Couch 67 - Keep calm, carry on, and have a cup of tea.

Ok, goodnight.

That's a good question, about the job. I made a connection (actually at the same conference where I saw Sudhof!) who is a higher-up at a small company close by, so I'm hoping to bend his ear a little soon about what my best strategies are. I think even one publication would help enormously -- that was the main feedback I got applying for jobs right out of my PhD, which was why I decided to do a postdoc.

Sigh. Yes, it's not fantastic that my advisor is sitting in my work, but it's sadly not uncommon. With him I think it's that, for most things, he's kind of in it for himself. My work isn't going to change the world, but it's significant. It's solid middle-of-the-road stuff. But it won't (a) make him money, which is what he spends a lot of his time on now in some companies he has founded outside of his work as a professor, or (b) get into a big big journal. He is SUPPOSED to help me with that, and really, it would help him too since he has published very little recently (so it's not a personal thing against me, it's how he is). When it is time for you to choose a PhD advisor, you do want to choose someone who will treat you like a human being (which this guy did do, to his credit), but also make sure you know about how they feel about publishing, not just want they preach, but what they practice.

It's good to be a *little* worried, it'll keep you focused and I think will help protect you from disappointment, which I saw in a lot of my grad school classmates who thought they were going to be Harvard professors. I would say that one thing you can do early and keep doing is stay very open to the opportunities that will be available to you, including the unconventional ones. My H took an unconventional path and is very happy. I am always keeping mind career choices that could make use of my training, but not take me on such a narrow path (science writing, for instance, is one I may focus on more if research just isn't working out for me). Keep an open mind. With any luck, by the time you're in my position, the way science is conducted will have changed a bit -- goodness knows it needs to, given the overproduction of PhDs.

Granite, you know how I feel about this particular T. My heart goes out to you.

Granite- sorry the appointment wasn't good. I wish I had some words of comfort or advice, but I don't. I just can offer (((hugs)) and support.

I am back from my T appointment as well.. It didn't go so great. Not ready to talk about it, but.. I just frustrated. I am spared from the hospital for another 3 days, at least until I see T again Friday afternoon.

Nothing I just keep them on display

Neut...I read them always. I don't always have something to say, but I do enjoy your posts, and I am glad you are here
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granite...GRRRRR! Just GRRRR! I'll shut up. But....GRRRRR!!!

CC beachy Lola, L33T is test with numbers and letters. Like, WIKED would be W1K3D.... LOLA would be 707A....crap like that. Stupid stuff kids come up with, ya know. They have been trying to outdo pig latin for years.

Mom's Place: Cable and phone are connected. TV's are there. Tomorrow morning furniture. My local two siblings are not lifting a finger...of course.

Evening couch.

Well, I am all caught up, though there is so much that I am sure I will miss something in my reply. If I do, I apologize.

Wiki, I hope everything works out moving your mother into her new apartment. You are almost FREE!

Mast, I am glad T went well today. I understand how it feels to feel like you are dependent on your T. I always email mine between sessions just to get her input on things that I am struggling with. I should just learn how to cope with them myself. And get to writing the conference abstract.

Jersey, vodka while you are cooped up in the house due to the snow, is probably not the best idea. But, if you do drink it...just don't contact your T.

Daeva, I'm sorry your grandmother is giving you a hard time. Sometimes family just doesn't understand us and that we need to do what we feel is best, not what they think we should do.

Lola, I hope you didn't freeze going to work and that it was less stressful than normal.

Healed, I'm glad you were finally able to tell your husband that you and T were discussing hospitalization (even if it was via text). I find texting or emailing easier than verbally telling people sometimes.

Granite, I'm sorry T went bad. That must have been upsetting for you. Hopefully, your T will get back on your side/in your court soon.

This made me think of this
I forgot to give the back story, Jen is manager of IT dept knows nothing about computers, the geeks told her the little black box was the internet.

Well, I am off to heat up something for supper. I'll hop back on after I eat.

((Granite))

Your T handled that very badly.
Clearly you were angry when you went in. (Well done for pushing that chair away! That's progress!)
I'm just sad you couldn't tell your T about your anger before she went wrong.

Granite, this T has done wonders for you in the past, but that doesn't mean she's the best T for you now.

I realized too late that you can "use up" a T. You can get only so much from one T before it's time to move on to the next one.

((((Granite)))) I'm so sorry it did not go well.

Hello folks. It turns out we only got like 2 inches of snow. I could've gone to T in 2 inches of snow. Annoying. Oh well. The world didn't stop spinning. I didn't touch the vodka. She said I can text to say hi later in the week, if I want. So I'll do that on Thursday.

Hugs to all. I need to get my skates on as I have 6 houses to view today. Still not feeling brilliant.

Good luck BPA

I'm sorry it didn't go well Granite.

Sorry you had such a bad session Granite

It has been a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day and I'm sorry for all who have experienced it!

Back from viewing 3 houses. One wasn't fully fenced so no good for the dogs. One was another Hobbit house, and the best house was in the worst part of town and my ex doesn't want to live there. After lunch I am picking up keys to look at another house and then this afternoon another 3 more houses. I am going to be exhausted.

BP....is your ex moving with you?

So bored since there is nothing for me to do tonight (the shows that I normally watch on Tuesday aren't on tonight).

my T said I was so upset that I was not hearing anything she was saying. she may be right .

what makes you say that? if it's true that is a huge realization.

Granite. We are here for you if you want to talk. If I suddenly drop off the thread tonight-it's because I fell asleep as I have 300 milligrams of valerian root in me, so please excuse me if I disappear till morning but I care very much about you.