[ShrinkPatient]

Is there any topics or personal issues that you feel like should never be discussed with your T?
I'm just wondering because I'm on the brink of being more open but I'd like to figure out where the new line should be drawn.

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[tealBumblebee]

I don't like discussing politics with anyone - and T mentioned something very very very miniscule regarding it (not even enough to tell which side she was on) and I was just like ...ugh. Besides that, we've talked about religion, intercourse, illicit drugs, self harm and way more and she's been very good about being open to the conversation. So i'd just limit politics but honestly - if you trust your T enough I don't see why you shouldn't be able to be fully open with them if you indeed want to.

[unlockingsanity]

Um, I'd say masturbation is pretty high on that censor list. That said, it's come up but it was about someone else and at the very end of a session. Too awkward with an opposite gender T. If we were the same gender, I think it would be more "okay".

With my first T, I censored a lot. With this t, we talk about anything and everything. And I do mean everything!

[stopdog]

I don't discuss my income or how I dress with the therapist. It is not connected with why I see the woman. That is how I divide things. If I can't see a point in it in relation to why I go to a therapist, I don't discuss it.

[MotownJohnny]

Yup, me too. Kind of out if the blue one time, she asked me about sex, my libido, interest, and masturbation. If she were a man, I would be ok with it. Just not comfortable discussing it with a woman.

[Hope-Full]

My T often says nothing is inappropriate to discuss in therapy, that everything is open to conversation if it's something I'm wanting to talk about (or resisting or avoiding talking about!) There are several very uncomfortable topics that have only been mentioned minimally, but otherwise, there is nothing I need to censor from T.

[Miswimmy1]

I only bring up things that I think will help me make progress in therapy. My t has questioned me dating, boys, etc. I really don't think I need to discuss my previous boyfriends and current crushes with her. It's just not relevant. That's how I decide what to talk about- if it's not relevant, then don't waste the time.

[JaneC]

I censor a lot, especially around my relationships with men as my T is a man. I know I need to open up about this, it is a huge hurdle for many reasons. My T has asked and asked but I have always deflected, now he knows that he needs to push me on it, I asked him to push me when I am avoiding things........and I thanked him when he pushed me 2 sessions ago...but I still could not go there yet.

Its only been 8 months for goodness sake!!!!!!!!

I can't imagine yet being able to talk about sex with him, but we will have to to some degree.......... at some time...........

[yoyoism]

My limit was sex stuff. However, since a lot of the issues that are being brought up now have to do with sex and sexuality (I'm a gay female), we are slowly edging our way into that topic area.

It's difficult to talk about, not just because it's embarrassing, but because I was raised in a Catholic household where we NEVER talked about sex. Ever. So I have all sorts of things internalized subconsciously.

It definitely depends on your therapist. I would never have talked about it with my previous.

[ar2004]

I don't think you should have to keep things from your T. I think we naturally take time to open up about things that are harder to share. I'm sure if you bring up a topic that your T can't help you with, he or she will tell you.

[ToeJam]

Originally Posted by unlockingsanity

Um, I'd say masturbation is pretty high on that censor list. That said, it's come up but it was about someone else and at the very end of a session. Too awkward with an opposite gender T. If we were the same gender, I think it would be more "okay".

That made me laugh, thank you!

For me I unintentionally censor a lot... I suppose I have identity issues and some things I condemn myself for being stupid or irrelevant.

Have kicked myself in that past over it as the sessions don't become productive because we just end up talking about half of the issues I deal with :s

[Raging Quiet]

Originally Posted by ShrinkPatient

Is there any topics or personal issues that you feel like should never be discussed with your T?
I'm just wondering because I'm on the brink of being more open but I'd like to figure out where the new line should be drawn.

I think I've spoken to my T about a lot of embarrassing things, but I draw the line speaking or describing personal body parts.

[Rzay4]

Yup I haven't discussed my sexuality or how I'm afraid of dating but long for a relationship,

[doyoutrustme]

I censor very little.

[rainbow8]

I used to censor myself when I first started therapy, years ago. Presently, with this T, I tell her everything. I've asked her often if anything is TMI (too much information) and she always says no. It's been difficult for me but I've talked about sex and body stuff, in detail. I've told her all the feelings I have for her, which is embarrassing too. I told her about looking her and her family up online and going past her house. I guess there's almost nothing I haven't told her. Something I learned, though, is that I can hurt her if I tell her everything I'm thinking about her, like when I recently told her what I thought of her being thin. So I will censor myself about saying negative things about her. That's pretty easy, since I like her so much!

T frequently mentions my inner censor which is apparently much stronger than that of other people he sees. He calls it my "internal Stasi", and it often strikes when I've started to talk about something and stops me from continuing to speak. It's founded on my inability to judge what is actually important to bring up, and what is irrelevant. T always asks me to allow him some input in that, but I am mortally afraid of wasting his time with irrelevancies. I'm working on it, and it's getting better.

That being said, with current T there are no subjects that are inherently "unmentionable". There are things I have not been able to bring myself to tell him, but nothing that's by definition impossible for me to talk about. That's different from how it was with previous Ts.

T asked me how often i masturbate and i was meaning to say every second day but I accidentally said twice a day. I considered going back and correcting myself, but I didn't want to draw too much attention to my error.

[photostotake]

My personal t I try to censor myself, but it never works. He knows when I'm doing it. If I start to say something and start holding back, he knows he'll get it out of me, he always does. There has only been one time that I started to tell him something and didn't let it out. Still haven't and never will. He said we'll talk about it next session, but we didn't. Good thing.

My ED t, I censor much more. There are consequences to what I tell her and I admit that's why I won't tell her every little thing. Some of it is just none of her business either, as far as I'm concerned. That's what I have my personal t for.

Besides, the two types of Ts that I see, there is a huge trust factor. I just don't trust my ED t the same as my other. I like her very much, just don't trust her the same way. It's only been 6 months, maybe we'll get there, maybe not. There is a personal preference with wanting a male t too- I just feel more comfortable with my personal t than I do her.

When i censored myself so much with first t, it was because i felt 1) embarassed about many things and 2) the rest of the stuff i felt SHE couldnt handle it
With this t, we have been thru so many hard times together that i realized i am not ashamed of anything in front of her and 2)this t is very strong. She can handle anything

[refika]

I used to heavily censor what I told T, and worry about what T would think of me when I told them stuff.

Recently, I've stopped censoring so much and we've actually began talking about sex, masturbation, and other quite intimate, and not-so-pleasant details. Of course those topics are all related to my core issues, and helping me recover, but I still really don't like talking about some of those things with T.

Once you get past the censoring part, it really does feel good to just let anything and everything out without worry of judgement, or "offending" or disgusting the other person