[ready2makenice]

I've grown to care about my T a lot but last session my T pissed me off. She was telling me how she didn't approve of something (judgmental much)and I told her,I didn't ask her to,I'm an adult,I don't need your approval,so I walked out of the end of my session? I was over it and over being in that room. Has your T ever pissed you off til you walked out? What kind of things did they say?

Once T said that she wanted me "to be real with her in session" I had no idea what that meant. I'm real every single session. I felt like she was calling me fake. And we got into it

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else get into disagreements like this? Or am I the odd ball out...

I have no interest in seeing the woman right now,I'm not her biggest fan at the moment,I knew last session was a mistake going

[coleychi]

i kind of just stopped seeing my therapist of 5 years because we ended up arguing during the sessions and they just stopped being productive like a year ago. things didn't end smoothly though. i kind of left our last session threatening to quit therapy and it was almost like she didn't believe me until i never scheduled another session (and then she sent a passive aggressive "termination letter")

but yeah. i can relate to that. my therapist was telling me to do all these things that i was just too depressed to do. i was (and am) willing to make changes to my life but she pushed and told me that i couldn't expect to get better if i didn't work harder. and the sessions were just the same things and the same suggestions every. single. time.

i know you're not alone in being pissed at a T. over the summer, i was in treatment, and there was this therapist there who purposely triggered some of the patients to help them learn to cope. i guess it could work for some people but i could not work with a therapist who constantly triggered me.

[stopdog]

I fight with the woman all the time. One thing that annoys me is when she tells me I don't show her what I am feeling. I have no idea what that means and I usually will just tell her (fine, sad, cross etc)

[Miswimmy1]

my t always says, "I'm not sure I believe that." For instance, she asked me the other day if I wanted to trust people (I have some trust issues) and I said that I am happy with where I am right now. Because I am. I've made significant progress in the time that I've been in therapy. I feel much more comfortable interacting with people on more than just a superficial level. When she responds like that, it's feels very invalidating.

[anilam]

Yeah, we argue. It's normal. However, I would not appreciate a T pushing me to do stg- I'm a grown woman, only I decide whether or not some suggestion works for me. Sure I'm making mistakes (tons of them and I go to therapy to work on it) but their mine to make unless I've chosen otherwise.

[ready2makenice]

coleychi: I'm sorry it didn't work out for you,I hope you find a T that understands you better and wow!! she purposely triggered clients? I would NOT respond well to that kind of treatment.

stopdog: when I read your comment,my first thought was "what does that even mean" I seriously don't understand their logical thinking sometimes.

Honestly sometimes I feel like T say things and use words to purposely confuse us or maybe I'm paranoid...lol

Miswimmy1: If my T said "I'm not sure I believe you" I would flat out ask her if she was calling me a liar...that would annoy me too

anilam: Exactly that's how I feel as well,my life,my choices

Just last session my T was saying something to me and I referred to her as the woman,it tickled her feathers a bit. Now it's like ahaha...now you know how it feels "woman"

She would also say things to me like "It's just temporary" (my feelings) and I thought "no ***** they are but they're here,right now,so help me deal with them,care more!!!"

[stopdog]

The woman only tried saying she did not believe something I said was true one time. I responded that its truth was not dependent upon her belief one way or the other. I think she thought I was kidding because she burst out laughing.

[Raging Quiet]

Originally Posted by ready2makenice

I've grown to care about my T a lot but last session my T pissed me off. She was telling me how she didn't approve of something (judgmental much)and I told her,I didn't ask her to,I'm an adult,I don't need your approval,so I walked out of the end of my session? I was over it and over being in that room. Has your T ever pissed you off til you walked out? What kind of things did they say?

Once T said that she wanted me "to be real with her in session" I had no idea what that meant. I'm real every single session. I felt like she was calling me fake. And we got into it

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else get into disagreements like this? Or am I the odd ball out...

I have no interest in seeing the woman right now,I'm not her biggest fan at the moment,I knew last session was a mistake going

I know the feeling! When my T raised her voice a few weeks ago and told me to grow up I got up to walk out..

It can sometimes be a method to get a reaction, but it hurts.

my ex-T and I had a very good, healing therapeutic relationship for just under 2 years, but it wasn't totally free from disagreements. We had one really awful session which was as close to a knock-down-drag-out fight that two people can get over the phone. She yelled at me, I yelled at her, she accused me of "wanting something for nothing" among other things, it was like being in the twilight zone, and I felt abysmal for days after that appointment. I almost quit that day, but luckily a passing angel bonked me on the head and I realized if I quit like that, without talking it over especially, I would likely hurt myself a whole lot more than her. So I womaned up, took a deep breath, and called her the next week at appointment time as usual, we talked it all out, and our relationship got even stronger after that actually. I think the work we did together after that fight was some of the best work of our almost-2 years.

[Nightlight]

"It would be good if we could at least wind down slowly."

Wind down? Gee, thanks a lot T.

[Daeva]

"Stop using should or should not. You're judging yourself."
"Stop Shoulding all over yourself."

I'm sorry but should is a normal word in anyone's vocabulary and also any ones set of morals, so should I have no morals? It's annoying cause I'm just stating how I feel, and alot of times I can't say it any other way, plus I can't just stop, hasn't taught me how I should replace or change it. Just "Stop." SO helpful. Stop being so critical.

[herethennow]

Not my T but pdoc always says this to me..

"your mental illness is NOT your fault."

but when my attempt happened he's all like "you were unwell enough to want to do it!"

... oh kay now it's my fault, huh pdoc?

[tinyrabbit]

If there's one thing I've learned about therapy, it's that, if something my T says annoys me, it's usually useful because it's bringing out something that needs to be worked out. That annoyance is a source of information.

I was deeply irritated with my T when he told me Diet Coke was bad for me because it contains aspertane. He apologised and said he was being pompous!

[with or without you]

"there's a book about..."

[ScrewedUpMe]

Instead of saying she doesn't believe me, T tends to say, "is that true?" like is that ACTUALLY true...

"That must have been really difficult for you"

Drives me up the wall! I feel like she is making a big deal out of little things that shouldnt affect me... now reading that I know how it sounds, but still, it annoys me.

[SkinnySoul]

Me: I'm desperate. I need to get unstuck like, NOW. What do I have to do?
T: You need to understand blah blah blah...

Geez T, I'm not a ****ing idiot, I'm done understanding. Can you recommend any actions?

[tealBumblebee]

She doesn't do it anymore because I eventually told her flat out - I don't want to do this. But...

"Let's list things that make you a unique individual..." or "Let's list some positive qualities you have..." or "Let's list some things that make you special..."

Um...let's not. It usually doesn't stop at one or two, like she's looking for a never ending list. And usually by number three i'm struggling to come up with things and just naming things she wants me to say because she won't stop asking.

[tealBumblebee]

Originally Posted by stopdog

The woman only tried saying she did not believe something I said was true one time. I responded that its truth was not dependent upon her belief one way or the other...

I love that statement!! *add's to list of things to remember*