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Funerals were just an example of it. Christmas mass, passover seders, ball games in bars - any place where people, often strangers, gather to share a common experience - often ritual or ceremony or tradition.

Yeah, group identity, shared sense of self, belonging, community, whatever. Ritual to grownups is similar to a bedtime routine for kids. It makes them feel safe.

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It is the group part I don't get as a personal thing - I understand it intellectually and the theories behind it.

I know what you mean. I didn't cry over Princess Diana either.

What a sweet calico kitty! shes giving mama kissies!!!

You didnt say and i dont want to pry, but i hope t went okay last night (((healed)))

Not having had a bedtime routine other than "turn off that tv and go to bed!", now im not surprised i dont get it either.

But i was sad when lady diana passed. It took like 3 or 4 days before i woke up without feeling sad to begin the day. I still feel sad about John Kennedy Jr. I remember turning on the tv that saturday morning and saying out loud, "oh please let it be Ted" but i knew it wasnt.

OK my phone won't seem to let me quote text but stopdog, I am SO thankful I am not the only one who feels that way about public rituals. I'm from the east coast and 9/11 remembrances are a big thing...people cry and stuff...and I always feel vaguely like something is wrong with me. It was a terrible thing that happened. But I wasn't there. No one I know was there. I didn't lose anyone important to me. I don't understand where all that emotion comes from about something you were never a part of....I'm glad it's not just me

iPad is running low on charge. Too lazy to get off couch to get charger...

T went well.. He let me talk my way through all of the things that were brought up after learning what I did. I think it was one of our more quiet sessions, lots of silent breaks, etc. It worked well.

I do think though, I am kind of pushing my feelings down still. Kinda feel separated from the whole thing at this point.

(((Healed))) Go easy on yourself. It'll take time

Does anyone know why Sofia the First sounds like a chipmunk?

I don't get group bonding. One thing nobody mentioned yet which I really don't understand is group bonding over professional sports. Not necessarily the sport itself; watching baseball can be fun, but: taking partial credit when one's local team wins, the idea of a sports team bringing an area together, the whole idea that people have to be brought together because they live in proximity to each other in the first place. Just weird.

Isn't that what patriotism is and what wars are fought because of? People bonding together because of where they were born?

That's the downside of it. The upside is the ability to work together to create advanced civilizations.

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And create better ways of killing and maiming because of an odd sense of belonging because of where one was born.

How'd your thit kho turn out Stopdog?

It was very good. Now that you are in your own place again- are you an experimental cooker?

I like to cook alright but I don't get much opportunity to experiment. I'm pretty good at Vietnamese though because the stbx was pickier than a child and would only eat the kind of things that mama used to serve

Are advanced civilizations really an upside? From the POV of any of the countless species that are going extinct?

Yes, and I have always found patriotism, at best, absurd.

Sitting on the couch looking at the forecast for this week.. 60s and and 70s and sunshine for a lot of those days. It is looking my afternoons at school will be spent on the playground with my students!! They are so eager to get out and run around!!! I am so excited to get outside again in warm weather.

Smoking some pastrami today. I am going to try smoking it and then steaming/pressure cooking it. First time for that combo.

The countless species that are going extinct don't have the thinking capacity to have a point of view. So this is really another of our problems.

Of course there are pros and cons to large thinking brains too. If we didn't have 'em there'd be no need for therapy, because we wouldn't have the capacity to think ourselves into such ruts. But then again, we'd have gone extinct millennia ago, because without our brain we wouldn't stand a chance against the competition and other animals don't have our ability to both care and do something about it.

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I eventually got up after talking things through with someone. Then took the day to go do things by myself.

As your weather improves, ours deteriorates. Soon it'll be too hot to play outside here

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