[mybabyboy]

hi I have written on here before can everyone please help me figure him out. My dr I have seen for 20 yrs I have seen 3x or 2x a wk he always txed me and called me for over two yrs he called me wherever I was or txed me all night then he stops bc his wife was trash talking me, but that's nothing new she has been talking behind my back for 8 yrs the staff all tell me. my dr doesn't let me talk to anyone patients people out front nobody when I get in the office this girl is supposed to take my bp he always comes and gets me gets my pocketbook my coat and phone and says lets go. the girl says I gonna do her bp he says no and then tells me come on. I used to talk to the receptionist nice woman we were very friendly and she said he sure has something for u he wont take any of your cancellations he tells us u have to call his cell all this stuff has been going on for yrs I try to put up with it bc now im on medicare and its hard to find a dr on medicare, he has told me to go to naranon meetings I did then stopped bc my daughter who took her life had a drug problem, I told him how painful it is to hear someones child is getting married having a baby and my child is dead I told himit depressed me more. so he got furious said I don't listen puts me in hospital has them take all my clothes including underwear and says he is punishing me for not listening I was shocked and heartbroken I lost my son to suicide also he knows my hear is broken, well like 8 months ago he wants me to go to these dbt classes in a bad neighborhood I didn't wanna go, and he says im not borderling but have suicidality ok so I don't go bc I suggest to him at the nearby hospital they have dbt could I go there, anything I suggest is no, so bacl to his wife she hates my guts I have never done anything to her except try to be nice well she thinks I should be fine by now after losing two children to suicide im heartbroken she suggests isee another dr in his practice and him once a wk him once a wk the other guy well I say I don't wanna rehash my whole life with another dr its to painful so that idea was gone, so six more months go by and I forgot something important I gained like 0 lbs from this drug serogueol which I am trying to take off I know him for 10 yrs he always says im attractive he likes me ect ect well I know he don't like the weight gain he always bugs me to get it off which im trying but my throid isn't working right but he wont allow me to take meds for it bc he said it will make my heart race, ok almost done, two wks ago he txs me and I tx him back u aren't my md get off my back about my weight u are depressing me more, he says he is my md and heis furious so we have a pretty good session tues then thurs I go in and he says to me I want you to talk to someone else in the office on Thursdays and see me on Tuesdays I said why, he says he wants me to have another person to talk to, I say why cant I just come to u once a wk I don't feel like going to a stranger and rehashing my life, so this is the kicker, he says u go see him or u don't see me and u don't get your meds, I say that's blackmail I said im not doing it, plus I was very hurt bc I sware he has changed since I gained the weight except for he wont let me to talk to anyone he always grabs my pocketbook coat phone and walks off and expects me to follow, well he has my ph so I do, this is crazy I think he says if u don't go see the other guy then u cant come to me or get meds so I say I quit and leave it at that I tell him off leave. later he calls me and says this is what he wants and he is going on a two wk vacation bc he is burned out bc he hadda take this nurse practicniers patient plus his own over bc she quit <patients. well anyway I email him after not sleeping at all that night and tell him holding my meds over my head is blackmail and telling me if I don't do what he say I don't go to him so I cant get my meds so I tell him imgoing to my family dr to see if he can help me with meds and he doesn't like that and says I wanna see u the next two Thursdays im delaying leaving till Friday so I can see u thurs in the meantime I want u to see the other guy while im gone but he wants this to continue when he comes back, honestly do u have any idea why he is doing this bc he don't want me to guit but I know he wants me to see this other guy on Mondays , he calls me again and is in a happy mood saying look I wont u to come in mon and see mike and then see me thurs do u think he is trying to get rid of me or trying to keep control over me or do uthinked he is burned out my daughter in law thinks he is a control freal she always thought he was wrong for calling and txing me and making all special rules for me other than his other patients and I never thought this, she thinks he is being dominant grabbing my pocketbook coat and ph I thought he was being a gentlemen my sister has been telling me to leave him since this is his practice does he get pd the medicare for me on Thursdays when he sees me and Mondays when mike sees me or would mike get the medicare on Mondays I am so hurt and angry and confused please can everyboby give me their opinion I cant sleep im thinking of quiting I feel its blackmail I also know he really wants me to lose this weight do u think its that his wife medicare or he is burnt out or he wants to get rid of me please be honest bc I rather leave now if that were his intention but he swares it isn't he says lets try it I just deel like not showing up Monday I really don't wanna talk about my son and daughter and their deaths all over again it hurts me, what would u people do. thanks in advance I need answers thanks baby boy

[mybabyboy]

oh im sorry I made a mistake I have seen him 10 yrs not 20 im going blind lol hope someone has an answer for me thanks

[unaluna]

I think its good that hes getting you a 2nd doctor. Hes not getting rich on the medicare. Some drs wont even take it. I see my dr a lot too. Anyway this way you have a backup dr. Your original dr can give him your background, i dont think youll have to talk about your history all over again.

[healingme4me]

I agree, you probably won't need to repeat all your history, should be, in your charts, which need to be shared. He could be burnt out, if wife is talking bad about you, stands to reason, perhaps about others as well, and then there's the question of marital burnout to go along with the career burnout. I'd take a second doctor, from that office, just to ensure that you have someone to turn to, for your meds, in case, g-d forbid, this one don't work out.

And not nitpicking, but to be perfectly honest, as I feel you may be able to get more replies this way, on these types of forums, just space out the sentences a few at a time, like I am, right here. Just easier to read over. Not you, it happens often, with newer posters on these types of forums. If you can't edit, perhaps a PM to a mod, to ask for spacing.

[mybabyboy]

Originally Posted by hankster

I think its good that hes getting you a 2nd doctor. Hes not getting rich on the medicare. Some drs wont even take it. I see my dr a lot too. Anyway this way you have a backup dr. Your original dr can give him your background, i dont think youll have to talk about your history all over again.

thanks hankster
I still think a lot of stuff he has done with me is wrong and I just went along but I am feeling very hurt I don't even wanna walk in that office anymore I have major depression ptsd and adhd thanks for writing

[mybabyboy]

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I agree, you probably won't need to repeat all your history, should be, in your charts, which need to be shared. He could be burnt out, if wife is talking bad about you, stands to reason, perhaps about others as well, and then there's the question of marital burnout to go along with the career burnout. I'd take a second doctor, from that office, just to ensure that you have someone to turn to, for your meds, in case, g-d forbid, this one don't work out.

And not nitpicking, but to be perfectly honest, as I feel you may be able to get more replies this way, on these types of forums, just space out the sentences a few at a time, like I am, right here. Just easier to read over. Not you, it happens often, with newer posters on these types of forums. If you can't edit, perhaps a PM to a mod, to ask for spacing.

thanks healingmeforme I am just very hurt and angry bc of a lot things he has done I know weren't right but I just didn't wana tell but others were noticing it and bringing it up staff ect and I think he was getting nervous thank you for replying

[anilam]

Babyboy, nice to see you again. So sorry your situation is still the same
Honestly, I don't think your T behaved badly. You were highly SUI and the out of session contact was needed to keep you out of hospital. Just my 2cents, I wasn't there...
Now I'm a bit at a loss, what would you want? You say you don't want him as your T yet you don't seem to look for another T and when he, himself, offered another T you are even angrier
Can't it be that in fact you're hurt because you think he stopped the "special" treatment because of your weight gain?

Only you can decide which treatment (if any) and from whom you want. 10yr is a long time to go to one T and it might be a good idea to get a second opinion and have s.o. as a backup should this T really burnout.

[mybabyboy]

Anilam. No I wanted to stay with him twice a wk I don't understand why he is doing this he is acting sneaky nervous and I don't understand why all of a sudden. I don't wanna go to this other guy he is a social worker and what is the pt why didn't he if maybe he was tired if twice a wk go to once a wk as I suggested no he was like either u go to him on Mondays or u don't come to me thurs I just feel its a firm of control once again do what I say or look out , and I think he acts like he is hiding something bc he never I mean never lets me talk to anyone. Thanks for replying

[nottrustin]

just a different thought...I wonder if he is trying to have you go to the other doc 1 day a week to appease his wife or because other people in the office has said something about his relationship with you?/

[mybabyboy]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

just a different thought...I wonder if he is trying to have you go to the other doc 1 day a week to appease his wife or because other people in the office has said something about his relationship with you?/

nottrustin
I think you hit the nail on the head bc I went in today for apt with other dr and it went good but he in a round about way told me he didn't like his wife, now im nervous bc I told this dr all the things my dr did that broke bounderies but I did tell him I care about him but when he just came outta no where I hadda see this other guy plus him on thurs or I wont get meds I was like , what did I do u know I was really hurt but now just hoping other dr doesn't repeat what isaid or im afraid he will terminate me well I keep u posted but the wife is so jealous this is gonna sound mean but she is sooo homely I guess she is insecure she can have him thanks for replying