There is room for everybody on Couch 72

Hope you are having a good session, granite.
Sorry to hear about job woes, alone. Getting to the interview stage is good, though - I hope the next one will lead to a job.

WARNING: OPINION LIKELY TO GIVE OFFENSE

Your T is a fine woman but I don't think she is sufficiently hard-headed to run a business.

I don't see this as a good plan. I would advise, if you did go ahead with it, to get a good attorney to draw up a clear agreement.
This sort of thing goes bad all the time between people who were not therapist and client. Add that into the mix and the potential for disaster is greater than the realistic benefit - in my opinion.

Goodnight couch. I've been in a post-T funk all day. I hope T was just having an off day - he had a cold, which maybe affected his T-ing. I felt misunderstood and rejected. Perhaps stopdog is right and they are wily uncaring people who are only out to manipulate us. At least I haven't cried.

She's more hard-headed (read: stubborn) than you think. I told her she needs to hire someone who has a director's personality.

Thank you for your opinion. I have a good attorney, so I may use his services to do this.

Per your recent post: im sorry if ive made you feel unwelcome. When i read the quoted post earlier today, it struck me how much the relationship between you and your t had changed. Here you already seem like business partners. I didnt post cuz it seemed kind of intrusive to say so, but it did give me a good feeling Ie about your rs. Again, sorry for the present, and the past.

I am leaving, but I wanted to say that you've never made me feel unwelcome, Hank. PC has just changed and I don't know that it's for the better.

im sorry if it has been me chopin . if so it was not intentional I have been keeping away for personal reasons and I promise it has nothing to do with your posts .the couch just seems very unsafe for me . not at all because of you .just don't feel safe posting much without being called a bully or mean girl so I stay away now for the most part. but I have enjoyed your positive influence and will miss reading your posts. unfortunately this has been the way of the couch .

I, for one, am going to miss you. Please stay in touch if you can.

A good day for me and hopefully a good night as well.

love this singer I think someone posted a song from her on pc and I love her work

and this one

unless posts are getting deleted granite, i have not read one post where anyone called you a bully or said you were mean? Not on the couch (and i read it every day), nor in any other thread that i've frequented.

also, hope T went well!

Everyone seems very hesitant to share on the couch anymore. Or is it just me?

Chopin It just seems to be the way the couch has been moving even since before you came back. I have lots of posts that are not responded to by the majority of people. I don't think you should take it personally...

Granite...hoping your T session went well and glad that you had a positive week away with your friends.

I feel bad. Sorry. I have been reading and keeping up every day and feeling joy for the happy things people have been sharing as well as sadness and concern for all the difficult things that everyone is dealing with. I just haven't felt up to posting in quite a while.

Hugs to all who want them and a nod a wave to those who prefer that.

Chopin -I am confused.
But good luck with your endeavors. I hope it goes well for you.

Okay, okay, I guess I overreacted. I just perceived the whole psychotherapy forum, as well as the couch, as different since I came back. We used to come on here and have fun. I haven't shouted, "Cool Whip" in a long time...or posted a silly video. I'm sure I'm still perceived by some as a drama queen, but I swear I'm not...in fact, I try to avoid it like the plague. I'm done with drama, whether I create it myself or others create it around me. The ultimate give-up on drama is when I quit my job. My H, my T, and my friends have all told me how much I've changed, but most importantly is that I know I've changed. I don't need other people to know I've changed, but it sticks in my craw when I perceive others presuming I'm not any different.

I came back wanting to be helpful. I was starting T school and I want to be able to share things that I'm learning. I know that my relationship with my T is unusual. Most people probably do react in either horror or jealousy so I should just shut up about it. I wish we could just all get along (cue Kum by Yah ). I know that will never happen...it's not meant to happen in life and this is just a microcosm of life.

So, I won't leave. Thanks to those who responded.

speaking of dual T relationships....

We all know, my T's kids go to the small school I work at. I don't generally interact with them (except when I am subbing in the High School English class).. I have also worked with T's wife a couple of times as she volunteered for a service that I was in charge of. T and I have talked about this before. He has said that it was a dual relationship of sorts, but not truly one though. Well, it turns out my name is being thrown around to start teaching up in the high school again (next school year) which would mean that I would be T's kids teacher, assuming they are there next year. Ugh.. I don't even know what to do with this. I assume, that if I was offered the position and took it, T would say that I couldn't continue on as his client.. and thinking about right now, that seems more tragic and almost worth denying the position IF offered. Right now, this is a big if... This is not what I wanted to spend my time talk to T about at my appointment on Friday, but I think I will just have to throw it out there and see what he says.

Healed, I would hope it wouldn't become a problem. Recent research shows that especially in small towns and religious communities, dual relationships are inevitable, and usually not harmful. The question would be twofold: can you handle it and can he handle it? Or are either of you willing to handle it. That's what you have to explore with your T. Plus do you want to go and teach in the high school? If so, congrats!

ok I really cant argue this .people have been very supportive of me big time these days .or if have offered an opinion not popular have basically left me alone . it has been nice. thanks guys

sometimes I just need a bit of reminding to look back and see

So, I took a box of donations to the thrift store today. The sun was out and I wanted to get outside for a bit, plus wanted to get rid of this box that's been sitting in my room all winter. I was also hoping to find some scrubs or some suitable fabric to replace my friend's burnt-up clothing. It was quite cold again today, so I wore a heavy zipped sweater with a hood. The hood is a bit baggy and floppy. I got in my car after shopping, and started to back out of the parking space, and I sneezed. When I sneezed, my hood fell down and covered my eyes. As a result, I ended up backing into a parked pickup truck. No one was hurt, thank God. The truck barely got a little bit of my paint transferred to the chrome bumper, but other than that I didn't see any damage. My car, however, has damage to the left rear tail light and part of the body, probably more than my $150 deductible. I am hoping to just get the insurance check for my car, and have my neighbor see if he can get the tail light and turn signal working, and then use tape in place of the broken red plastic. My car is a 1995 model, and if the cheaper repair is functional and not too ugly, I'll live with it until the car dies. $150 is a lot of money when one's only income is SSI. When I got home, I just let myself cry. It was a way to relieve some of the stress, and I feel better now. I thought of my old T today. He used to say, "No good deed goes unpunished." Ha! I also thought of something I heard once about a Chinese curse, "May you live in interesting times." But the best line I thought of was from the movie "Airplane!". Lloyd Bridges is under stress, and he says, "I picked the wrong week to quit smoking", and he lights up a cigarette. The next piece of bad news, he says something about picking the wrong week to quit drinking, and he pours himself a stiff one. But my favorite is when he says, "I picked the wrong week to quit sniffing glue." That's my go-to line whenever I'm feeling like there's one stressor after another. I definitely use laughter as a coping mechanism.

I'll share practically anything on here (I consider it a safe place).

(((tametc))) i hate when i sneeze while im driving! You are incapacitated for too long! And power steering is too sensitive. You chose the wrong week to stop pinching snuff!

Yes, going back to the High school position is the reason why I came back to the school in the first place, figured I would take what I could get until my old job became open again.

I think I can handle it.. though thinking about it, sitting with he and his wife for parent teacher conferences may be a bit awkward. Or, what if he feels his child isn't getting an adequate education in my class, or what if he doesn't like the material I am teaching, etc.. Those are things that I think of. Well, for sure it is a conversation we will be having.

I would be more worried if i could give fair grades. Can you grade tests and papers without looking at who wrote them? I was reading stuff about impartial grading probably on the nytimes.