[jesusplay]

Therapist told me this today.

Thanks lady, I'll choose to not be depressed from now on and do things because I control my mood and anxiety.

Thanks for therapy, it's so helpful.

[Daeva]

Ouch, sounds like the rudest T I have ever heard of. I'm sorry she treated you like that

[jesusplay]

Originally Posted by Daeva

Ouch, sounds like the rudest T I have ever heard of. I'm sorry she treated you like that

She's an intern T, one more session and I'm done with this lady.

[IndieVisible]

So how long did it takes this genius to figure you out?

[coleychi]

That sounds extremely invalidating. Was it your first time seeing that particular therapist? That's a really awful attitude for a therapist to have.

I would react really badly to that actually, since I already have anxiety that my depression is an excuse and there's a (huge) part of me that believes I'm just lazy when I can't get up or do things because I'm feeling depressed.

[laughattack]

She has chosen the wrong field. Or maybe she wants to be a research psychologist. She might be better off studying mice. Certainly any potential clients of hers would be.

Okay that's a bit harsh and facetious, but I wouldn't give a T like that the time of day.

[doyoutrustme]

Originally Posted by jesusplay

She's an intern T, one more session and I'm done with this lady.

I would tell you to skip the session, but since it would be the last, I'm more inclined to tell you to give her an earful!

I am the first to say tho, this is probably bad advice.

[jesusplay]

Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

I would tell you to skip the session, but since it would be the last, I'm more inclined to tell you to give her an earful!

I am the first to say tho, this is probably bad advice.

I couldn't dare tell her she sucks, my anxiety prevents me. Maybe I should just choose to tell her, lol.

[LadyShadow]

What an awful thing to say!

You are much braver than I am though. I would have left there in tears.

Glad you're almost done with her.

[blur]

ugh. as the english say this is "rubbish". i know in certain circles some tend to think everything is a matter of the (conscious) will and we can just choose differently. while that may work for a few i think for many of us it just doesn't work at all. if only life were that simple. do you have to go back to this T?

[doyoutrustme]

New idea: Write a letter to her supervisor.

How about you respond next session by telling her she chose to be a useless T who's clueless about mental health?

This t sucks, sorry you were on the receiving end of her stupidity or insensitivity.
William glasser founded of choice therapy reckons we do all unconciously choose to become sick or depressed, maybe this is her stupid way of saying this.

[haier]

If that was my t and she said that to me i would've walked out! I feel angry for you. If therapy was like that i don't think anybody would ever be in therapy. I'm sorry she said that to you. That is a lie.

[elliemay]

“What they taught, in effect, was that you aren’t responsible for your miserable problems because you are the victim of factors and circumstances beyond your control,” he said. “I objected to that. My thrust was that patients have to be worked with as if they have choices to make. My question is always, ‘What are you going to do about your life, beginning today?’ ”

That's a quote from william glasser.

Doesn't sound that far flung to me.

Of course in the next sentence of the piece he indicated that he was thrown out of his training program.

The only thing i know from my own experience is that if there is a choice to be made that anxiety/depression can trick you into thinking there isn't.

[elliemay]

I would also add that perhaps we might have to realize that there are things over which we have no choice, in order to fully execute a choice. Weird.

[sittingatwatersedge]

Originally Posted by doyoutrustme

I would tell you to skip the session, but since it would be the last, I'm more inclined to tell you to give her an earful!

I am the first to say tho, this is probably bad advice.

oh I don't know.... I had the same reaction.

[Favorite Jeans]

Well weren't you making the choice to go to therapy? Isn't that choosing to work on whatever is that is causing you to be anxious and depressed?

Or maybe you just love being depressed so much that you chose not to wave your special magic wand and replace your depression with calm and happiness? Maybe that's what she was getting at! Silly you! Why don't you just use the de-miserablizing spell already?

[Freewilled]

Ugh. I hate that attitude! It's so superior-sounding. As though the T is the all-knowing, well-rounded and perfect guru who is going to critique you into shape lol

I'm sorry you had to go through that I would seriously have walked out or thought about it anyway (my anxiety might prevent me from doing so). I've had the victim speech given to me by my T (tactfully) and even that rubbed me the wrong way. I do not choose to feel this way - if I could just snap out of it, surely I would! And if it's an unconscious thing, I'm not sure placing blame is appropriate or, in any way, helpful.

[IndieVisible]

That was a nasty way of saying it, but I'm sure it is correct in some cases. For example, I often use my bad hearing to my advantage, or a woman may say she has a head ache. Is it that hard to believe some people could use their depression and or anxiety as an excuse to not do something they don't want to?

I am NOT suggesting that is the case here! But in all fairness it is some thing that can be done and of course one might wonder when. I still think it was unprofessional the way this T said it. She could have got the same meaning across in a better way or less insulting way.

[growlycat]

Yeah, you could tell her that she chooses to be a jerk instead of trying to help you like a grown up therapist

[haier]

Nobody CHOOSES to be depressed that is a lie.

[jesusplay]

I'm still in awe, I'm questioning my existence after leaving her office.

[neutrino]

Originally Posted by jesusplay

Therapist told me this today.

Thanks lady, I'll choose to not be depressed from now on and do things because I control my mood and anxiety.

Thanks for therapy, it's so helpful.

I'm sorry what? That's terrible! Sorry you had to go through that. How long have you seen her?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by jesusplay

I'm still in awe, I'm questioning my existence after leaving her office.

I would love to be a fly on the wall when she talks to her supervisor about this one. No wait - flies dont have ears do they? She's not gonna either after her supe gets done chewing them off. Incredible.