Couch 78: Put your feet up and stay a while

Granite...will you have internet available to you so you can check in while you are at the mothers? I will be thinking about you and sending positive vibes your way...

I think I will . I hope so im gonna go out of my mind

MKAC... have you told your daughter about the issue with your mom? Can you come up with methods/ ways she can learn to protect herself? Remember...it's not you who does the bad behavior.... It's not your fault.

I have kind of given her a rough idea and we have discussed personal boundaries. My D refuses to hug my mother and I support her in drawing that line. However, when I stepped outside, my D went to leave and my mother and sisters all gave her **** about refusing to hug my mother. My mother pulled this ******** of claiming she raised my D, and my D just said she was not comfortable hugging my mother and left. My D rocks, but she should not have to put up with that.

Thanks for the support though, and you too Healed. I worked out really hard for the last 40 minutes and sweated out the alcohol and some of the hate.

MKAC... I think you have lots to be proud of...you taught your D to stand up for and protect herself because you can't always be around!

I can understand being angry with your mother and even your sisters but I don't see why you should be angry at yourself!

Hi all. A lot has happened since my last post. Long story short, I saw a neurosurgeon who specializes in spine surgery and learned that the cervical stenosis is causing compression of my spinal cord and some of the nerves. He has been listed as one of the best docs in the country for three years in a row, and is the director of the Spinal Surgery Program at the UW School of Medicine and Public Health, so I know I'm in good hands. He's also a very conservative surgeon, and rarely recommends surgery unless he believes it's absolutely necessary. Well, my surgery is scheduled for November 5.

Now that I'm somewhat over the shock of the news, I'm actually looking forward to having the surgery done, because some of my symptoms are getting progressively worse.

I haven't been on PC for quite a while, because my hands are becoming more disabled, and I have extreme numbness and tingling which has become quite painful.

I miss all of you, and am hoping to try to catch up a bit with reading posts when I have fewer medical appts and some free days during the week. Would very much appreciate positive thoughts, prayers, hugs, etc. Love to all.

Tamec

Thanks for keeping us posted. The thought of surgery is very stressing for me so I hope if it is for you that you find ways to handle that stress with good self care. I will be praying for you and your surgeon and that the surgery will result in the best possible outcomes!

Stop in again when you are able.

Tametc - I hope the surgery helps.

Really sorry to hear that you need surgery, Tametc, but I truly hope it helps! Those symptoms sound terrible!

Granite, thinking of you!

Making bacon and gluten free turn-overs for brunch. Not the world's healthiest stuff, but ...

Was at a Flea Market today and I got 7 more Shot Glasses to bring my Shot Glass count to 157, I also saw someone selling a keychain for a radio station that went off the air 17 and a half years ago so I had to get that as well.

I am having terrible anxiety right now!! Sitting in the editing room at D's dance studio trying not to freak the hell out! Haven't has anxiety this bad in awhile!

Watching the election results on TV.
It's depressing, to say the least.

Mast... I read a little about it.. It sounds like I very interesting election with the dissolution of the red-green pact from the previous nation wide election and with this being the first real big election for the Nationalist Sweden Democrats...

Do the elections in Sweden generally have a dramatic impact on your day to day lives? There are so many checks and balances here in US it takes years to enact big changes.

Well, I don't want to violate the terms of the forum which probably don't allow political discussion - and as far as I am concerned, none of the parties is perfect. And the fact that we're probably getting a red/green government rather than a conservative/centrist one is probably not going to change many things in our day-to-day lives, just as you say. Changes take time, and Sweden is a tiny country which depends on its neighbours and the rest of Europe to some extent, and even with tax increases (which I am all in favour of) it's not as if there is going to be a huge reserve of money to do things with. It is somewhat problematic that there won't be a majority government, but the thing that depresses me is the fact that the ulrea-nationalists are probably going to be in a position to determine the balance of power. They scare me, and they scare pretty much everybody I know, and I am deeply ashamed of my country.

On the other hand, none of the other parties in the parliament is prepared to cooperate with the nationalists, and I think they will go to some lengths to minimise their influence.

I concur.

It's interesting that Wikipedia doesn't mention the nationalist party when I read about the Swedish General election 2014. Perhaps Wikipedia used another name.

It might not be updated yet since they're still counting the votes. They're now the third largest party anyway. Their votes have more than doubled since the last election.

Well I have felt that same way about recent elections in the US.

The thing is that everybody is depressed now. There will almost certainly be eight parties in the parliament, and only the people who voted for one of those parties are happy about the result. My Facebook feed, which comprises party sympathisers/voters from all the other seven parties and two other parties (which are too small to get a seat in the parliament), is full of shocked and despairing comments.

I'm off to bed now. I knew it would be bad, but not this bad.

if any at all!

My anxiety has subsided, thankfully. This whole being sick thing (probably the worse I have been sick in awhile) has my anxiety on high. Also, I was sitting in the waiting room of dance studio and my D was doing her first auditions and that was freaking me out a bit too. Just for sooooo many reasons. She is 6 years old and rejection kills me and God knows I don't want my D to have to feel the rejection. I suppose, though, it is part of life-especially if she is going to keep on dancing.

I think in the long run, it comes down to control and not being in control of everything!!

So true it has probably been decades since anything meaningful was accomplished in the US.

Found out this afternoon that my brother and sister-in-law kicked my niece (16) out of the house almost two weeks ago. She called my husband this afternoon to fill us in.

I talked to my brother and offered to let her stay with us. He (read: his wife) declined. But he admitted they did kick her out. So I was getting ready to call the police in the morning. It's illegal to kick out a minor child.

But then she started texting with my husband and he convinced her to call her mom, so it sounds like she's going back home in the next few days.

Ugh.

Well I feel like the world's worst mom right about now. I was out shoe-shopping with my son (he's 15) and hubby called needing to figure out how to switch cars cuz he needed mine for work (he's a contractor/courier and has to use his own vehicle) my car gets better mileage than his so he uses mine for long distance runs. Anyway. So we decided it would just be easier for us to come straight home so he can swap out cars at home. He's totally freaking about how fast can I get there. Which in turn made me freak out and drive faster than I normally do. So my son starts getting on my case about driving too fast. I in response (at least I had the presence of mind to take a deep breath first so I didn't yell) politely asked him to just let me be, and not worry about it. He got very offended. I wasn't driving insanely or anything, just a little bit over the speed limit which I normally don't do. I was in control of the car, even if I wasn't so much in control of my own feelings. But I feel terrible for telling my son to basically leave me alone. I've since apologized. But it was not my finest moment as a mom.