Couch 78: Put your feet up and stay a while

Mast

Monday at work was just any old day at first. But then I got a call that affected me so deeply. And led to me realizing how greatly blessed I am and I feel this total "coming together" in myself of everything I worked so hard on/for with t and everything I have learned during the process of therapy and what it all boils down to. That being, its all abou living consciously, holding myself accountable, loving others and being grateful for all i have. I am ready to say goodbye to t, I just needed this phone call to solidify everything. I spoke with a holocaust survivor and she told me her story briefly, I cried with her as she spoke, I feel forever changed inside after that conversation. It was incredible talking with that beautiful lady. I don't think I'll ever forget that call. And I wanted to share.

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omg what an amazing thing . i would so love to talk to a holocaust survivor . what an amazing gift

It was.... I can't even put into words the beauty and grace I heard in her 93 year old voice. Incredible.

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I go to my t with this a lot, and he doesnt really accept it. Its like the Seinfeld episode where George breaks up with his girlfriend and she refuses to break up. I told t today i need some kind of tether - to hold on to myself when i get lost. Some kind of mindfulness tether. Not sure how or why. But i felt like he understood.

i have a terrible memory, but someone here did the ice bucket challenge (granite?). i saw this video today (and it made me misty-eyed).

Meet the Man Who Started the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge Phenomenon

yes it was me .my stepfather passed away from ALS . that story was amazing thanks for posting it

Have to get a filling done tomorrow, fortunately the appointment isn't until the afternoon.

It made me misty-eyed too!

Sorry I am so rubbish with words I deleted my OP.

Standing up for myself is something I have not done in about 17 years. It is nerve-wracking, terrifying and totally emotionally exhausting, but I am arguing law with a real estate agent.

Henry Krystal is a local (michigan) survivor, i think my t knows him. He is a pdoc / t. I read a book by him and i was like, this guy totally gets me, i love him. His son also a t recently won some award which got me googling and i found the old guy on a holocaust history interview website.

I love his name, it sounds like a Willie Wonka character.

I am wondering if all this is worth it. I am trying to cooperate and offer solutions, even to the point of signing an affadavit, and all I'm getting is stonewalled. Even though the law is on my side.

Main T is the son of 2 Holocaust survivors. I couldn't even imagine what that would be like.

Difficult... I know it's obvious but that's the only word which comes to my mind. My closest family was hiding people so that they wouldn't go there, so all these stories were in my family always, the fear, the danger, the pain, the escape...

And how not to feel pitiful with own silly problems?

I always tried to imagine also what it would be like to be my T when he was growing up. I imagine his parents would have a hard time empathizing with his everyday concerns (1rst generation American=first world problems?)
And the survivors guilt that my T describes sounds painful too. He shared that his parents felt that "all the good people were killed" because they felt guilty about what they had to do to survive.

SD is right, Ts are definitely wily....

Good news: Real estate is willing to consider my solution.
Bad news: My ex is being an *** about co-parenting (as usual)

Hi Granite - They are biggies...
Marriage (verbally abusive) I need to stand up for myself.
Time for me - I do everything for everyone else and have zero time for myself
Work - I was made redundant last year and have taken a job I hate - I need to find the strength to look for something else.
Children - I have a sick 11 year old and I need to spend time with him - hopefully we can find a cure....
I have a teenage son with problems/attitude. I need to spend time sorting him out.
Parents - just need to work through issues.
Assertiveness - I need to be!

Constantly longing for a parental influence - need to stop this.

Eating issues - need to face up to/lose weight.

Sorry. I feel uncomfortable talking about me.

Mast - I feel exactly the same as this at the moment. I hope it has more to do with our long T breaks and I am sure once you have your next T appt. you will get back on track. You are not the things you posted. Not at all, not one bit. We have both found a way to cope through the long summer break and I am sure this is part of why we are feeling this way. Please keep posting. You have given me strength and hope to keep ploughing on - for which I am so very grateful.

Wow. #11 really caught my eye. Mesmerising gifs you'll want as screensavers.
http://www.buzzfeed.com/kasiagalazka...-a-screensaver

this sounds like a wonderful but intense list .you have put so much thought into what you need for yourself good job. one step at a time

Wow, I guess that my sister took a course in "how to convey bad news", they were supposed to visit us (different country) today or tomorrow, everything was planned etc. but two weeks ago they said that they might not come, then they changed their mind, then again... and again... yesterday she told me that they'd cone on Friday or Saturday but would let me know in the evening, but she didn't so today I texted her and she responded that they won't come and... I am just so relieved that I eventually know if I should take days off from work etc. Pity that they won't come, but I'm glad that it's eventually finished...

gash, ever ending story... my sister just texted me that maybe they can actually come but on Wednesday...

i find that starting slow with a manageable goal helps keep me going forward. it sounds like maybe assertiveness is a root in several areas of your life.

and parental influence, what do you mean? i have several women in my life who feel 'motherly' to me and my t says it's okay to let other people interact with me on that level because my own mother doesn't know me that well and is kind of self-absorbed about it.