In your opinion, what is the dumbest and wrongest thing she has said?

[Victoria'smom]

You may want to think about PHP.

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

You may want to think about PHP.

PHP? as in computer programming? What a strange thing to say?

[Sciencelover]

Mine will roll her eyes and sigh at something I tell her and then say she's not judging. Um....

[scorpiosis37]

T: There are women out there that have all of the qualities you want in a partner. Like x-T! [who I had a crush on]

Me: That is NOT a helpful example!!!

T: Okay, then me.

Me: That's not helpful either! [or true!] Let's change the subject.

The following week, I tried to explain to her why her examples were AWFUL, and she still didn't get it! Moreover, I didn't want or need to discuss dating at all. I was trying to talk to her about how insanely busy, tired, and stressed out I have been and how I can find ways to cut down on my obligations so that I can start sleeping more than 4 hours a night. She didn't seem to get that and, instead, kept awkwardly trying to talk to me about dating. I was like: "I don't have time to date! I don't even have time to sleep or eat!"

[MoxieDoxie]

"Nothing I am ever going to say that is going to change you."

[dismantle.repair]

Me: When I was a kid, I was bullied every day. Taunted relentlessly. When I was 8, they learnt the word "gay"... and that's what I became. No one wanted to touch what I touched, and they made no problem showing me that. I was not, am not and will never be gay.
Her: Never say never.
me: *in head* Woman, I think I'd know by now...

[Solepa]

"Did it hurt?" (the answer was VERY obvious)

[anilam]

ExT You're like a small bird with broken wings, let me take care of you. Plus stg about her embrace being a nest for me to heal in... I managed to block that one from my memory

Dumb and wrong on so many levels. Now it's making me laugh but then I was seriously angry with her, told her so (Im not weak) and stopped seeing her.

[A Red Panda]

My T told me that if all of his caseload was like me his job would be easy. I took it to mean that he figures I shouldn't be there. And that I'd be easy to "fix". He apologized later, and I think he is learning that while I'm not going absolutely bonkers and not really engaging in anything dangerous... my brain is a tricky one to change. I should know, I've been trying for over a decade!

[caseygirl]

A T I only saw once (no wonder), was the strangest T I ever experienced. First of all, I had to fill out an app, then she freaked out because I had the paper on the dining room table and said I should have put the placemat underneath.

Then, we started the session. She listened and then replied, I know you are experiencing depression, and I know pdocs are prescribing antidepressants, but for me I like to think herbal remedies work best. The more I spoke about my problems, she kept promoting only good health, saying I drank too much diet pop and ate too many dairy products. Hmmm, only saw her once and never went back.

She actually called me later that day and wondered if I wanted another appointment.

[mixedup_emotions]

One time, T was trying to get me to not move forward with a decision that he felt would put me in danger. As I was walking out the door, he said, "I have no qualms about telling your daughter you were dumb." Ouch. That was a tough thing to swallow.

[tinyrabbit]

My (usually excellent) T asked if I had been watching the tennis after Andy Murray won, and then commented that I looked miserable because I didn't seem happy about the tennis.

On the one hand, this is the most stupid, wrong-headed, misjudged thing my T has ever done. After the session, I went kind of postal and sent him some very, very angry text messages.

On the other hand, the next session was extremely healing. I told my T how I felt. He listened. He apologised, saying he had got lost in his own self-importance, he was excited about Murray winning but that didn't belong in my session. He said: "I haven't been careful enough with you."

I said I was angry that I had paid for that session. He said: "Well, don't pay for this one, then." It is the one and only time I have asked for a refund.

The experience of having someone listen, validate my feelings, care and make amends, without giving it back to me as my fault, without making me feel bad for saying how I felt, is not something I would wish to un-happen.

[HealingTimes]

"Sure you can have a look at this BMI chart".
She admitted that she had made a really bad mistake the following week when i turned up in pieces.
It was the worse obstacle we have ever faced, but we came through it.

[unlockingsanity]

"I've never heard you say that before."

Um, I've said that many many times.

[Raging Quiet]

Lots of things!!!

Yesterday she asked me if I went clubbing (nightclubs) after 6 years of speaking about my street fear/anxiety/agoraphobia...!

I can't remember exactly, but it was bound to be something pertaining to mindfulness. Hate that stuff!

[unaluna]

It wasn't my current t, it was a previous t; he told me about Nutella. I'm a chocoholic; i really didnt need another avenue of addiction!

[tealBumblebee]

Me: Let me know if whatever i'm talking about is really not a big deal.
T: I don't think i'd ever say that ... everything you say is a big deal.
Me:

[Favorite Jeans]

First consultation with new T some years ago.

Me: It's been a really tough time. I lost my job, I've been really depressed and exhausted, and I'm always stressed because money is so tight.

ExT (nervously): hehehe... Now I'm stressed because I don't know if you'll be able to pay me!

I never saw him again. And in a passive aggressive move I never paid him either. I figured he should've paid me for wasting my time with that kind of crap.

[Rzay4]

How about you try to find single people through your church?

I'm gay so now she is my Ex T

"I don't have a firm policy on that...well I do...but I don't....." Is it a firm policy or isn't?

[unaluna]

Originally Posted by unlockingsanity

"I've never heard you say that before."

Um, I've said that many many times.

I've gotten this one too! Maybe it sounds different this time cuz we're in a different place psychologically? Cuz after about the tenth time, it does sound really different to me. But still, makes you wonder

[Victoria'smom]

Bipolarartist, php is partial hospitalization program.

[tinyrabbit]

I saw a counsellor once - only once! - at my uni health centre who said: "If you don't talk to me, I can't help you."

Well, gosh darn it, I was kind of hoping you might HELP ME TALK.