[Fuzzybear]

I just remembered quite vividly an incident a couple of years ago with a counsellor/therapist who I didn't see for very long (and didn't bond with I guess I saw her as a "persecuting mother" at times, and never really as a "nurturing mother figure"......

She told me that "regression is essential for therapy"...... well in one session I wasn't really "me" and I gingerly opened a door which was right next to me in the room where we were having the session.

She was very angry.............

She didnt try to analyse my "action" either.........just anger

Any thoughts?......................

Any thoughts?

Erm, yes: "what kind of therapist is that" springs to mind.

Professionalism did not seem to be her forte if she couldn't even keep hold of her emotions, and subsequently "got angry".

You seem to be better off without her Fuzzy... She doesn't/didn't seem really helpful. I am amazed at how incompetent and/or uncaring some health care professionals are...

[Perna]

I sort of did that and my therapist "snapped" at me but I took it as caring? You know how a good parent will make sure you keep out of danger by yelling at you to "warn" you? Well, it sounds to me (from my experience) that the therapist didn't want you opening that door! Going away/inside/"next" door can be very dangerous psychologically, especially if you get in the habit of doing it? In my situation where I got snapped at, I sort of knew what I was doing and suddenly saw my therapist in "front" of me on my wrong path with "knives" out (so I use to watch a lot of Xena, Warrior Princess, so sue me :-) to bar my way down that "bad" path. I don't even remember her exact words, just that I was awestruck she "found"/saw me and knew what I was doing when I only half knew myself?

[Fuzzybear]

[Merlin]

I don't know whether my pdoc has broken boundaries on not, but I have found his help invaluable. He was a classmate of my mothers, but they were never friends; I don't think that would count as a dual relationship.

The first time I met my pdoc was a week after ODing on Tylenol, so it was an awkward meeting. I guess he felt I was alright, because he scheduled our next appointment for the next month. He had recommended meds, but at that time I refused them. About 3 weeks later, I ran away from home (I was 19 at the time, so I could leave without my parents consent.) However, I was rather suicidal at the time, and have communicated my intent to jump, though I didn't specify where. He was in contact with my parents at the time and supportive. He gave them his home number. I think that was an okay boundary crossing though; my parents needed support.

Later, we were talking about how my perspective was limited, due to my age and my experiences, and that he would like to sit down with me thirty year from then and see how my perspective had changed. I said that I hoped it wouldn't be in the therapy context and he said he would hope so too. It was flattering that he would want that. He said I reminded him of what he was like at my age.

Another time he told me that his friend and colleague has committed suicide and he'd just come back from delivering a eulogy. He talked about how difficult it had been loosing a friend, and how it would devastate the doctor's family even more. He really let me see how he felt. I think he wanted to show how much suicide affect those around the person, that it creates a stain on the community. I not sure how much that got through to me, but that he was feeling to show so much of himself deepened our relationship. He also told me he worried about me. It pissed me off, I didn't want more people to worry about me.

Wow! That's alot. Although they were boundary crossings, I don't think they were violations. I think the deepened the therapeutic relationship. Though I think I felt some connection with him the first time I met him.

DM