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Old Oct 20, 2013, 08:54 PM
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I have had several Ts, and sat in therapy sessions in different ways. By that I mean, where do you sit in the office of your T.

I've had Ts where they sat behind a desk and I sat almost across the room (very uncomfortable relationship), couches across from each other, me on the couch facing T with her on a chair.

The T I have now sits across from me, me on a couch, her on a couch. She is very casual not always sitting with her legs crossed. I sit on the couch sometimes cross-legged or legs underneath. At times, I would prefer to sit on the floor for some reason.

Do you like to be close to your T? OR like distance? I like to be close.

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Old Oct 20, 2013, 09:11 PM
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She sits in front of me and a bit to my right, about 5 feet or a bit less away from me. She is in a stuffed chair, and I sit on a couch. I sit on the corner that is closer to her. She usually sits with her feet up on a stool. I can relate, as T and I are both short. For short people, it is uncomfortable and can be bad for your back if your feet aren't high enough. I usually sit with my legs crossed at the ankles and a bit to the side.

She has done EMDR with me, and she sits very close for that, her hand is maybe two feet from my face in EMDR. I don't mind it at all. I don't have space issues with people in general and definitely not with T.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 09:17 PM
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I tend to sit in the chair near the door. For some reason, just on the layout of the rooms (we are typically in a different room each time), but I think the chairs would typically be where the T would sit. Instead I sit on the chair near the door and my T sits on the couch. He's usually leaning forward with his elbows on his knees.

I usually have my shoes off and am sitting on my feet or have my knees drawn up.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 09:22 PM
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We sit across from each other. He's in a chair and I'm on a couch. Not close.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 09:32 PM
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I sit in a chair--legs up so my knees are between us--and T sits in a rolling chair. He adjusts as necessary depending on what we are discussing.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 09:34 PM
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T sits on a wingback chair, I'm on a couch. I have my feet up on T's footstool. He lets me use it instead of crossing my legs under me so I don't damage his couch.

The couch is in the corner of the room which makes me feel protected. I love the corner of the couch because I can press myself into the corner even more (which T hates).

A few sessions ago, T shocked the daylights out of me about halfway through the session and made me switch positions with him. I sat in "HIS" chair and he sat on the couch, then we continued our session.

That was SO uncomfortable! First, I was not used to seeing "the other" side of the room, second I could not stand seeing ALL the clocks T has (3 to be exact) and third, I felt like I should be questioning T, not the other way around. Not to mention I felt so strange sitting in "T's" chair...I hope T never does that again! LOL
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 10:14 PM
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I sit on a chair in front of t no desk between us she sits in a rolling chair in front of me kinda close it feels comfortable to me .

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Old Oct 20, 2013, 10:31 PM
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The woman sits in a chair with a table between her and the horrible couch across from her for clients. There is no chair for clients to use. I sit in the middle of the couch usually with my leg crossed over my knee. I like the table between her and the couch. I would put her further back if I could.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 10:40 PM
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I do art therapy, so i sit at a desk and she sits at one of the sides of the desk. It's a large desk, so although she is close to me, she's not squashed beside me.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 11:03 PM
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My T is in a computer chair facing me while I sit in an office chair about three feet from her. I usually sit with my feet on the ground leaning back, she usually sits with her legs outstretched sitting up, or leaning forward a bit with feet on the ground based on what we are discussing. I don't really notice much. I don't really study my T in therapy. Mainly cause I have an issue of making eye contact or looking at her when I'mdiscussing hard memories.
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Old Oct 20, 2013, 11:09 PM
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I sit on a couch with my legs crossed most of the time. There are two chairs across from the couch and depending on what end of the couch I'm on, t will sit in the chair that's closest. She usually sits with her shoes off, one leg tucked up under her. It makes me very uncomfortable because she plays with her sock. I don't like being close to her and I try to sit as far away as possible
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 12:43 AM
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CBT T and I are in a teeny tiny room so we sit facing each other, pretty close. I like being close but it is almost uncomfortably close.

The chairs are metal with barely fabric padded seats and backrests--but kinda uncomfortable too. This isn't cbt t's main office so I don't think he is crazy about it either.

Can't be comfortable for a guy, which I think explains his "unladylike" seating style. I don't think he's even aware of it. I'm trying to be an adult about it.
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 01:09 AM
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T has 3 office chairs and she sits in her roll-ly chair. I sit in the chair next to her desk if I'm aggravated or depressed. If I'm hyper I sit next to her door to give me space to move around. If I'm not trusting her I sit in the chair that is furthest from the door so I don't run. I get larger or smaller in the chair depending on what we are talking about. Her chairs are just a bit to small to curl up in but I sure try.
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 01:14 AM
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There is 2 chairs and a couch. I sit in a chair and T sits in the other facing each other. I think the chair I sit in is usually where T sits when seeing others, but it's where I can see the door.
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 02:34 AM
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Mine had his chair, which was a swivel recliner, and a non-swivel recliner (client chair) at @ a 45 degree angle with an end table between. Then a third chair more in front of his, but at a slight angle. And a couch on the other side of the room. I'd generally sit in the recliner, occasionally in the third chair if I were trying to increase eye contact. After sessions, he let me stay in the room for maybe 10 minutes to ground myself while he went to another room to record notes, and I would switch to his chair. It was helpful.
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 02:53 AM
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I sit on couch always in the right corner while my T sits on her chair few metres away facing me (not directly). There is little coffee table between us. Even if we both reached and streched we would not touch each other. I donīt know if that means she is too far or not.
I donīt take my shoes off so I always just sit with my feet down but I wish to take them up or sit on the floor but I donīt have enough courage to ask if I could.

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Old Oct 21, 2013, 03:20 AM
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We both sit on fairly comfy chairs not quite directly opposite each other. I mean, we are opposite but both chairs are turned on an angle. Standard T seating I think. If I could sit right next to her on a couch I would though
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 05:20 AM
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Laying down on the couch with a big pillow to hold onto. T 2 feet away.
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Old Oct 21, 2013, 06:33 AM
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My T and I used to sit on two chairs facing each other, but I wanted to sit on the floor, so now we sit on this big flat cushion thing (it's the size of a small sofa) side by side.
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