Abusive T

Hi junk.....how long did it take for the licensing board complaint to be completed and did you T agree to take a plea or did T go to a hearing? Just curious because I'm in a similar situation. Thanks and take care!

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Originally Posted by junkDNA View Post
in some states (like the one i live in) it is not a criminal offense
What states allow intimacy between a client/ patient relationship? I wasn't aware of this.

I looked the criminal offense statistic up about 3 years ago, and in only 2 states at that time was it a criminal offense meaning you could actually be arrested and serve prison time.

Also, not every state requires psychotherapist to have malpractice insurance ( I believe Georgia does not require any M.D.'s to carry insurance, and there may be others), sexual deviance with a client is exempted by most insurance policies.

My heart goes out to all of you that were mistreated by people that are supposed to help you.

You know, it wouldn't be at all unusual for you to miss the abusive T , although I don't think that is what you were saying. Before an abuser strikes, they work very hard to build a bond that will keep them safe . I know that even though my ex T ended up exploiting me, there is a part of me that misses that early safe , supportive feeling.

hmm this was 5 yrs ago so my memory is shoddy as usual. i would say it took 3 months to complete the board complaint process. my T did not cooperate with the board at all and did not go to the board hearing, he decided to'settle' with the board which meant he lost his license to practice forever. the civil suit took much, much longer though but that did not involve the board of psychology.

junkDNA I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this. You had to go through mediation? Does that mean that you had to face your former T? I still shudder at the thought of possibly running into around the city. So far that hasn't happened. I literally have been diagnosed with PTSD, which was made much worse through her abandonment of me....so now I have another episode of PTSD. I am hyper vigilant and am not at all myself in new situations until I've totally scoped out where I am and know that she isn't there. It makes going to the mall and grocery store very stressful!

i'm so sorry. i know the trust issues it brings. please be patient with yourself and try not to beat yourself up.

the reporting the t isn't actually the most important thing - YOU are and your recovery.

Wow, those of you who have been sexually exploited by a T... I have no words for that, I'm sorry that ANYONE has to go through this, but unfortunately there are people out there, even in fields like psychotherapy & the helping professions, that seek to fulfill their own unmet needs & lack integrity & boundaries in doing so....

I am a survivor of sexual trauma myself, my abuser was male & therefore I only see therapists of the same gender as I am... I don't fear men in my regular everyday life at all, I get along as good with men as I do women, but in a position of power or authority like that I'm not good with it, so I stick with other women.

I cannot even begin to imagine how traumatizing it must be for anyone to ever go through that & I wish you all well in your recovery & healing from those horrible experiences! I always think out of all of the professions out there, therapists have the most access in the most personal & intimate ways to us & our lives & you'd think they would use that to help us heal & not use it to fulfill some fantasy or unmet need they have.... integrity is really important in a therapist & hearing about experiences like this saddens me... I know what it's like to be in a sexually exploitative situation & it would probably be magnified if with a therapist, someone who is supposed to do no harm & have our best interests & well being at heart...

That really makes me sick that people would do this, but bad apples exist in every profession & kudos to you all for standing up to them & NOT staying silent & reporting them! Silence is the ammunition of an abuser, it's what allows them to keep going & doing what they do & for you all to stand up to this person & let your voice be heard, that's amazing & even though you didn't get what you necessarily wanted, it's still a very powerful message to them that there ARE consequences to their behavior & they WILL be held accountable, in some way or another, for their wrongdoings!