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Hi Jersey!

Sconnie... I am so happy for you... And you always have your T with you through your wise mind... and she will always hold a special place in your heart but you are ready to take on the world or atleast your world... Something to be very proud of.

***trigger warning for vague sa crap that might not even be that...

Yeah I forgot who my audience is....I was looking for general population response and I know alot of people here have different experiences...

We were talking about an incident in T that happened recently which just involved watching someone adjust someone else's hair in a stylist sort of situation but I became very triggered...and when T asked me to try to close my eyes and just see if any images came to mind...that phrase popped in my head. I was trying to gage my age because i didnt know what that phrase meant

RTS, I can relate to the struggle. Many of my harmful experiences occurred at a very young age, so I imagine that I learned a lot more before it was age-appropriate. It makes it difficult to know what is age-appropriate for my daughter, that's for sure.

*** May Trigger - Mention of SI ***

There's a big issue going on in my daughter's school right now, involving some of her friends. A school mate confided in one of my daughter's friends about how she is cutting. The friend told the guidance counselor and ended up bringing the girl in to talk to her, called her parents, etc. to get her help. The parents "couldn't take off from work" to go to the school, so the girl was supposed to spend the night at a crisis center.

Since then, word has traveled - and now there's apparently a list of girls who have been cutting. My daughter is not one of them, and she and her friend are interested in doing something proactive to help the kids that are suffering. I am proud of my daughter for wanting to step in and help.

On the flip side, it's such a difficult thing for me to address....as it taps into my own SI issues, stemming back to my childhood years as well. I haven't shared any of that with my daughter. I'm not sure I ever will.

You should feel proud of your daughter MUE. It shows what a great job you have done in raising her. But how sad that parents can't take time off work to help their child who is screaming for help.

I have question about sharing things with your children. My T has often said "Have you discussed this childhood experience with your daughter?" He's said he's not saying I should but it may help my daughters understand why I do some of the things I do. He says only share what is comfortable. My problem is my daughters want to discuss things in the moment and I can't say "Oh can I tell you about it later' and then wait 2 weeks and ask my T advice. By then my daughters will probably have forgotten. Plus I'm not sure of how information is too much information.

Thanks, BPA. Yeah, it is really sad about that girl...Her parents are going through a divorce, and she is having a really tough time right now. I am relieved that my divorce was a good thing for our daughter and that she benefited from it. She is so much happier now that we are divorced. I had her in therapy, just in case, and the T said that she was doing great and really didn't even need therapy. She also said that my daughter and I have a wonderful relationship and are doing just great. I am lucky to have such a resilient, stable child.

And I hear you about not knowing how much is too much - and not being able to trust ourselves with what to share. I struggle with that as well.

Time for me to try to get some sleep...although I'm not sure how successful I will be. Dealing with heartburn at the moment AND was dealing with the noise of a helicopter hovering in my neighborhood - then learned that apparently there were gunshots fired not far from here. Two homes were struck but no one was hurt. That's all I heard - and it's word of mouth, so the details aren't totally reliable.

Makes it very uneasy to sleep right about now.

Goodnight, couch peeps!

Good night MUE.

Hi Couchies......

MUE

Gosh I constantly worry about having messed my son up with how I have been as a parent....not a terrible terrible one really...just a crappy attachement style probably and not being fully there emotionally for him. another topic for therapy to cover.

I had a hospital appointment today and I ended up crying because I was anxious....bloody ptsd response. Not very keen on gyni appointments. More to come...at least they now know to be a bit more understanding.....and nope, I dont have anyone who can hold my hand while they do what they need to do, but thanks for the reminder Ms Gynaecologist.

Morning all...
(((((SCONNIE)))))
You can always send a card. So happy for you and the boy. Remembering when you were talking about all the reasons why you didn't need a partner...and chuckling to myself. How things change in a year! We have all changed in so many ways. Progress. Granite now talks with T a bit. MKAC wasn't sure she wanted her T to know anything, and now she's sharing huge things. Jerz's H was out of work and she couldn't afford T appointments, and now he's working and she's working and things are looking up. Lola was partying way too much and going thru hell on the home front, now she's separated and living in a new place, but working hard to change her life. I have to stop naming people because I will forget some...but lots of bad times we have all been thru, but we all are still here and hanging on and supporting each other!

OK...enough with the mushy stuff. Good to see you Sconnie!

(((Jane)))
Sorry it was such a hard appt. I have an enormously difficult time with those appts as well.

I have my oncology exams later this week...PETCT scans. Ick. So scared.

I'll be in your pocket reaching out holding your hand.

Hello couchies. I'm off work till Thursday. I wanna play!

thanks Jerz.

Can I just be honest for a second?

I can't sleep much...I keep thinking they are going to make me do chemo again. And radiation. It's stupid, I know...but that crap is kind of traumatic. I wonder if a person can get PTSD from chemo?

going for a swim...be back later y'all.

It sounds likely to me.

*googlegooglegoogle*

Yes, I found a paper from Journal of Oncology that says that it definitely does happen.

I believe that you can get it from that. You can get PTSD from any kind of trauma that goes on in your life..sickness...fender benders...etc..

Thanks for the updates Wiki T talked about how much had changed in a year too.... it's amazing when you look back at it.

Sconnie glad to see you again, I thought of you often. Wiki I'm sorry you are scared and I believe anything traumatizing can cause PTSD including medical procedures. Praying for you dear. Morning Jersey, lucky lucky lady... Wish I had today off. Good day to you Mast! I'm in Oklahoma City today and it's cold,windy,wet and still dark... Ugh

Hi Lola!

I did not realize how much I would miss my t I thought spacing my appointments out four and five weeks would ease into it... nope...still feels like there's a big void where my safe sharing place was. Hopefully my busy day at work will keep me distracted.... speaking of which... I better get a move on so I am not too late...

Hope everyone on the couch has a good day...

Sconnie..it will get easier....but is the door open to go back for check ins at T? That may help.

Wait...so I have the next 2 days off and what do I do? Find work. lol. Babysitting for some other people After school today. lol

MUE.... I read your posts...

The guy is either very sarcastic or passive aggressive. If he has a policy, than he should either stick to it or agree to bend it without the sarcasm and passive agressive comments. I don't know what the amounts were but he could have told you that he would have to deduct the extra fee he is charged from your payment. Consequences suck but its better than someone making you feel guilty....

I know you are having a hard time already so this just adds to it.