to me...... clearly it is one of my difficulties if I dont understand?

I think your Twad pointing out an important fact. We tend to get stuck in fantasy. The reality is you do turn up

In my case, the feeling of attachment is one of, I don't won't to leave him no matter what b/c he is good for me kind of feeling. Like I mentioned, I have this feeling that I won't change or can't change and if that is the case, then really I should leave T b/c it is the waste of time for the both of us. However the feeling I get when thinking about not seeing T makes me think I am attached. I got this way because really for me.. He has showed me time and time again that he is not going anywhere (which is huge for me) and he is a steady, stable, person in my life whom I can spill my guts to on a weekly basis. I don't know if that makes it any more clear or not.

And that right there, that assurance that he is there for you and not going anywhere, can be very healing.

It's a tricky thing about therapy: sometimes you feel like you're getting nowhere but actually a lot of important stuff is happening beneath the surface. Other times you really are wasting your time. It can be hard to know.

I often feel as if My T is trying to get me to say/admit things aloud that she's already aware of.
One of my issues is that I don't ask for what I want or help, when I need it.
Lately, I've noticed she isn't giving me hugs anymore at the end of sessions. I think she wants me to initiate them. Thus, admitting that I want one.
I'm stubborn and it's not likely to happen because on some level I can't make myself reach out & deepen my attachment. I'd never say no to any affectionate gesture she'd make.

Guess I'm stuck at an impasse.

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