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I am so f***ing impulsive.
Last week it was SI. The week before it was eating tons of junk food. Been driving way too fast in between. If there was ever a time to crack down and save money, it's now. My husband and I just bought a house, and I start my internship next month. That means I'm only going to be working my real job 3 days per week. Big pay cut. So what did I do last night? Blew $150 on clothes in like a half hour. Didn't check prices. Didn't add up the purchases in my head. Just kept collecting more stuff. Then today I found out about a concert that I really, really want to go to. One of my favorite musicians. Without so much as a thought, I ordered 2 tickets. $130. This would normally be fine because it's Morrissey-- one of my favorite musicians, never got to see him live. But the problem is, if you add up the 2 things, I just spent almost $300 in 2 days. If I didn't blow the $150 last night, it wouldn't be a big deal. Seeing T in 1 hr and 15 minutes. I feel like I really need to see his face right now. ![]() |
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I love going to hear music. So I think the tickets are worth it. Going to hear our favorite bands is something we remember many years in the future. On the other hand, the clothes? I don't know. If you don't really need them, can you take them back, now that you are having regret?
Good luck with T today. I love to read everyone's reports of their sessions. Mine is in a few hours too. I'm not tense at all. We are working so well together and productively that I just plain look forward to it because I know we will make progress. Ha, ha, famous last words...
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Don't fret too much. I spend impulsively sometimes too. Just make yourself a deal right now that you won't spend any more until X date (next 2 paychecks? next holiday? some "next" event?) and then don't worry about it any more. Unless you really want to take some of the clothing back (I know I wouldn't). Just write it off as a mistake and try to make yourself a new not-spending goal.
You've had a lot of stress lately (new house, etc.) so it's no wonder you're being impulsive. Don't be so hard on yourself!!! Sidony P.S. I just went into my co-worker's office and stared at her. I finally remembered that I wanted mints. Therapy really messes with my head for the day. ![]() |
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You too hmm?
Well, I was chewed out today by my friends. I've spent about $400 in the past 4 days or so. I'm on a student's budget, can't really afford it. Started with a digital camera (I really wanted one, and after saying goodbye to my therapist, I figured I needed a pickmeup) ... then the memory card for it, and the case. (About $275) Then a DVD and some other stuff from a music store. (About $40) THEN TODAY... 4 CDs and a book (I rationalized the book, it's a psychology self-help on being more assertive). Ack impulse shopping. Just as long as it's not all the time, you're fine. ... At least its not as destructive as SI. Be good to yourself.
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Hi Pinksoil...
You may have been impulsive, that is pretty much my middle name. The best way to get over that is to forgive it and move on. I try to run now instead of eat. I've been doing that for a year. I do sometimes still eat the wrong things but the running helps me balance that out. I will be in your shoes soon financially. I might be quitting my job and going back to school. So, I'm not making any statements at this time about spending...<giggle>
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(((((((((( Pink & Canders )))))))))
Always, always keep your receipts. That way, when you just have to buy something, you can always take it back in the next couple days when reality of the checkbook hits. I seldom buy anything extra anymore because I feel so guilty treating myself to anything, but I did when I was married and it drove my ex even crazier because I always took things back. ![]() Hugs, Jan
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Pinksoil, only look at "problems" one at a time. You can't add all the pain together, there is no collective pain of all the starving children in Africa or something, just each individual and their individual pain. Likewise, what you ate the week before last isn't germane to the pain you are feeling today.
Think of it like making your bed? I go for a long time without making my bed and feeling guilty about it. But then the morning comes and I make it and feel like I'm on top of the world; what's with that? It's just going to get unmade tonight when I sleep in it and the not-making and guilt start all over again. The bed is made for me, not me to make it! You do what you do to help you live your life. It's a stressful life at the moment! Give yourself a bit of a break. So you bought a lot of clothes at one time, perhaps you won't need any now for the rest of the year and it will even out. Don't "borrow" trouble for yourself, last week's SI was last week's adaptation. YOU are what is most important. It will get better as soon as your new routines are established.
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