[SheHulk07]

Do you ever just cry during your session with your t? I seem to have a brick wall in front of me when I'm crying when people are around so the most I've done is just a few sniffles. I feel comfortable with my T, but can't seem to get over the suck it up an move on mentality. I keep wishing that I could just go in, sit on the floor or in the chair and just bawl my eyes out. But I feel like that would be wasting his time just to listen to me pour my heart out and cry the whole time. I also think about hiding out in the bathroom and crying to see if he'll have someone look for me. That way I'm not crying in front of someone but he'll still know. I feel completely insane for thinking this stuff.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Yes, all the time. There have been times I didn't have anything specific to talk about and wanted to just sob. The fact that she lets me and is extra nurturing during those sessions is healing because I have a stigma around crying in front of anyone. I also deal with the brick wall issue...

So no, you wouldn't be wasting his time at all. It is a very valid use of a session. It is important to have a safe place to let those emotions out without feeling judged and sometimes that is the only place for that to happen. Sure, we can lock ourselves in a bathroom or hide somewhere and cry alone; but there is something powerfully healing about letting go of those tears in the presence of someone who allows you to do that.

[CantExplain]

Some people cry more than others. I think therapists prefer the criers.
But it's not compulsory.

Originally Posted by CantExplain

I think therapists prefer the criers.

Why do you say this?

When we work on trauma I do cry, not cried for a couple of months in therapy.

[lizzyjb]

In my experience, bad to be honest, my last t was the kind of then who dislike see people crying. She though that if you are crying, you cant fight against your troubles.
And on those years i was crying all days.
i think that cry is a way of take out your emotions that can hurt you if stand inside.

[dark_sweetie]

I get teary eyed but I never cry in front of T. I'm always a little too detached. I kinda wish I could so I didn't seem like a reptile all the time lol.

[AllyIsHopeful]

Originally Posted by lizzyjb

In my experience, bad to be honest, my last t was the kind of then who dislike see people crying. She though that if you are crying, you cant fight against your troubles.
And on those years i was crying all days.
i think that cry is a way of take out your emotions that can hurt you if stand inside.

Wow what an awful experience! Seems to me she chose the wrong career. You are right, crying lets those icky emotions come out and relieves emotional pain.

I can understand if a client continues to cry about the same exact thing and the T is trying to help with emotional regulation, but even then...

[HazelGirl]

I also have that brick wall issue. The most I have ever done is letting a few tears fall. I can't allow myself to break down and really cry, even if I am very upset. Sometimes, I leave session and sit in my car and cry for a while before leaving, because I can't just let myself cry in front of her. I can't cry around anyone, and I end up feeling so much hatred for myself when I cry.

[HazelGirl]

I want to add: I've begun telling her about when I cry outside of session in order to start trying to get myself used to allowing her to know. That's been really difficult, and I haven't noticed it making anything easier yet, but maybe it eventually will.

[someone321]

I do not cry in front of other people, including T... However, once I made my previous T tearing up I guess, in the future it might be difficult to not tear up at all during tough sessions but I think I'll fight against it...

[junkDNA]

ive cried a lot in front of T. but not recently. the most i get is just teary eyed and thats only sometimes. T has seen me become a blubbering idiot in front of him.

[Leah123]

Originally Posted by AmyFed07

Do you ever just cry during your session with your t? I seem to have a brick wall in front of me when I'm crying when people are around so the most I've done is just a few sniffles. I feel comfortable with my T, but can't seem to get over the suck it up an move on mentality. I keep wishing that I could just go in, sit on the floor or in the chair and just bawl my eyes out. But I feel like that would be wasting his time just to listen to me pour my heart out and cry the whole time. I also think about hiding out in the bathroom and crying to see if he'll have someone look for me. That way I'm not crying in front of someone but he'll still know. I feel completely insane for thinking this stuff.

Yes, I do. I've had sessions that were mostly just sobbing. They were so hard, and it took a while to get to the place where I felt comfortable doing that. My therapist and I talked about crying and what she thought of it and what I thought of it. For all my fear and concern about whether crying was useful or if I'd ever stop or if she'd have a problem with it, and how "ugly" I sound when crying etc. etc.... it has been a relief to do all that crying and to know if I just need a place to cry, I can do it in therapy and be comforted.

She even sent me a song a while back about never needing to cry alone. So touching.

Maybe you can share with him what you wrote, and hopefully as the relationship develops it'll get easier. I do believe and my therapist knows that crying is important for relieving stress and is a cleansing, healing thing to do.

[stopdog]

No. I rarely cry and never with the therapist around.

[msxyz]

When I was severely depressed I had several breakdowns in therapy crying the whole time uncontrollably but I never cried in therapy the 2 years preceding this. I am better now and cry rarely and when I do it's more like getting teary eyed anyway.

[BrokenGirl22]

I hate that I cry in my sessions, I feel it makes me weak. I try not to but just can't help it.

[tinyrabbit]

I wish I could go in and just cry. I tend to descend into a kind of shame fog when I'm upset and refuse things I actually want - recently there was one session where I refused tissues and repeatedly refused a hug even though I wanted the hug. It's very frustrating.

[JustShakey]

I have the brick wall thing going too. It seems like the only people I'm able to cry around are the ones who make me feel like crap for it. Previous T had a point with the whole self-hatred thing.

Originally Posted by AmyFed07

Do you ever just cry during your session with your t? I seem to have a brick wall in front of me when I'm crying when people are around so the most I've done is just a few sniffles. I feel comfortable with my T, but can't seem to get over the suck it up an move on mentality. I keep wishing that I could just go in, sit on the floor or in the chair and just bawl my eyes out. But I feel like that would be wasting his time just to listen to me pour my heart out and cry the whole time. I also think about hiding out in the bathroom and crying to see if he'll have someone look for me. That way I'm not crying in front of someone but he'll still know. I feel completely insane for thinking this stuff.

Yes, I've spent more than one session where I couldn't stop crying. Somehow the knowing that it's ok to cry with t made me cry more those first times... Almost like crying from relief or something. It was hard for me to understand that it didn't make me bad or weak like I was brought up to believe, when I finally accepted her word that it was ok to cry was when I started rewriting other beliefs as well. Crying is natural and healthy ESP in therapy to me!

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[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by artemis-within

Yes, I've spent more than one session where I couldn't stop crying. Somehow the knowing that it's ok to cry with t made me cry more those first times... Almost like crying from relief or something. It was hard for me to understand that it didn't make me bad or weak like I was brought up to believe, when I finally accepted her word that it was ok to cry was when I started rewriting other beliefs as well. Crying is natural and healthy ESP in therapy to me!

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I was brought up with that same belief as well, which is a big reason why I hate to cry. I know I'm due for a big breakdown and sob, just never seems to be able to happen at therapy. Maybe tomorrow I'll just bring a thing of tissues for myself to try to give myself the okay to do it. We will see what happens.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Why do you say this?

Therapists think that crying is healthy. When a patient cries in front of her for the first time, a T pumps her arm in the air and shouts, "Yes!" Mission accomplished.

I learned to cry in therapy. It really is an excellent way to deal with grief. Seriously.

[Freewilled]

I can't cry in T. I've gotten teary-eyed but very rarely........I can't even cry when I feel like crying outside of T half the time /: guess I'm kinda unhealthy. I have no idea what to do about it though.

[Bill3]

I cry in therapy.

[RTerroni]

I have never actually cried during session, although I came close to it in my final session with my 4 year Therapist, and probably will come close (and who knows may even cry) at the final session with my outgoing Therapist which is less than 2 weeks from now.

[Asiablue]

aww man, all I do is cry in therapy. I never used to cry so much but as I peel back the layers of defenses I seem to be getting in touch finally with all the grief I have.