Attachment issues in therapy

Brown owl - thats why one thing that binds me to my t is his philosophy degree - i feel like we have the same depressed, nihilistic outlook on life! So yeah, the art vs science conflict - right off, i can see how you would be dismissive of each other. When things get rough, what holds you together? I know that sounds like a "real" relationship, but how do you value another persons opinion about your life unless you know you value them?

That must be good to have a T who has similar views. The thing is I feel that I could enjoy the difference in our views, I honestly was not dismissive, I thought about the things she said with interest and enjoyed our difference, but she couldn't seem to do the same for me, we spent our time discussing her views not mine.

But i think thats too generous of you, and ultimately unsafe. Plus you sound like the old me. Dont you deserve to be around "your own people"? We didnt have a choice when we were growing up, but now we do. I know it sounds backwards, but i had to learn to be more closed-minded - really to stop casting my pearls before swine as they say. You dont want to invest where there will be no return. Hard lesson for me to learn.

I think that is the essence of what felt wrong for me about my therapy, it was about her insight, her analysis, her views on my life. I still question myself about this (is my analysis of my therapy really right?).