The answer is: (Couch) 84. The question is...

Jan 25, 2015, 10:06 PM

Mmmm pass the fajitas! Sounds yummy!

catonyx · Jan 25, 2015, 10:15 PM

Mmm it does sound good! We are having fajitas on Friday.

ThingWithFeathers · Jan 25, 2015, 10:20 PM

Set goals for the next fortnight: get up by 12pm every day, shower every day, go for at least one walk each day and stop drinking. I'm not having much luck with one and two, but I have gone 3 nights without drinking though!

Jan 25, 2015, 11:04 PM

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Originally Posted by healed84

Hey, RTS.. how you doing lately?

I was out running errands today with a friend so that was fun. Hanging in there still trying to learn how to be me with my husband home. I had a great weekend last week because he was away. I could be me and enjoy my own home.

I can't do that when he is home. My anxiety is too high. When we are both home, I am either hiding in the bathroom, taking a nap to escape the bad feelings or cleaning because the anxiety is high.... Cleaning is a visual way to see I am productive and have earned my worth for the day.

Thanks for asking Healed.

CantExplain · Jan 25, 2015, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

my gift to the couch. A snail plane and a happy frog, he needs a lily padi will get on with that

Those would both be great, if whimsical, tattoos.

growlycat · Jan 26, 2015, 01:16 AM

Gah…i need to do my taxes. need that refund!!!

Jan 26, 2015, 01:36 AM

Ex dropped a bombshell on the girls saying he was going to live in the next town, over an hour away. The youngest wanted him to stay and sent her off to formulate good argument about him staying here. Whio does he think he is? Eldest didnt care as she doesn t like him. He told me i had to demonstrate my stability! And prove i can budget. He gives me very little for food for the girls each fortnight and somehow i stretch it out in my pension.."

catonyx · Jan 26, 2015, 01:50 AM

I can't sleep no matter how hard I try. My mind won't shut off. Just took my anxiety meds... Can't wait for it to kick in. I'm so tired, I just want to sleep.

Jan 26, 2015, 03:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Ex dropped a bombshell on the girls saying he was going to live in the next town, over an hour away. The youngest wanted him to stay and sent her off to formulate good argument about him staying here. Whio does he think he is? Eldest didnt care as she doesn t like him. He told me i had to demonstrate my stability! And prove i can budget. He gives me very little for food for the girls each fortnight and somehow i stretch it out in my pension.."

Hi guys i need the help of the couchies. I want to tell ex to stuff it i'm not playing his game anymore and i will be claimimg the payment for kids that is entitled instead of begging and grovelling to him for it. I also want to say that i dont need to prove my stability or budgeting skills. The thing i am afraid of is his answers as both he and his mum have this way with words that bamboozles just about everyone else and they get their own way, again. Should i just state it like that and walk away or do something different.

CantExplain · Jan 26, 2015, 03:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Hi guys i need the help of the couchies. I want to tell ex to stuff it i'm not playing his game anymore and i will be claimimg the payment for kids that is entitled instead of begging and grovelling to him for it. I also want to say that i dont need to prove my stability or budgeting skills. The thing i am afraid of is his answers as both he and his mum have this way with words that bamboozles just about everyone else and they get their own way, again. Should i just state it like that and walk away or do something different.

Get your lawyer to write him a letter. That should get his attention.

Jan 26, 2015, 03:51 AM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Get your lawyer to write him a letter. That should get his attention.

I've been thinking about that. We only seem to have the womens resource centre and very few legal aid people. It may have to come to that.

catonyx · Jan 26, 2015, 06:29 AM

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Originally Posted by CantExplain

Get your lawyer to write him a letter. That should get his attention.

This seems like the way to go.

catonyx · Jan 26, 2015, 06:31 AM

So after two hours of sleep my baby girl wanted me to feed her. Now an hour later and she's still awake. I can barely keep my eyes open because I'm so tired. I hope she falls asleep soon. I'm running out of time to sleep. This is exhausting.

JustShakey · Jan 26, 2015, 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

Hi guys i need the help of the couchies. I want to tell ex to stuff it i'm not playing his game anymore and i will be claimimg the payment for kids that is entitled instead of begging and grovelling to him for it. I also want to say that i dont need to prove my stability or budgeting skills. The thing i am afraid of is his answers as both he and his mum have this way with words that bamboozles just about everyone else and they get their own way, again. Should i just state it like that and walk away or do something different.

I guess I'm going to tell you what I keep telling myself: Do what you need to do to take care of you and your kids and don't worry about how the ex will respond. He's his own problem now.

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JustShakey · Jan 26, 2015, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

I've been thinking about that. We only seem to have the womens resource centre and very few legal aid people. It may have to come to that.

Go talk to them. Make him play your game. He's keeping you dependent on him making you beg and grovel.

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JustShakey · Jan 26, 2015, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Bipolarartist

He told me i had to demonstrate my stability! And prove i can budget. He gives me very little for food for the girls each fortnight and somehow i stretch it out in my pension.."

Jerk.

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NowhereUSA · Jan 26, 2015, 11:33 AM

BPA - where you're at - can you get legal action to force payment? In the US (if I recall you're not in the US, right?) if he isn't paying, the state can garnish his wages. I have one friend who's ex is so far behind, that their oldest is grown with a kid of her own and my friend still gets payments in the form of them taking his entire tax refund and giving it to her each year (the way the US does it, it's a total dollar amount and the debt doesn't go away just because the child is 18. If the parent has been up to date on all payments, then yes, at 18 it's over or something like that, I don't know all the nitty gritty details).

granite1 · Jan 26, 2015, 02:55 PM

I am having the worse day ever . my life seems to be blowing up and so now I am just going to drink get drunk until I pass out or just get completely numb to life

Jan 26, 2015, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by granite1

I am having the worse day ever . my life seems to be blowing up and so now I am just going to drink get drunk until I pass out or just get completely numb to life

What's going on, Granite? Want to talk about it before, during or after getting drunk?

catonyx · Jan 26, 2015, 03:00 PM

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What's going on, Granite? Want to talk about it before, during or after getting drunk?

I second this...

granite1 · Jan 26, 2015, 03:15 PM

I just don't want to hurt anymore .I just want positive people in my life. it cant seem to happen

unaluna · Jan 26, 2015, 04:16 PM

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I just don't want to hurt anymore .I just want positive people in my life. it cant seem to happen

You have already been thru enough. Thats how i feel - i cant take any more of any one else's craziness. They will have to take it someplace else. This dump is closed.

Jan 26, 2015, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

BPA - where you're at - can you get legal action to force payment? In the US (if I recall you're not in the US, right?) if he isn't paying, the state can garnish his wages. I have one friend who's ex is so far behind, that their oldest is grown with a kid of her own and my friend still gets payments in the form of them taking his entire tax refund and giving it to her each year (the way the US does it, it's a total dollar amount and the debt doesn't go away just because the child is 18. If the parent has been up to date on all payments, then yes, at 18 it's over or something like that, I don't know all the nitty gritty details).

Thanks nowhere, i am talking about the govt payments i am entitled to. The reason i didn't claim them before is we were just experimenting with custody arrangement. I feel the girls are stable noe and i have lived by myself long enough to manage to not get into too much money trouble. Both me and the ex are on disability pensions now so child support isn't available.
I'll just apply for my half of the payments.
Thanks all for the comments.

Jan 26, 2015, 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

I guess I'm going to tell you what I keep telling myself: Do what you need to do to take care of you and your kids and don't worry about how the ex will respond. He's his own problem now.

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Ha. You sound like T. Thanks for reminding me.

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Originally Posted by JustShakey

Go talk to them. Make him play your game. He's keeping you dependent on him making you beg and grovel.

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I realise this. I think ive been held down so long i've forgotten how to stand up.