[Petra5ed]

The other week my therapist said something and I almost said back "marry me?" But I didn't, mostly because I'm married and it would have been a crazy comment. When I saw him recently I thought again to ask him to marry me. Now I want to ask him via text, which I know is absurd. Just wondering if anyone else has said crazy absurd things in therapy.

[archipelago]

I asked my therapies for a picture of himself in his hippie years, never thinking it would be taken as a real request. At a particular moment when it was quite meaningful, he produced such a picture. It was a special meeting on a Saturday, where he also appeared in torn jeans instead of his usual doctor professional outfits. He told me simply that he was making good on some promises and underplayed it. He looked exactly how I imagined and imagine when I have dream or something. I see him in his youthful self, which is felt in the room and so is part of what I notice.

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by archipelago

I asked my therapies for a picture of himself in his hippie years, never thinking it would be taken as a real request. At a particular moment when it was quite meaningful, he produced such a picture. It was a special meeting on a Saturday, where he also appeared in torn jeans instead of his usual doctor professional outfits. He told me simply that he was making good on some promises and underplayed it. He looked exactly how I imagined and imagine when I have dream or something. I see him in his youthful self, which is felt in the room and so is part of what I notice.

I've often wanted to ask mine for pictures. As it stands I have a few of him on my phone, all stolen from the internet, and like a total weirdo I stare at them when I'm feeling panicky or very needy. So embarrassing. But after I started doing this I actually read somewhere that seeing the face of someone you trust can release some kind of chemicals to calm you down, and it really does work for me. Just one more thing I do fairly often and talk about almost never.

[archipelago]

There is a chemical called oxcytocin that may be what you are talking about. My therapist makes voice recordings of particular ways to achieve relaxation or soothing. He thinks it is okay to use them just to hear his voice as well as for the purpose. Though he has never said anything about his picture, I think he would not see this as what a "total weirdo" would do, but rather a way to promote self-soothing and a reminder that someone is trustworthy.

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

I've often wanted to ask mine for pictures. As it stands I have a few of him on my phone, all stolen from the internet, and like a total weirdo I stare at them when I'm feeling panicky or very needy. So embarrassing. But after I started doing this I actually read somewhere that seeing the face of someone you trust can release some kind of chemicals to calm you down, and it really does work for me. Just one more thing I do fairly often and talk about almost never.

I do that too - I have both of the pics my t has used as her profile pics online, saved on my computer. When I miss her a lot, I stare at my favorite of the two. Sometimes when I'm trying to get my mind into doing my therapy homework, I look at one of them and that helps then too. It's a rare week indeed that I don't pull up one of them at least once. So if you're weird, then so am I!

[Inner_Firefly]

What a fun topic. I also listen to T's voice over and over, stare at her photos on my phone and computer, and have asked her to marry me many times but she always says no.

[RedSun]

Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly

What a fun topic. I also listen to T's voice over and over, stare at her photos on my phone and computer, and have asked her to marry me many times but she always says no.

Really?you actually asked her to marry you?
Wow, that's so brave.

[scorpiosis37]

one time when I was driving to therapy, my bra strap randomly broke. Luckily, my T's office is a few doors down from Victoria's Secret so I bought a new bra. I changed in T's bathroom, but then realized the tag was still on and poking me. I asked T for scissors, thinking she would just hand them to me, but she ended up lifting up my shirt (in the back) and cutting the tag off for me. Another time, I asked her to look at my surgery scars after I had 2 ovarian cysts removed. I was thinking of getting a laser scar removal treatment, but ultimately decided against it.

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

one time when I was driving to therapy, my bra strap randomly broke. Luckily, my T's office is a few doors down from Victoria's Secret so I bought a new bra. I changed in T's bathroom, but then realized the tag was still on and poking me. I asked T for scissors, thinking she would just hand them to me, but she ended up lifting up my shirt (in the back) and cutting the tag off for me. Another time, I asked her to look at my surgery scars after I had 2 ovarian cysts removed. I was thinking of getting a laser scar removal treatment, but ultimately decided against it.

Wow, you are so open with your T! how was it like to have her cut your tag? This sounds like something a sister/mom would do....Your T sounds very caring to help cut the tag and look at your scar. I am so envious...I don't think my T would ever touch me and she may think it's too sexy to show her my bra.

Originally Posted by Red75

Really?you actually asked her to marry you?
Wow, that's so brave.

Thanks, I just blurt it out in moments when I feel I wish I could keep her in my life forever like family, and be closer to her!

[Jordy]

I wish I could ask T for a picture of her as I can't find any on the web. I'm pretty sure she would agree, but I don't want to appear this needy or vulnerable.
When I miss her I sometimes look on the other T's, who shares her office, website as it has pictures of T office. I think she knows this as one day she said something like that T didn't want her on the website and I blurted out: Yeah, I know.
She didn't react to it, like she expected this kind of answer...

[stopdog]

I told her I believed her over something she promised (and she asked if I would allow myself to be comforted by her promise). Which was a ridiculous thing to do and within months she failed to keep it.

[scorpiosis37]

Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly

Wow, you are so open with your T! how was it like to have her cut your tag? This sounds like something a sister/mom would do....Your T sounds very caring to help cut the tag and look at your scar. I am so envious...I don't think my T would ever touch me and she may think it's too sexy to show her my bra.

It was fine. It did feel like something a mom would do. We have somewhat of a "maternal" relationship. Since there is no attraction on either side, it definitely did not feel sexy. It was much more practical. I'm used to changing in locker rooms around other women, so I don't feel particularly modest about my body. I wanted to ask for an objective opinion about whether or not to try removing my scar, and she felt like a safe person to ask. I feel pretty comfortable-- emotionally and physically-- with my T. She has never shown me any part of her body, but she has told me that she has scars & stretch marks from her pregnancies, so she can relate to the way I feel about my surgery scars. I like when she relates in that way.

Originally Posted by stopdog

I told her I believed her over something she promised (and she asked if I would allow myself to be comforted by her promise). Which was a ridiculous thing to do and within months she failed to keep it.

That is lousy that she broke a promise - did she give an explaination?

[Achy Turtle Armor]

I asked for a sip of his water. 😕

I also asked him to look at a cut I was worried about. I mean he is a nurse so he would know more than me. He obliged.

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

That is lousy that she broke a promise - did she give an explaination?

She thought time should have/had softened my stance on the situation.
It was still ridiculous for me to have told her I believed her.

[junkDNA]

when i wasnt well i accused him of drugging me. he would never do that and i know that now but i wasnt in reality at that time and truly believed he had drugged me. now when i think about it its ridiculous. also i met T in a residential program and i was convinced that it was a cult for the whole summer of 2012. like i sent him many emails about it and i thought he didtn know he was involved in a cult and i was trying to get him to see it. he brought that up recently and we laughed about it. my delusions are stupid and silly

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

The other week my therapist said something and I almost said back "marry me?" But I didn't, mostly because I'm married and it would have been a crazy comment. When I saw him recently I thought again to ask him to marry me. Now I want to ask him via text, which I know is absurd. Just wondering if anyone else has said crazy absurd things in therapy.

I also said something even more absurd about marriage to my T. I said, and this was a few years ago, "I feel like we're married". I may have said more, but I totally blocked it out. I don't know why I said something so stupid! I do not feel like we're married at all!!

I've told her a lot of things I'm ashamed of, but they aren't absurd.

I told t that the school she teaches at and convinced me to join was a cult... she laughed, half a year later and it still feels like a cult. It's quite scary as everyone is connected and people I have never met know me. We live together too, it's a residential programme and it feels so weird living with trainee therapists.

[magicalprince]

I guess asking her to call me to say goodnight

[Achy Turtle Armor]

The one above reminds me that I also suggested that he call me weekly just to say hello and check on me. I didn't think he'd agree to it as he wants me to be more independent. He sorta just smiled at the suggestion.

When I was well I asked him to come visit me at work and he did.

I asked my t what size shoes did he take. It was a distraction strategy. I try to ask one random question of him every session. Lol. It's become competitive for me now. I've got him to swear too. I love my t.

Originally Posted by JoBo

I asked my t what size shoes did he take. It was a distraction strategy. I try to ask one random question of him every session. Lol. It's become competitive for me now. I've got him to swear too. I love my t.

I like the random questions and especially getting him to swear. Sounds good relationship building.

[magicalprince]

Originally Posted by Achy Turtle Armor

The one above reminds me that I also suggested that he call me weekly just to say hello and check on me. I didn't think he'd agree to it as he wants me to be more independent. He sorta just smiled at the suggestion.

When I was well I asked him to come visit me at work and he did.

Yay!! :B

I think those small gestures are lovely.

[Achy Turtle Armor]

Originally Posted by JoBo

I asked my t what size shoes did he take. It was a distraction strategy. I try to ask one random question of him every session. Lol. It's become competitive for me now. I've got him to swear too. I love my t.

I want to ask my T how tall he is because he must be over 6 feet. I'm thinking 6'3" but I don't know. I'm only 5'1" tall. Of course then I start thinking about penis size and that's not healthy for my brain.

As far as swearing goes, we both let it fly.

[musial]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

I like the random questions and especially getting him to swear. Sounds good relationship building.

The first time my T swore, I was shocked!! But I loved it.
I have to try to ask him something ridiculous, because I can't think of anything to share right now...