[skittles]

im getting frustrated....... my new t isnt any better then the old t..... she hasnt even returned my call... i forgot i had an appointment one day and i called her and left her a message monday and shes still hasnt returned my call..... plus i dont seem to be clicking with her...... why cant i find a t im comfy with... this is getting very frustrating

how many sessions have you had skittles? I will share one thing. I had a hard time feeling like i clicked. Once it was because the T was so different than me. but with my current T, it was just because I was mistrustful. I had had a few Ts that didnt care about me or werent emotionally attentive, parents that werent nurturing, and even pastors who betrayed me. So i interpreted everything my current T said or did that was a bit confusing as rejection, but it wasnt. I stayed with her and little by little, I learned to trust. I learned to ask her when I didnt understand why something happened or something was said. Im not sure which case yours is most like.. but if its more like the second, i'd say you might want to stick with her

[Meta]

One of the things that is difficult for me in any new relationship is trust. So every time I have had a new therapist over the last 20 years, that has been a hurdle. Something you said about saying too much at first reminds me of a premise taught by adult children of alcoholics literature. Trust is not an all or nothing deal. When you disclose to anyone, and I think this includes a therapist, you should see how they react. A therapist should be respectful of anything you tell them. If that seems to be happening you can go farther the next time and see what happens. I think I made a mistake for a long time thinking in a therapy session I should just go ahead and let loose, trust is a given. Well therapists are people like anyone else, some are trustworthy and some are not. Woe to us who find out the hardway.
I don't know if this helps skittles, but as usual I learn from the questions here at Psychcentral and usually take another step in understanding myself.