[Daeva]

I don't know what I hope to get with this post, I've just never seen my T outside of session even though we livei n the same county. Never seen her at the grocery store, hairdressers, etc. I want to though, is it creepy to want to know that you walk the same aisle's or watch her buy her groceries and see what she gets?

What was it like for anyone who saw their T outside of session?

[doyoutrustme]

I live nearby my T and I run into him once every few weeks somewhere. Knowing that it can happen I always think I see him out of the corner of my eye- and then its someone else. He pops up out of no where whenever I least expect him to.

[Daeva]

That must be quite a startle. I think if I ever saw my T in different clothes I'd startle myself. Well she knows I'm attracted to her but also see her as a maternal figure. One day she wore this really nice fitting dress and god was she gorgeous in it. It wasn't my day for session I just saw her in the halls of the development center, but *******. I remember complimenting her and looking her up and down and we were walking the same way but I was ahead of her so I kept turning back to study her body and everything. Every since then she wears business suits to my sessions, Lol. Sorry T!!!! But she was real good about it, she didn't say a word about my staring and smiled at my compliments. Didn't embarrass me.

[purplemystery]

I occasionally see my T around campus because she is part of my college's counseling center.... and this may sound creepy, but in the past I have actually tried to see her out the window of my dorm when I knew she was leaving work. For me, it's very strange to see her out of context, but I feel like it is always an enlightening experience. I see if she talks to other people, how she walks, and generally how she acts. It's partially a trust thing because I wanted to see if she was the same person outside of therapy as she is with me. It's also because I see her as a role model and wanted to figure out who she is so that I could be like her.

[A Red Panda]

I have yet to run in to my T outside of our sessions. We live in a really small place, so I'm sure it'll happen one of these days. I want to see him with his wife, just so that I can know what she looks like so that I won't end up befriending her in a different situation! (As it is, I befriended one of his coworkers before knowing she was a councellor too!)

Although I'm utterly paranoid that I'll run in to him while I'm drunk. One of two things would likely happen: either I'd give him a hug and babble his ear off, or I'd panic and flee the scene. Soooooo that wouldn't be such a good thing.

I have spent a good deal of time with my t outside of sessions, when she still lived nearby we used to go to the library and to get ice cream and burgers and on walks and to the park. She had to leave the country for a family situation two years ago, so i went to visit her last year. We went grocery shopping, out for lunch and dinner, sight seeing, etc. We had a lot of fun together. It is not weird at all for me to see t outside. I dont care what groceries she buys or what she eats for lunch. It might be because My husband is a t so i already knew that t's are just regular old people. I dont care if t is in old shorts and a tank top or a bathingsuit at the beach or in fancy work clothes. She is still the same person.

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by purplemystery

I occasionally see my T around campus because she is part of my college's counseling center.... and this may sound creepy, but in the past I have actually tried to see her out the window of my dorm when I knew she was leaving work. For me, it's very strange to see her out of context, but I feel like it is always an enlightening experience. I see if she talks to other people, how she walks, and generally how she acts. It's partially a trust thing because I wanted to see if she was the same person outside of therapy as she is with me. It's also because I see her as a role model and wanted to figure out who she is so that I could be like her.

My T is also part of my college's counselling wing. And I do this too, just recently I figured out which car is hers.

[Daeva]

I wish my T and I had more interactions like your guys' T's sound like you do, even in passing. Would be nice to see her as a 'human' even though I know she is.

Panda--I can see myself doing that!

[purplemystery]

Originally Posted by Daeva

My T is also part of my college's counselling wing. And I do this too, just recently I figured out which car is hers.

It's a relief to hear someone else has done that! Yup, figured that out too! I take whatever information is available to me. Then I over-analyze what that says about her. It's the power imbalance, I think.

[A Red Panda]

I'm a very friendly bubbly little drunk. haha. I had a coworker two years ago comment on if I had a hangover or not.. I had no memory of seeing her, but apparently I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her at length how awesome I thought she was!

Then again. The other day I saw my ex and immediately fled the building.

So.... seeing my T while drunk would be a situation to avoid. Plus, I'd have to hear alllll about it the next week.

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by purplemystery

It's a relief to hear someone else has done that! Yup, figured that out too! I take whatever information is available to me. Then I over-analyze what that says about her. It's the power imbalance, I think.

YES! I once on a temper tantrum snarled out, "You know EVERYTHING about me and I don't know anything about you except that you really really like cows!"

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

I'm a very friendly bubbly little drunk. haha. I had a coworker two years ago comment on if I had a hangover or not.. I had no memory of seeing her, but apparently I gave her a kiss on the cheek and told her at length how awesome I thought she was!

Then again. The other day I saw my ex and immediately fled the building.

So.... seeing my T while drunk would be a situation to avoid. Plus, I'd have to hear alllll about it the next week.

That would make a great session, can hear it now, "So what do you thionk that means?"

omg one day my T used the 'how did that make you feel?" line and I just began giggling and asked where her inkblots were.

[A Red Panda]

mine it would probably be:

"So, about the other night. How much had you drank? Are you in an up? What did you do after you left?" lol

[Daeva]

Lol, man nosy as can be!!! See when a T gets that way with me I tend to get defensive only cause I feel like they are intruding XD

[A Red Panda]

Nah, he just knows that I will probably not offer anything. But I will answer direct questions. Depending on how sober he would be (because let's face it, unless he was DD then he would have been drinking too) I would probably throw the same questions back at him.

But if I saw him in any other situation? No biggie. Depending on who we were each with I'd probably say hi. If he had his little girl with him but not his wife I'd definitely go say hello cause I like little kids. But if it was all three of them I wouldn't interject myself into their life. Then again.. I routinely get ambushed by students, so it's just how things go in this town!

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Nah, he just knows that I will probably not offer anything. But I will answer direct questions. Depending on how sober he would be (because let's face it, unless he was DD then he would have been drinking too) I would probably throw the same questions back at him.

But if I saw him in any other situation? No biggie. Depending on who we were each with I'd probably say hi. If he had his little girl with him but not his wife I'd definitely go say hello cause I like little kids. But if it was all three of them I wouldn't interject myself into their life. Then again.. I routinely get ambushed by students, so it's just how things go in this town!

Lol I loved the Ambushed by students thing I can just imagine you looking over your shoulder at the grocery store and turning around to find twenty smiling students waving at you innocently.

Oh that's true! Ha! You'd have caught him. I wish to see my T in other situations than just the office, it only gives a one-dimensional view.

[A Red Panda]

Yeah... if I saw my T while HE was drunk and I was still sober I would find it hilarious. That would most likely mean that there was a football game on and he was at Boston Pizza. In THAT situation I would probably send him an email the next day saying that I hoped he didn't have much of a hangover. hahaha.

((as to students - I had two kids actually pop into the aisle.. three times.... to say hello. I nearly dropped my groceries three times. Another time, I was leaving the liquor store with friends - and had a group of my students run up to me!! They tried convincing me to go hang out with them.Yeah. I was still in uni during that one and I was absolutely horrified!))

[purplemystery]

Originally Posted by Daeva

YES! I once on a temper tantrum snarled out, "You know EVERYTHING about me and I don't know anything about you except that you really really like cows!"

Hahahaha, I laughed at that. What a random thing to know! It can be frustrating sometimes...

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by A Red Panda

Yeah... if I saw my T while HE was drunk and I was still sober I would find it hilarious. That would most likely mean that there was a football game on and he was at Boston Pizza. In THAT situation I would probably send him an email the next day saying that I hoped he didn't have much of a hangover. hahaha.

((as to students - I had two kids actually pop into the aisle.. three times.... to say hello. I nearly dropped my groceries three times. Another time, I was leaving the liquor store with friends - and had a group of my students run up to me!! They tried convincing me to go hang out with them.Yeah. I was still in uni during that one and I was absolutely horrified!))

Yeah hang out with you, and your booze!!! LOL. Don't like being stalked huh? Aww I think it's sweet they thought scaring you was so funny. Poor Panda!

[ready2makenice]

My T actually came into my job twice when I was there. I didn't expect it,was pretty shocking.

I also saw T at the mall once,it was weird,seeing her out of context and dressed down,looking like the rest of us normal people in the world.

My T and I also go to the same gym and when I'm in the area close to T,I sometimes go to those 2 different locations of that gym. Once I swear I saw her while I was at the gym,avoided the poor woman while secretly trying to see if it was her the whole time (it wasn't) I was relieved

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by purplemystery

Hahahaha, I laughed at that. What a random thing to know! It can be frustrating sometimes...

Well her office walls are red and taupe, and she has a cow calander, her background on her computer is cows, her doorstopper is a cow, she has cow statues everywheres, the pictures on her walls are cows......she really likes cows.

[Daeva]

Originally Posted by ready2makenice

My T actually came into my job twice when I was there. I didn't expect it,was pretty shocking.

I also saw T at the mall once,it was weird,seeing her out of context and dressed down,looking like the rest of us normal people in the world.

My T and I also go to the same gym and when I'm in the area close to T,I sometimes go to those 2 different locations of that gym. Once I swear I saw her while I was at the gym,avoided the poor woman while secretly trying to see if it was her the whole time (it wasn't) I was relieved

THAT WOULD BE AWKWARD. Omg, I would be moritifed if I saw my T at the gym, not because of her but because of me, I'd be so embarrassed

[crazycat000]

I always hope to see my T. She ives on my street 2 blocks down, and if I have a choice, I always walk down the streets closer to her house in hopes of seeing her. I saw her in front of her house once and I have walked down her block not like the creepy stalking her house kind of thing, but just in hopes of seeing her. She isn't the kind of T that keeps everything from me and is so straight up, so I know a lot about her life and her problems and I just really want to see her in her everyday life.

[Daeva]

I wish I lived close to my T, though I can see where that would be a struggle as well!

[Squirrel1983]

I have never seen T outside if session. Once she asked if I was going to the band concert for the school I work at that night. I asked why? She said because her grandkids were in the band and she heard it was going to be a good concert. I puposely did not go, just so I would not have the chance of seeing her outside of session. I would feel weird seeing her in the "normal" world.

Pdoc on the other hand, I have seen outside of appointments. When I first moved during the summer 2012, I changed my address for my file at pdocs. He looked at the address and asked what streets it was located between because it looked familiar. I told him and he goes "oh we're neighbors, I live in _____ Estates" I was horrified that he lived so close to me now. I have seen him in the groceryn store a few times, to which I would purposely quickly turn around and go down a different asile to avoid him. Then one time when I was out in my grandma's pasture with her getting something out of her barn (her pasture backs up against some backyards of ______ Estates), I saw pdoc in his backyard. He smiled and said hi, so I pretended like I didn't know him and he was just being neighborly and said hi back. I don't know if he recognized me or not (maybe he was just being neighborly and saying hi), but it was really weird.